Sexual Addiction:Strength/Hope/Recovery

This is a repeat of a show I did in 2018 talking  about what exploitive sexual addiction.d

Sexual addiction afffects marriages and can result in therapeutic separations and divorce. In reality about half of US marriages fail and most of them involve children. One-fourth of those children of divorce are traumatized by the continual acrimony between their parents. Tonight, Carol the coach will be interviewing Dr. Larry Walman Ph.D. who is a clinical, forensic psychologist, consultan and author of 7 bookds including "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your EX." He will be talking about how you can survive the trauma of an angry spouse.

Johua Nichols believes that in the early stages or recovery, unfaithful partners experience hostility or aggression from their injured partners primarily because (1) they don’t trust new experiences or behaviors from their partners; and (2) they are tired of hurting.  But, “reflection aggression” isn’t really seen until after the crises have settled down and the addicts are gaining momentum in recovery.  The primary purpose for this type of hostility is because the injured partners don’t want their wounds to be revealed. Partners are afraid that they will be hurt again so theycan resist trust resulting in the partners needing the addcit to remember that he is the sick one so they agress against them to avoid vulnerability. Listen as Carol the Coach finds out more about this phenomena that interferes in true recovery,

Is there a difference between men and women who suffer from sex addiction? Tonight, Carol Sheets is interviewing Amy Smith, the founder of Worth Recovery. She started podcasting about her experiences in sex addiction recovery in January 2016 and has hosted full day workshops for women in recovery in Salt Lake City, Seattle, Atlanta, and Buffalo. She offer supports groups and additional educational offerings for women as well.She knew there was a lack of resources for women, but what she thought was a small hole, turned out to be a gigantic chasm.  Below are some of the resources I offer for women:   Worth Recovery Podcast - Available anywhere you listen to podcasts Women's Stories Series - The episodes where I'm curating women's stories in sex addiction and recovery. The Worth Circle - a paid online, moderated Facebook group where women can get support and maintain their focus on recovery.

goCarol the Coach will be interviewing Beronica Valli who is the Creator of the Soberful Program. She believesing to be talking about the Soberful program and The Five Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety. The five pillars hold up our sobriety- they are personal development for sober people.  the five pillars are: Movement, Connection, Balance, Process and Growth. We practice these in our lives as our addiction (no matter what that addiction is) is an external manifestation of an internal problem.

Carol the Coaach will be interviewing Tim Stein who serves the sex addiction population in a myriad of ways. Tim and his business partner created an on line course for Sex Addiction and Partner Betrayal to help this population understand the trauma that typically accompanies this condition. He wanted this community to have a "go to" that would normalize the  process of addiction and help the community to understand the compulsion as well as the Partner Betrayal Trauma that accompanies i. Tim also worte "Gifts of Recovery: Daily Meditations for Men and Women in Recovery from Sex Addiction."

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Carol Clark who is a Clinical Sexologist and runs a training program for professionals who work in the field of addiction. She wrote a book on skills and tools that people find really helpful in their daily lives called My Pocket Therapist:12 Tools for Living in Connection.  She believes that what gives people hope and strength is to learn to live more fully in connection with themselves, with others, and with their spiritual connections. Therapists help remove the barriers to connection that we all develop to some extent from the moment we enter the world and also provide tools for maintaining a more connected life and this book keeps it simple in teaching you how to stay connected.

Carol the Coach is interviewing Jennifer Irwin who wrote the novel, A Dress the Color of the Sky. This book reads more like a memoir and shares one woman's battle with sex addiction to cope with childhood trauma. It is a riveting story and it helps the general publiic understand the dynamics behind why a woman would use sex to medicate. Her premise is that for too many years, Prudence Aldrich had been numbing the pain in her life with random sexual encounters. Her marriage to cold, self-centered Nick is, not surprisingly, on the rocks. But after several dangerous experiences with strangers, Prudence finally realizes she needs therapy to stop her self-destructive behavior, and so she checks into the Serenity Hills rehab center. Prudence blames herself for her irresponsible behavior and is filled with self-loathing. She’s convinced she is completely at fault for Nick’s manipulative attitude and believes with therapy, she can return their relationship to its idyllic beginnings. However, her therapist and the other members of her rehab group see the person behind the pain. As Prudence learns about herself and the reasons for her behavior, including startling revelations about her childhood, she begins to understand the basis for her lack of sexual self-respect. She also learns she is not entirely to blame for the failure of her marriage. With the positive reinforcement of everyone at Serenity Hills, Prudence learns not to define herself by her past. But moving forward would mean letting go of Nick for good, and Prudence isn’t sure she can. Jennifer depicts what has to happen in Prudence's life to find wholeness within herself.

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Stefanie Carnes about her new book entitled, "Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal". Couragious Love is a book for couples who would like to work together to save their relationship, following an experience of betrayal. In the book, Dr. Carnes discusses betrayal trauma, and educates couples about normal responses to betrayal and how couples can work together to help repair the relationship. She shares the best strategies for cultivating honesty and talks about what couples can do to rebuild their relationship and redindle their intimacy.

Covid-19 has created some challenging circumstances for people who need counselling and yet it has also afforded us increased ingenuity. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Samantha Ammann who is going to explain how you can do EMDR virtually. She has a wealth of knowledge and wants to share it with our listening audience so you can continue your trauma work during Covid-19.