"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

In this episode: It's all about letting go of self-esteem as a goal. It's vague, unmeasurable, and often just makes things worse—especially for people with ADHD/AuDHD. But self-efficacy is EVERYTHING. Simply put: it's the realistic belief that you have the skills to do a task or handle a situation. Your self-efficacy can be improved (thanks to neuroplasticity) and there is irrefutable science and studies that support its life-changing results. I'll explain more about the findings on self-efficacy, how it works, and give you some ways to start focusing on your self-efficacy today so that you can start projects, and actually follow through. Let's go! SHOW NOTES "This is A Lot" Resources Sign up for my "This Is A Lot" Newsletter: sent every 10 days Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN Sources Why Self-Efficacy Is More Important Than Self-Esteem; YouTube Dr. Albert Bandura Quotes Self-Efficacy Theory Of Motivation Explained; YouTube Self-Efficacy and Agentic Positive Psychology Self-Efficacy And Why Believing In Yourself Matters; VeryWell Mind

In this episode: Most people don't associate ADHD with hope — but they should. This episode explores the science behind hope as a cognitive process. Drawing on research I look at how hope is built, how it functions in the brain, and how it can get eroded by chronic adversity — especially for people with ADHD and AuDHD. If you've been struggling with follow-through, feeling stuck, or wondering why things feel harder than they "should," this is an episode that explains why — and how you can cultivate hope! SHOW NOTES Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN SOURCES Build Resilience By Learning To Hope; ADDitude Magazine Promoting Hope in ADHD; Dr. Hallowell The Gift of Hope; Dig Coaching The Science And Power Of Hope; Dr. Chan Hellman

EPISODE 49: An ADHD Guide To Cortisol + 13 Tips To Lower Your Cortisol Levels In this episode: Exhaustion during the day, racing thoughts at night, sleep problems, anxiety, and unexplained inflammation can all be signs of a nervous system stuck in high-alert mode. While dopamine gets most of the attention in ADHD conversations, cortisol — the body's primary stress hormone — plays a major role in how energy, focus, and fatigue are regulated. High cortisol, not low, is often behind chronic stress patterns in people with ADHD and AuDHD. I give tips on how to interrupt your long-term stress loop in ways your nervous system can actually handle. SOURCES The Intersection of ADHD and Hormones, CHADD The WorkOut Witch The Complex PTSD Workbook SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a Little Pod Patreon only bonus episode that originally aired on June 22nd, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 8/1) OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: "And Just Like That" When A TV Show Fails ADHD" Permission to rant? Thank you. On this Little Pod which is available to Tier #1 and Tier #2, I'm criticizing the TV show "And Just Like That" for its bizarre portrayal of the ADHD medication shortage and how to handle a troubled teenager with ADHD. SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

A deep dive into the difference between daydreaming about a future and actually making a plan. Listens explore how fantasizing can be an emotional escape that blocks present action. The conversation highlights signs your plan is more fantasy than reality and offers ways to ground goals in today’s circumstances. It finishes with practical ideas for small, immediate steps toward real change.

In this episode: I unpack (get it?) what it means to travel as a neurodivergent person, especially when you've internalized a bunch of rigid "rules" about what travel is supposed to look like. For a long time, I thought travel had to mean a picture-perfect vacation, and I put pressure on myself to pack light, leave comforts behind, and plan for an idealized version of my destination—rather than the reality of my actual needs. Plus, I'm creating a digital course about neurodivergent travel, and your input can help me make sure I'm covering what actually matters to people like us. Send an email with your thoughts and experiences around travel to alotadhdpod at gmail dot com or call the "A Lot Line" and leave a voicemail (347) 674-2201. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. Offer expires June 30th, 2025. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community, and more! 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201

In this episode: Have you ever felt completely frozen, staring at your project, knowing exactly what needs to get done — but physically unable to begin? It's not procrastination — it's ADHD Paralysis — and there are three kinds: mental paralysis, analysis paralysis, and task paralysis, all of which can lead to shutdowns. It's a neurological issue (executive functions not functioning) as well as an emotional one (a trauma response). Whether you're ADHD or AuDHD, this episode helps you understand that you don't need more willpower — you need more compassion. You're overwhelmed, and you deserve support. Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more! Take the ACE test here (Adverse Childhood Experiences) 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Paralysis: Mental Health ADHD Paralysis is Real: ADDA What is ADHD Shutdown? Calm Understanding ADHD Paralysis: The Dorm Complex PTSD Pete Walker

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD shows up at work — from time blindness to burnout — and breaks down what your rights are under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). She walks you through real-world accommodations that can make a huge difference (including remote work), how to actually ask for them without overexplaining, and also rethinks the whole concept of why we even have to ask for things like this on our own in the first place. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Link to Bearaby for Knot Pillow, Lounger Warmable, Weighted Blankets 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why "Workplace Accommodations" Are Archaic - Lindsey Mackereth How People Can Ask For Accommodations At Work - ChADD How Protected Are People Under The ADA? - ADDitude Magazine The Trump Admin Demands Returning To Office Profile Of The 2023 Workforce Rights Under the ADA Explained - ACLU Signs Of A Neurodivergent Inclusive Workplace - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Accommodations At Work - The ADDA The ADHD Guide To Asserting Yourself Head Heart Hands Check-In Method

🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month's Patreon-only episode. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. Click this link to join Patreon at 70% off of your first month and use CODE 38E07. Offer ends 5/31/25 SHOW NOTES: Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: You Don't Lack "Follow Through" - Heidi Priebe, YouTube

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she'd felt was "wrong" her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience Lindsey Mackereth Substack