I Wish You Knew
Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
Join the duo, Andrey Korikov, and Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist, as they cut through the noise with bold, unfiltered discussions on love, connection, and relationships.
From questions about love, psychology, and relationships to discussing the latest shifts in the culture and media, they’ll cover it all.
If you’re ready for a podcast that’s as insightful and real as it gets—buckle up and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about relationships!
From questions about love, psychology, and relationships to discussing the latest shifts in the culture and media, they’ll cover it all.
If you’re ready for a podcast that’s as insightful and real as it gets—buckle up and get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about relationships!
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Apr 3, 2026 • 1h 2min
Gabby Reece ALMOST Got a Divorce at 30... Then Did THIS | Attachment Psychology Explained
Gabby Reece, former pro volleyball star turned model, author, and podcaster, shares candid takes on feminine strength and long-term relationships. She recounts balancing sports and modeling, nearly leaving Laird at 30 and choosing repair, explains the ritual of “shiny eyes,” and offers practical ways to keep play, care, and masculine-feminine dynamics alive in partnership.
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Mar 26, 2026 • 1h 27min
The CEO and COO Model | Tom & Lisa Bilyeu and Adam Lane Smith
Lisa Bilyeu, entrepreneur and co-founder of Quest Nutrition who empowers women. Tom Bilyeu, entrepreneur and media creator focused on purpose and mindset. They unpack the CEO and COO model for marriage. They reveal the turning-point conversation that reset their relationship. They share the post-it repair system, role transitions, and how work, leadership, and legacy shape a long partnership.
Mar 20, 2026 • 1h 18min
Is He a Narcissist or Just Avoidant? | Dr. Leslie Dobson & Adam Lane Smith
Dr. Leslie Dobson, a forensic psychologist who assesses violent offenders in prisons and hospitals, helps listeners separate rare narcissistic personality disorder from avoidant behaviors. She covers coercive control, how predators scan for vulnerable partners, why small good moments deceive, the role of attachment in visibility, and practical steps like forensic journaling and rebuilding community for safety.
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Mar 18, 2026 • 1h 18min
The Science Behind Why Your Nervous System Is Destroying Your Kids (Without Knowing It)
Hunter Clark-Fields, mindful parenting expert and author of Raising Good Humans, teaches nervous-system-based parenting. Short takes: how parental agitation shapes kids, why mom guilt backfires, what ‘good enough’ actually means, practical co-parenting and repair tools, and simple habits to calm your system so kids can thrive.
Mar 6, 2026 • 47min
The Forgotten Attachment Psychology of Biblical Marriage | Jonathan Pageau & Adam Lane Smith
Jonathan Pageau, symbolic artist and Orthodox Christian thinker, offers a fresh take on biblical marriage. He explores marriage as a heavenly-witnessed covenant, reframes Christian hierarchy as self-sacrificial leadership, and explains how attachment, repair, and the feminine private sphere sustain families. Short, vivid ideas about biology, daily practices, and honoring seasonal roles round out the conversation.
Mar 4, 2026 • 1h 4min
Attachment Styles at Work: Why Avoidant Leaders Destroy Companies
Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist who created the Secure Loyalty/Bio-Loyalty framework, breaks down why dopamine-driven incentives create addiction at work. He explains the Secure Loyalty Formula and why avoidant leaders damage company bonds. Short, punchy takes on cortisol, vasopressin, real commitment, and practical ways to build lasting workplace belonging.
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Feb 21, 2026 • 1h 23min
Your Body Keeps Score When You Stop Feeling (The Attachment Style Nobody Talks About)
A deep look at lifelong dissociation and how the body stores unresolved pain. They explore quiet-disorganized attachment, autistic features, and why emotional shutdown can attract exploitative relationships. Practical themes include repairing ruptures gently, testing who is truly safe, and how repeated collaborative conversations can rewire the nervous system for more joy.
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Feb 13, 2026 • 1h 4min
Why Modern Parenting Is Creating a Mental Health Crisis (ft. Erica Komisar)
Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and parent-guidance expert who wrote Being There, argues the first three years shape lifelong emotional health. She discusses how maternal absence, changing feminist messages, and fatherlessness affect attachment and behavior. They cover fathers’ distinct roles, financial and policy barriers to caregiving, and practical ways families can rebuild early security.
Feb 7, 2026 • 1h 32min
How to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men (ft. Danica Patrick)
A candid conversation about why high-achieving women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men. They unpack a quiet disorganized attachment pattern and how success shifts relationship roles. Practical dating rituals get a spotlight, including a three-date filter and the CEO/COO model for partnership. They also explore the four levels of safety men must provide and why discomfort can signal growth.
Jan 30, 2026 • 1h 20min
Why Dating Is A Failed Concept
Patrick Coffin, Catholic broadcaster and close-up magician, explores why modern dating fails and what humans actually need. He links attachment styles to images of God, explains the biochemical roots of bonding, and traces three historic splits that weakened relationships. Expect discussion of ritual, emotional permanence, repair after conflict, and even a live magic moment.
