I Have ADHD Podcast

Today’s episode is pure joy.I’m hanging out with old friends of the podcast Cate Osborn and Erik Gude, two of the most creative, thoughtful, and FUN voices in the ADHD world. And this conversation goes everywhere in the best possible way.Cate is a certified sex educator (yes, we go there) whose work has appeared in The New York Times and Cosmopolitan, and you probably know her from Sorry I Missed This on Understood. Erik is her co-host on Catie and Erik’s Infinite Quest: An ADHD Adventure and the brilliant mind behind the viral ADHD Crafting Challenge on TikTok.Together, they wrote The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, a smart, hilarious, deeply validating, actually-accessible guide that fills the massive info gap so many of us experience after diagnosis.And friends… this conversation is a ride.We talk about:🔥 What ADHDers are struggling with right now🔥 The loudest themes in their DMs🔥 ADHD internet culture — what’s helping and what’s… not🔥 Self-diagnosis, identity, and taking responsibility without self-blame🔥 Relationships, intimacy, and rejection sensitivityThere is so much laughter. So many “OH MY GOSH YES” moments. And the core message that comes through again and again:You are not broken. You are not lazy. You are not a f*ckup.This episode feels like sitting at the cool ADHD table with people who get it.The ADHD Field Guide for AdultsCate Osborn on TikTokErik Gude on TikTokWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A newly diagnosed 46-year-old reflects on missed opportunities and long-held regret. The conversation validates grief tied to late diagnosis and lists common life losses. Practical ways to honor grief are suggested, from crying to movement. Grief is framed as a pathway to repair relationships and do the deep work needed to move forward.

A deep look at ARFID and how it differs from picky eating. Exploration of sensory sensitivities, low appetite, and anxiety as drivers. Discussion of why clinicians often miss it and how limited diets affect health and social life. Overview of treatment approaches including multidisciplinary care and exposure-based therapy.

A lively clip about building inner safety and learning to trust your own decisions. They talk about taking one sensible step at a time to create momentum instead of reacting. The conversation covers misusing growth tools to avoid change and letting financial worry overshadow other values. There is also a discussion about processing emotions becoming a way to avoid action.

They unpack a fear-heavy news reel about ADHD medication and critique sensational 'drug cascade' claims. Research on earlier perimenopause in people with ADHD is explored. Practical voicemails cover meeting tactics, rejection sensitivity, and trusting systems. Discussions include comorbidities, preschool care pressures, family-centered therapy, and how to read headlines with nuance.

A pharmacist dismisses ADHD and sparks a heated voicemail reaction. Strategies are offered for calm, assertive replies to ignorant comments. Quick phrasing examples show how to redirect the conversation and hold others accountable. The segment encourages preparing responses and refusing to explain or justify your experience.

A deep look at overwhelm that feels like shutdown, explaining when your brain floods and freezes instead of acting. Stories and calls highlight workplace slips, teen struggles, and how childhood patterns create freeze responses. Practical, gentle strategies are offered for thawing: tiny starts, safe movement, borrowing someone else’s brain, reducing decisions, and using self‑compassion. Guidance on when to seek trauma‑informed support is included.

A quick look at how working memory and inner speech shape staying on task. Exploration of why visualizing time and sequencing tasks feels unreliable. A dive into impulsivity, inhibition, and dopamine’s role in motivation. A take on how emotions steer time choices and priorities.

A roadmap of what truly makes families functional, with ten practical signs to aim for. Short, real-world examples of direct communication, emotional attunement, and repair after conflict. Clear boundaries, age-appropriate roles, and reliable care get explained without perfectionism. Emphasis on safety, consent, accountability, and small, shame-free changes that interrupt generational patterns.

Common myths about ADHD medication are challenged with straight talk about dosing, presence, and personality. The clip covers when numbness means a dose change is needed and why meds often make people more themselves. It separates prescribed use from misuse and explains addiction risk and evidence that treatment can lower later substance problems. New research on pregnancy and medication safety is also discussed.