I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED. ****OBVIOUSLY, the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
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Apr 9, 2026 • 15min
393 BITESIZE | PDA in Adults: Why You Resist Even Your Own Plans
A concise look at pathological demand avoidance in adults and how family experiences can reveal it later in life. Discussion of nervous-system framing that reframes resistance as regulation. Exploration of why self-made plans feel threatening and how perceived loss of autonomy triggers retraction. Practical accommodations like body-doubling, sensory strategies, and calendar hacks to create safety and scheduling windows.
4 snips
Apr 7, 2026 • 40min
392 The Weekend Trap: Why Free Time Sends ADHD Brains into a Spiral
They unpack why unstructured weekends trigger excitement followed by paralysis, guilt, or shutdown. Practical topics include how consistent medication and basic routines protect weekend functioning. Hear strategies like a dopamine menu, one restful plan, Sunday reset rituals, and simple checklists to keep free time restorative rather than chaotic.
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Apr 3, 2026 • 1h 25min
Why ADHD Adults Feel “In Trouble” in Relationships (And How to Feel Secure)
Conversation centers on why relationships trigger feeling 'in trouble' for ADHD adults. Topics include hypervigilance, replaying conversations, and people-pleasing. Childhood safety and attachment shaping adult relational patterns are explored. Practical tools for pausing, naming body sensations, checking actual safety, and deciding when to repair are introduced.
Apr 2, 2026 • 13min
391 BITESIZE | Is My Child Trying To Manipulate Me or Do They Have PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance)?
Casey Ehrlich, a parenting and PDA expert who uses nervous-system-based approaches, joins to explore PDA as a survival-driven need for autonomy. She discusses how PDA can look like avoidance of eating, sleep, hygiene, toileting, and safety. Short clips cover polyvagal framing, why strict parenting can backfire, and when caregiving replaces traditional parenting.
10 snips
Mar 31, 2026 • 1h 11min
390 Two Steps Forward, Three Steps Back (Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging and How to Finally Stop)
A deep dive into why people with ADHD repeatedly get in their own way and return to familiar patterns. They explore how identity and set points like money, time, and weight drive sabotage. The conversation covers cognitive dissonance, why failure can feel safer than success, and practical scripts to ride discomfort instead of reverting. Listeners are invited to name core beliefs and practice new identity statements.
8 snips
Mar 26, 2026 • 14min
389 BITESIZE | Self-Trust in the Workplace: Finding the Right Environment for Your ADHD Brain
A candid chat about finding and shaping a workplace that actually fits an ADHD brain. Stories of serendipitous job changes and the relief of a boss who understands. Practical takes on asking for help, stopping masking, and learning to trust your decisions. Notes on coaching that builds confidence and improves family and work relationships.
17 snips
Mar 24, 2026 • 45min
388 Money. Let’s Finally Deal With It.
A guided money session that tackles why financial tasks trigger avoidance for ADHD brains. Listeners explore shame, money blindness, and making accounts feel tangible. Practical moves include daily check-ins, body doubling, finding subscription leaks, automating bills, and ADHD-friendly budgeting tools. The tone mixes nervous system regulation with gentle, doable steps to engage with finances.
Mar 19, 2026 • 12min
387 BITESIZE | 2 Types of ADHD Boredom (And Why One Feels Like Panic)
They break down two distinct types of boredom: apathetic and agitated, and link them to different ADHD presentations. The conversation explores how boredom can feel like trapped panic in everyday life, at home and work. They map the optimal stimulation zone and talk about jobs, deadlines, and tasks that actually engage ADHD brains.
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Mar 17, 2026 • 46min
386 A Very ADHD Episode: Deep Feelings and Random Reels
They revisit ARFID and a listener’s moving food-avoidance story. Personal voicemails spark conversations about repairing parenting harm and managing accumulating emotional “doom piles.” Practical repair steps and therapy options come up. The show ends with a lighthearted watch of hilarious ADHD reels that capture procrastination, hyperfocus, and chaotic relatability.
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Mar 12, 2026 • 13min
385 BITESIZE | ADHD & Self-Trust: Stop Using Growth Tools Against Yourself
A short clip on early ADHD diagnosis and school experiences. They talk about motherhood prompting deeper ADHD learning and the burnout that followed. The conversation covers designing ADHD-friendly systems, rejecting one-size-fits-all solutions, and starting small with daily anchors and manageable tasks.
