Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled How to Survive an Upset Child
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May 5, 2026 They dig into why trying to stop a meltdown can make things worse and how parental triggers shape reactions. The conversation covers steadying techniques like mantras and visualizations to co-regulate with a child. Practical tips include holding firm boundaries while allowing big feelings and why distraction can undermine trust. The focus is on staying calm, separating your history from your child’s emotions, and minimal, respectful responses.
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Letting Feelings Be Is The Core Parenting Challenge
- Letting children feel uncomfortable emotions is the central, hardest part of parenting and underpins calm boundary-setting.
- Janet Lansbury says accepting feelings enables confident leadership and prevents parents from becoming tentative or resentful.
Investigate Your Triggers Before Reacting
- Identify and work through your emotional triggers so you don't absorb or overreact to your child's upset.
- Janet recommends self-reflection and therapy to treat triggers as personal healing opportunities rather than the child's problem.
Use Mantras And Imagery To Stay Calm
- Use mantras and imagery to steady yourself during a child's meltdown rather than trying to immediately fix them.
- Janet uses phrases like "this too shall pass" and visualizes being an anchor or the child's therapist witnessing a breakthrough.