Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved
Episodes
Mentioned books
Mar 24, 2026 • 29min
It's Never About the Watermelon: What's Really Behind Your Child's Behavior (And What Actually Helps)
A conversation about why toddler meltdowns are rarely about small triggers and what feelings lie beneath picky demands. Short, practical ideas on accepting intense emotions instead of immediately fixing behavior. Tips for setting clear, compassionate limits while keeping the child feeling seen and safe. Advice on navigating big family changes and emotional buildup from childcare.
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Mar 17, 2026 • 28min
How Forcing Kids to Do Stuff Backfires (And What to Do Instead)
A parenting conflict over toothbrushing turns into a discussion about boundaries, cooperation, and power. The conversation contrasts things parents can stop with emotional expressions they cannot control. Practical relationship-centered tactics are offered: modeling, offering choices, slowing down, and waiting for readiness to build long-term routines.
Mar 10, 2026 • 29min
The Joy of a Self-Entertained Toddler (Yes, It's Possible!)
A parent’s journey to a toddler who happily plays alone sparks practical tips on routines, boundaries, and short check-ins. The conversation explores temperament, separation dynamics, and keeping departures honest. There is a focus on designing a safe play space and carving out caregiver self-care windows.
Mar 3, 2026 • 40min
Why Parents Need RIE (with Melani Ladygo)
Melani Ladygo, Executive Director of RIE who teaches parent-infant and toddler classes, explains the respectful, reciprocal approach to babies and toddlers. They define RIE and share moments that shifted how adults see infants as capable persons. Conversations cover trusting children, staying calm instead of reacting, neutral conflict guidance, and bringing RIE practices into everyday settings.
Feb 24, 2026 • 24min
Finding Your Voice for Setting Limits
A parent questions using if/then ultimatums when setting limits and wants kinder language. The conversation contrasts behaviorist threat-based phrasing with respectful, relationship-centered boundaries. Practical alternatives are offered like I-statements, polite clarity, and imagining the desired response. Short phrasing examples and follow-through tips help maintain calm confidence while setting limits.
Feb 17, 2026 • 24min
Disturbing Things Kids Bring Home From School
A parent worries after her five-year-old starts using troubling words and behaviors learned at school. The conversation explores why children copy peers and how imitation is part of learning. Practical scripts and calm, curious responses are offered to reduce reactions and preserve the parent-child connection. Reassurance and resources for navigating this stage are shared.
Feb 10, 2026 • 36min
Demands, Wild Behavior, and Parent Guilt
Parents wrestle with setting clear boundaries versus quick-fix advice. The conversation tackles disruptive preschool behavior and how structure and honest check-ins build trust. There is also a candid look at parenting while grieving and using age-appropriate honesty to repair connection. Practical tips on routines, cozy spaces, and consistent limits are highlighted.
Feb 3, 2026 • 49min
Becoming Untriggered (with Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn)
Andrew Lynn, a trauma-informed coach for men focusing on nervous system regulation and emotion release, and Lavinia Brown, a coach helping mothers reparent their inner child and set practical goals, talk about identifying triggers and healing childhood wounds. They discuss recognizing trauma signs, body-based emotional release, structured coaching timelines, and practical reparenting tools for calmer parenting.
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Jan 27, 2026 • 26min
Raising Can-Do Kids
A look at a viral toddler video sparks a conversation about letting children struggle to build agency and resilience. The host shares a four-step response sequence to encourage perseverance without taking over. Practical tips cover waiting, offering emotional presence, brief direction, and minimal help as kids work through frustration.
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Jan 20, 2026 • 30min
Separation Anxiety, Meltdowns... The Solution Is Often in Our Face
Discussing the intertwining emotions of parents and children, the host highlights how fear can amplify a child's anxiety. She explores separation anxiety, emphasizing that it's a natural phase of development. By encouraging emotional expression, children can build confidence. Instead of preventing meltdowns, observing and allowing feelings can aid in processing emotions. The importance of parental self-care is stressed, as it helps avoid reinforcing a child’s distress. Ultimately, being a calm anchor amidst emotional storms is key to effective support.
