Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 1679: The Four Kinds of Anger (and How to Handle Them Better) by Dr. Kelly Flanagan
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Mar 11, 2023 
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The Trap Of Defensive Anger
- Defensive anger is aggressive, becomes a reflexive habit, and often protects a constructed false self.
- Handle it by observing its voice and refusing to follow its commands while listening for a kinder inner voice.
Pause And Refuse Defensive Commands
- Ask yourself where defensive anger lives in you and notice the litany of grievances that follows.
- Observe that voice and choose not to follow its commands to free a wiser, compassionate response.
Frustration: The Goal-Thwarting Anger
- Frustrated anger arises when goals are blocked and is the signature anger of childhood.
- When handled well it prompts problem-solving, release of attachment, or patience practice.