Sexual Addiction:Strength/Hope/Recovery

For the last ten years, Brianne, had a secret she  kept from all but a handful of people — I'm a recovering sex and love addict. When she learned to to share her secret, she has been able to change my life and, in the process, help other people to find peace in theirs. 
In March, Brianne Davis,wrote her  first article for the HuffPost; I'm A Sex And Love Addict. Here's How I Realized I Had A Problem. That came on the heels of writing her  first book on the same subject called Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict. She reports,  "That's when the idea for the Secret Life Podcast was born. By sharing my stories, my secrets, I see that I can help others to not feel so alone. It has been such a freeing experience to connect with others while trying not to take myself so damn serious!" Tonight, She will talk with Carol the Coach about her lmy journey as a sex and love addict and how I’ve used her experience to find a creative way to help other people with her writing and most importantly her podcast.

Men are not the only ones who struggle with addiction and other sexually destructive behaviors. Women struggle, too. And in recent years a growing number of women are struggling with online and sex addiction. Often it is harder for women who want help with these struggles to find it. Most resources seem to be geared towards men, so even seeking help adds a distinct type of “shame” for women who want help. Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries who, along with Kimberly Johnson have developed an online course for women who struggle with online addiction. He wants to offer several insights to women in the audience who are struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. He wants to offer hope that your story matters and we are all more alike in our brokenness than different. He wants to offer truth that you are “fearfully and wonderfully made” and eternally loved by your Creator. And he wants to talk about the concept of surrendering to your higher power or God to provide you a way out.

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Rich Badami who will be talking about how mindfulness, meditation and breathwork can calm anxiety and stress. She has an event called "Freedom From Trauma - Powerful and Profound Practices to Heal Trauma and Consciously Create the Body, Mind, Spirit You Truly Desire. Listen in as we discuss the power of thought and how it can transform trauma.

There are many helpful treatments that can alter the urges and cravings of a sex addict. Concurrently, hypnosis has been used as an adjunct therapy for the limiting belliefs that both addicts and their partners have as a result of the sexual addiction, Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Elena Mosaner MS who is a certified hypnotherapist, ICF certified coach, author, and member of the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH). She  has been working with clients to rid them of their limiting beliefs which contribute to their addictive tendencies. She would also like to discus how the Coronavirus pandemic, is creating unique anxieries and she is offering the public free downloads on her Stress Reduction Audio set which includes three recordings. The set is available on www.elenamosaner.com. Listen to determine if hypnosis might be right for you!

Sexual betrayal trauma is devastating and takes a long time to recover from.  Couples can survive infidelity, sex addiction and betrayal trauma.  As you know Carol the Coach believes that here are certain things that the person who did the betraying must do to help his or her partner heal and there are tell-tale signs of recovery that the partner can look to help build trust and help him or  her to heal. Tonight, Carol will be interviewing  Heidi Kinsella who will be discussing what it takes to achieve long term sobriety and what recovery signs partners need to look for to see that their sex addicted partner is truly recovering from this addiction.  She will also discuss what partners need to do for their own recovery to enhance healing.

It is mindboggling to know how to talk to kids.The parent child relationship is an intimate one, and as a clinician that works with families impacted by sex addiction, Dr. Piper Grant will discuss the importance, and how to talk to your children about sexual addiction. She will discuss what factors will need to be considered in order to assess appropriateness of a disclosure, how to have the conversation based on the age of children, how parents can prepare for it, and address common concerns.

The body and the brain want to heal.Many times talk therapy is not enough to heal the trauma that may have resulted in sexual addiction or trauma betrayal. Tonight, we will look at a documentary following two people using two different somatic therapies, EMDR, and transromational bodywork to overcome their past traumas.The Light, a documentary produced and directed by Bradley Mason features fellow colleague Wendy Conquest who explains how to create new neuropathways by using trauma treatments that heal the brain.

Carol the Coach interviews Carl Thomas who believes we need to reframe our conversations around the issues of addiction and focus more on the importance of healing the individual rather than the “evils” of and the sex industry. Over 8+ years of experience in this field and he has never seen a man find true & lasting freedom simply by controlling his environment. He believes that all the filters, all the parental restrictions, all the legislation, all the censorship… none of that is going lead a man to freedom. Because at the end of the day, is not the problem. We are. Carl recognizes that is not a good thing and creates many problems for men, he doesn’t see as an “enemy” we must fight; but rather a distraction or an urlnhealthy option that we need to learn how to manage and avoid if we want to live with maximum effectiveness, purpose, and joy.  use is simply a choice. We just need to choose better. He believs that  this is a large reason why we have focused on community and connection as an avenue to true wholeness & freedom, not filters or technology. Because scientifically speaking, engaging in community and meaningful relationships improves brain health which leads to an increased capacity for better decision making and managing life’s challenges without the need for maladaptive resources like .

There is a new therapy model that is taking the country by storm. In her new book, Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy, Jenna Riermersma helps clients to make sense of their pasts. Jenna explains that "IFS is a way of understanding ourselves that takes into account that we all have different parts." IFS helps us relate to our parts more effectively which teaches us to cope differently. It gives people practical tools to improve mood, decrease maladaptive coping, increases resilience and uncovers a deeper spiritual journey.

Hilarie Barry will be talking about her mission to, along with her husband Joe, talk about the courageous decision to share their story of infidelity. She will be talking about the pain of discovery, the emotional rollercoaster of partner betrayal and PTSD. She will also be sharing with Carol the Coach the realization and understanding that her husband wanted to get well, and he needed her help! Together they have helped men and women struggling with sex addiction betrayal and they have shared these life lessons to give marriages hope.