Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

In one of the last recordings you said something like:The truth of us…Before the layers of conditioned separation…Before that just life in a form -  intelligence just doing what made sense. So much science is now showing how trauma begins often times before birth. A fetus is taking in so much from the host/mother – all her fears, traumas, etc.  This can even change the DNA and start the process of potential disease that will manifest years later. So, are your initial statements true? If so, when were “we” just intelligence doing what made sense? If trauma, fears, etc were already informing the body/mind system and already stored in the tissues/cells, then was there ever “ just life in a form and intelligence just doing what made sense?”

Wow, I’ve just listened to the shame part of life cycles and to one of the 1-1 recordings on this. This is it, this is everything that has dominated my life, my whole life. I carried shame from a very early age, I cannot remember a time without it.  Shame is all encompassing, every area of my life. The decisions I’ve made/make have been driven by shame. Withdrawal, isolation, working so hard to create the self-image that will hide my shame at all costs. I just feel wrong. The wrong body, the wrong background, the wrong accent, the wrong mother, the wrong partner, the wrong coach. A failure. At 57yrs I have stopped trying to force myself into things. Stopped trying to have a coaching business, due to failures etc.  My desire to heal myself has been longstanding and many qualifications and explorations have really helped. My coaching is both my superpower and my worst nightmare and I give up as the clients do not come. I feel shame. I have a core belief that I can only ever rely on me. I cannot trust others to see me. But at the same time feel guilt and shame for some of the decisions I have made. I am not good enough.When I first started listening to your programs I was intrigued by the non-doer. The way you describe the separation and pain of shame as so removed from reality of who we are is starting to shine a light. As I really have always felt separate, even with the 3P’s understanding, it hasn’t completely dissipated. So, I’m keen to see more. Can you point me to more on your explanation of the non-doer within the membership that I could look at please? Also I have ordered your books, Home and Real, so maybe in there. I haven’t attended the webinars live and I realise now that too is about shame!  I have also noticed where my resistance comes up when I listening to the courses. Something is moving …..

When you see that your problem isn’t realistic, but brings up all kinds of kind created insecurity. How do you get to a place of knowing what ‘the child’ needs? For example, I’m unsure if my job is a good fit. Changing careers brings up feelings of anxiety and insecurity and I try to distract myself. I don’t really get the concept of inner child work. Can someone point me in the right direction?

I have a question for your podcast but not sure of the exact question- it’s something like…The personal development world is filled with ideas, concepts, tools and techniques on how to change your life. To overcome money blocks, lose weight, find love, be successful in business, be visible and popular etc. I see within Personal Development there’s a mix of focussing on personal agency and also focussing on an unknown force sometimes called ‘universal laws’.I remember experiencing tremendous freedom when the realisation that the self I had thought of as me was a creation, made up and that there were infinite possibilities and a limitless nature of being to experience. So why after years and years do the same patterns continue to play out. What truly can change them or are some patterns meant to be our life experience in the same way someone born with no legs isn’t going to grow legs in this lifetime. Are some things set in stone or are all energetic patterns possible to change?What would you say is the secret to changing seemingly set in stone patterns such as never having more than just enough money or always being in intimate relationships that don’t work?

I’ve heard you mention before that when we try to ”redirect attention away from thought” or “back away from thought” that we are kind of missing the point (something like that). I Feel like I’ve been caught in that pursuit for some time now, and I feel like I’m finally seeing something. It seems that when the mind takes on that goal, it then always comes up with an image of an “I” that is failing at the goal. Like the “I” that can never stay focused on the present moment or the “I” that cannot keep its attention away from negative or terrifying thoughts. All the while the intelligence of life is just responding in real time to what is actually happening. Is that kind of what you mean? I would love to hear your thoughts here or in a podcast. much love to you!

My husband & I are separating we still see a counsellor to keep up communication. I see that I love my husband (plutonically), I see he is a good person even though we don't want to be together anymore, I feel there is good will towards him. But the counsellor says that we are still stuck in a blame cycle. I find him too sensitive, emotionally immature, prone to sudden mood changes, he takes everything I say as a criticism. He thinks I critise him, I think ultimately I lost a lot of respect for him over many things that happened over the years & there was a lot of built up anger and resentment (which I think has gone but sometimes still arises). I feel like there is no going back but I still want to see what more I can do for my own learning about myself & for future relationships.  What do you see I could learn? there is obviously judgement of him as I have stated above, how can I look further into to my part? I think we have gone past the point of no return & my feelings have fundamentally changed but I still judge who he is being a lot of the time, how he talks to my daughter, how he reacts to me, his impatience & anger blah blah blah.....

I started listening to your circles material after being introduced to it by my friend Ines. I have the membership so now slowly exploring the other content as well. Ive done years (decades) of meditation and non duality work and been in therapy my whole adult life, yet I feel like I always come back to this reality of my life right here and now. I haven’t been able to figure out exactly the circle I am in - I find myself in a repeating pattern of retraumatisation through work. Every job I take I end up being bullied, undermined and not paid  for fairly for my work as promised. It feels like betrayal, I am very good at my job but there is no recognition or reward. I feel my very survival is threatened because I grew up poor and earning money is my route to safety, self esteem and being able to take care of myself without being dependent on anyone else. I just left an abusive job in New York (was there over 5 years) and moved to London and ended up in an even more dysfunctional and abusive situation than before. Its nuts. Meanwhile I am terrified of looking for another job and I am equally DESPERATE to get out of this place I find myself in. I also find my inner creativity is dried up - for example I used to want to start a business or help the homeless but I can’t act and I feel totally stuck. I have never grown or thrived at work - I have never been successful. When the last cycle of trauma and abuse happened at work it was only 4 months after joining the company from Aug-Dec. I had high hopes for this job - searching for a feeling of engagement and enjoyment at work. It was such a shock to my system to go through the same abuse again that I felt like giving up on life. I have since regained my perspective and been able to detach but something still feels raw inside. I have spent years doing inner child work, feeling feelings facing trauma etc. yet I feel none of it helped otherwise I would not have found myself in this same job / worse abusive situation than before. I am 46 and have been working since I was 22 years old. In addition, I am recognizing from your talk that I have limited my life for safety - I don have a partner nor many friends nor a social life - I work and then scuttle home to be with my dog with whom I feel safe. I think safety is a huge theme but not sure how to deal with it. I am currently working with a counsellor with whom I feel my inner child feelings and face them every two weeks or so. The rest of the time I am trying to be more conscious of triggers but instead find myself doing things like drinking half a bottle of wine or watching mindless telly but not sure what I am escaping from. I am not sure how to identify the circle I am in nor the nub of the issue. And I certainly dont know how to let go of the doer. Despite years of zen meditation and seeing and near finding the self I feel it is very much in charge.

Thank you for the Life Cycles course, so much has come to the surface.I see that Shame and Fear have been running the show all my life. Shame of not being good enough and Fear of what others will think.Coupled with this has been the huge sense of responsibility of getting everything right including agonising over making the ‘right’ decisions.I see that I’ve permanently lived in a state of fight, flight or freeze and that this has attributed to my many health issues.I currently have a health concern and see the usual patterns of behaviour playing out.Having suffered pain in the body in the past I find myself unwilling to ‘go into the body to feel the sensations’ as you would suggest. So I feel stuck.My question is, where do I go from here? 

I went back to listen once again the shame part from our wonderful life circles course.As within this circle the identification with the self as a doer and chooser is really at the highest level.Holding the grip firmly with feeling enormous responsibility for my own words, actions and behaviours.I see it as a self feeding/maintaining circle as when it's set it goes round and round by itself.Until there is an inquiry of who we truly are. Being in this conversation seeing more and more that there isn't ''mini me'' inside my head orchestrating my life. Then shame loosens its grip. More source accountability/ no self accountability is present, more fresh and new information can enter the system and the system can self correct or self align with the truth.So to conclude this long writing with the question. Is the system already designed as an innate auto corrective system? And the only partybreaker here is the confusion and identification with the self as doer, chooser ?

A question about insight. It's often heralded as the "all that's needed" and sort of a reward for good behaviour in the form of a quiet mind. (3ps. And yet it seems to me to be one facet of healing.  Almost as though as layers of thought are lifted from reality we may arrive at some insight which is more like "seeing eeper into truth". Would you speak of nsight and healing please? Perhaps you have a podcast on this already?