Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Episodes
Mentioned books
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May 12, 2026 • 26min
How to Truly Connect When You Correct
A parent asks about limits that feel shaming and differing approaches between caregivers. The conversation explores why children act out more with one parent and how being seen changes behavior. Practical phrases and small compassionate tweaks are offered for connecting before, during, and after correction. The focus is on recognizing impulses and aligning responses without undermining each other.
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May 5, 2026 • 33min
How to Survive an Upset Child
They dig into why trying to stop a meltdown can make things worse and how parental triggers shape reactions. The conversation covers steadying techniques like mantras and visualizations to co-regulate with a child. Practical tips include holding firm boundaries while allowing big feelings and why distraction can undermine trust. The focus is on staying calm, separating your history from your child’s emotions, and minimal, respectful responses.
Apr 28, 2026 • 24min
We Can't Make Them Share
A parent describes a deceptively simple disagreement with her father about her 2.5-year-old son's unwillingness to share a bowl of blueberries. This mom doesn't believe a child will develop a generous spirit or other positive character traits by being coerced, but her father's more authoritarian view differs. Janet points out the nuances of the situation, which touch on big questions about sharing, boundaries, and raising kids who genuinely want to be kind.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com and JanetLansbury.com.
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Apr 21, 2026 • 27min
3 Reasons Your Toddler Rejects You for Their Other Parent
A parent describes the sting of a toddler favoring the other parent. Janet explains three surprising reasons behind parent preference: a normal bonding phase, how parental emotional reactions fuel it, and how the preferred parent’s giving in reinforces it. Practical scripts and boundary strategies are offered, plus reassurance that the phase will pass and self-forgiveness matters.
Apr 14, 2026 • 22min
Setting Boundaries Without Power Struggles
A parent describes a five-year-old provoking a toddler and the family’s tense interventions. The conversation explores why a child acts out when a new sibling is coming and how past transitions resurface. Practical ideas cover naming feelings, offering calm empathy, and removing dangerous items quickly to avoid escalation and power struggles.
Apr 7, 2026 • 28min
My Child Is So Mean to Me
A parent worries her strong-willed four-year-old is being deliberately hurtful. The conversation contrasts quick judgment with a deeper, empathetic lens. Reasons behind lashing out are explored, including fear, sensitivity, and attention-seeking. Practical approaches are offered: firm empathy, proactive limits, and ways to redirect hurtful behavior while staying calm.
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Mar 31, 2026 • 30min
Navigating the Playground with a Child Who Seems Too Physical, Bossy, Huggy, or Shy
Practical strategies for staying close and observing on the playground without overreacting. Clear tips on calmly protecting kids from physical hits and coaching bossy behavior through private, respectful guidance. Ways to teach consent to overly huggy children and gentle approaches to support shy or passive youngsters. Short, neutral debriefing techniques to help kids process social moments.
Mar 24, 2026 • 29min
It's Never About the Watermelon: What's Really Behind Your Child's Behavior (And What Actually Helps)
A conversation about why toddler meltdowns are rarely about small triggers and what feelings lie beneath picky demands. Short, practical ideas on accepting intense emotions instead of immediately fixing behavior. Tips for setting clear, compassionate limits while keeping the child feeling seen and safe. Advice on navigating big family changes and emotional buildup from childcare.
Mar 17, 2026 • 28min
How Forcing Kids to Do Stuff Backfires (And What to Do Instead)
A parenting conflict over toothbrushing turns into a discussion about boundaries, cooperation, and power. The conversation contrasts things parents can stop with emotional expressions they cannot control. Practical relationship-centered tactics are offered: modeling, offering choices, slowing down, and waiting for readiness to build long-term routines.
Mar 10, 2026 • 29min
The Joy of a Self-Entertained Toddler (Yes, It's Possible!)
A parent’s journey to a toddler who happily plays alone sparks practical tips on routines, boundaries, and short check-ins. The conversation explores temperament, separation dynamics, and keeping departures honest. There is a focus on designing a safe play space and carving out caregiver self-care windows.
