Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

I heard Clare say that the self is the experience in the moment. So any idea of self can come up at anytime.I struggle to see the concept of no self. Is there anyone who can help me see more about this?I’ve listened to Safe and part of Home and it’s as though I just don’t understand the language around no self.I also don’t get how to relate to any thoughts that start with ‘I’. How to tell if it’s coming from your true self or the co conditioned self.

A brief summary of this episode

Lately, I’ve noticed that when I have a pain or a discomfort in my body, my instant reaction is “Oh my God!  You’re going to die,” and then I incessantly search the Internet to find every possible cause of my bodily sensation.  And as is typical, I get really overwhelmed, I can’t face the overwhelm so I lie down and just let it pass, and it typically does. When I saw this particular subliminal I thought it might help with all this.  And don’t get me wrong Clare, I feel humbled and grateful just to be alive.  I feel like a walking miracle.  Overall, I’ve never felt so resilient and so connected with my true nature.  And sure, there’s a part of me that was hoping the subliminal would fix this aspect of me OR at least help.  Clearly there is still a part of my brain that is overreacting to and sensitive to odd bodily sensations. So I guess my question is, “Do you think the subliminal can help with this?”

I have signed up for your membership programme and am finding it very insightful.I feel like I get it more and more, having those 'i see of course thats whats going on in truth' but still every day is some form of torture - anxiety, shame, trigger after trigger after trigger.I have seen a repeating pattern in my life struggle to find some peace and knew that the one constant fact in that was me, as I take myself with me for safe keeping everywhere I go. I knew the problem wasn't out there.The life circles course feels like it was written for me about me,  almost as soon as I would have a thought about what's going g on in me, you would then say that exact thing or feeling. Spooky really.Intellectual understanding doesn't result freedom, its a start I know, but whatever source of healing I have tried  I always end up with the feeling that the self is just using it as another means of escape from its suffering which enlightens noone.I was particularly impacted by the reference in this course to the triggers are from conditioned response to past trauma and it was such a relief to hear those words because it was a hell yes moment. You went on to say we  need to parent and heal this traumatised child which sounds right. My question  is who is doing  the parenting or healing, if there is no healer or parenter why isn't healing or parenting just happening following that insight.  

The circles are great! So much amazing insights. I do not want to feel abandoned so I go into relationships (just to have one with whoever shows a bit of interest in me) which make me even feel more abandoned (because it is more important to be in a relationship for me to feel secure than to really feel close and connected to that man). And at the same time while being in that relationship  I neglect my long time friends because it is all about the boyfriend suddenly which makes me feel abandoned now by them. And I abandon myself because I do everything the boyfriend wants. It is really mind-blowing! 

You refer toparentimng the child.  For years,  I have used inner child healing  in hypnotherapy with my clients. I also use parts therapy to facilitate understanding, acceptance and integration of problem behaviours (parts)  into the whole, Havening to offer comfort and reassure as difficult or traumatic situations are considered, EMDR to release unprocessed trauma, EFT and matrix reimprinting and mindfulness to turn towards the sensations and thoughts that create difficulty from a place of observation. Are these all legitimate healing methods and how does their emphasis change if used in a non-dual context? I can see without guidance how easy it would be to revert to the old conditioned appearance  of a separate me being healed within a world of separate others and a separate world just because of the normal context within which all these healing techniques are traditionally employed.  Any further light you can shed here would be so helpful, Clare.  Thank you so much 

I see there is no chooser and obviously accountability is vital. There’s still a gap between them – who is being accountable, how can I be more accountable if I can’t even choose to be, etc. I would appreciate you saying more about how the no chooser and accountability sit together and any examples from your experience.

I was listening to your podcast about subliminal (a listener wanting a refund because it seems not working). You said that it is always working but it might be that the topic is already obvious and therefore it seems not to work or it is too challenging for the system. I get that but my brain is now wondering, if a subliminal is working which is so subtle and I do not even know what is spoken, what about the music I listen to all day (the cheasy pop songs) at home while working. Do they also influence my system? There are not something I choose but the usual pop songs the radio is playing, so they are all about not having love, loosing love, wanting love, longing for somebody one cannot have anymore, etc. What are your thoughts about that? Is it because the subliminals are unconscious that they go deep and the pop songs don’t? Or do they, and that is why I am always in that longing?

1. You talked yesterday (and often) about ‘bodywork’ as a way to allow the body to truly feel feelings. What is bodywork? Can you give us some examples and why you recommend?2. I hear you talk about the absolute, the relative and the illusory. Can you remind me what these terms mean? I have it in my head that the absolute is the infinite/mind. The illusory is our constantly changing experience of form via the medium of thought. But then there this in-betweeny thing of the relative that is neither and the body, I’ve heard you say, sits in that category, and the body you talk of as ‘real’. I’m not sure why the body doesn’t also fall under the category of the illusory and gets its own category as it is also form. Confused…-- 

My fiancée broke up with me last month because he felt he was too young to settle down. I was and still am devastated. I think of him all the time and would do anything to get back with him. At the same time I hate him for what he has done to me. He is very clear that we won’t get back together but he wants us to be friends. He says if I really loved him I would still want to see and speak and spend time with him. I can’t imagine just being friends with him and especially not being out in a bar with him when he is with someone else say. I wanted him to be my husband. Should I be friends with him? Or should I cut him out of my life?