The Dildorks

The hosts dive into their transformative year, unpacking changes in sex, kink, and dating. They tackle mental health and self-compassion while sharing their journeys through trauma therapy and creative practices. Discover new kinks they explored, such as rough sex and foot play, alongside personal milestones in oral skills. The duo also delves into the cathartic nature of kink, highlighting emotional releases during scenes. Finally, they discuss evolving dynamics in dominance and chastity, offering a whimsical take on pleasure and growth.

They tackle holiday-themed roleplay and playful sexy Santa ideas. They debate hometown hookups and how to navigate gossip and logistics. They share ways to stay intimate across distance using voice memos, photos, and media. They talk about family pressure around dating, polyamory sadness during visits, proposals on holidays, and sex-related gifts people actually want.

They walk through ways to vet sex and kink compatibility early on using conversation techniques and storytelling. They compare texting versus in-person cues and how flirt styles reveal power dynamics. They flag red flags like vague 'down for anything' answers and recommend questions to surface reasoning, boundaries, fantasies, and enthusiasm without turning everything into sexting.

This week Kate chats with Sage Monroe, a phone sex operator and consultant, about the ups and downs of the phone sex business. Getting Into It | Professional vs. Not | Boundaries & Limits | Self-Care | Financial Domination | Hypnokink | Adult Phone Actress | Authenticity vs. Performativity | Emotional Support | Connections with Clients | Taking Notes | Disability Accommodations | Dating Another Operator | Equipment | Multi-Tasking | Continued Popularity | Personal Sex Life | Power Dynamics | Submissive Operators | “Not Real Sex Work” | Perceptiveness | Keeping It Fresh | Consulting | Suitable Traits Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since the month is almost done, this week we’re examining the practice of No Nut November and the community around it. Unfortunate Origins | Masturbation & Porn Addiction | Intentions | The Rules | Edging | Partners’ Reactions | New Desires | Risk Factors | Funkit Chess Set | The Big Nut | Kate’s Premature Ejaculation Song Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about them. Montreal Trip | Out of Practice | Predictable? | Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski | Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire | Confidence & Competence | Novelty | Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel | Independence | Feeling Bad About It | Non-Monogamy | Different Drives | Meta-Communication | Accepting a Rejection | Reassuring a Partner | Reinvigorating Your Libido | Toys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Dive into the intriguing world of Locktober, a month-long chastity challenge, with insights from a couple navigating its ups and downs. Discover the rising popularity of chastity since the pandemic and hear about the psychological effects of prolonged lockups. They delve into teasing techniques, negotiating boundaries, and the dynamics of keyholding. Learn about the pros and cons of using devices versus going deviceless, plus tips for first-timers. They also explore the Locktober community and the contrasts between it and No Nut November.

Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more. Turned On By A Costume | Haunted Houses | Mask Safety | Fetish Dreams | Horny 4 Horror | Rickety Bridge Study | Slut-Shaming | Cringey Bloops Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction! Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | Nerve Endings | Re-Reading | Is Fanfic Just Better? | Influences on Desire | Consent & Safer Sex | Ella Dawson Essay | Content Notes | Moaning & Dirty Talk Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Delve into the fascinating world of erotica and fanfiction as the hosts share their personal journeys in writing and publishing. Explore the differences between erotica and porn, uncover the nuances of fanfic culture, and learn the allure of fix-it stories. They discuss the art of crafting characters' kinks and the psychological setups that make stories sizzle. With insights on dirty talk and the appeal of supernatural tropes like the omegaverse, this conversation is both informative and tantalizing for any erotic literature enthusiast!