"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) Out From The Paywall EP: "Future Fantasy Is Not A Plan"
Jul 7, 2025
A deep dive into the difference between daydreaming about a future and actually making a plan. Listens explore how fantasizing can be an emotional escape that blocks present action. The conversation highlights signs your plan is more fantasy than reality and offers ways to ground goals in today’s circumstances. It finishes with practical ideas for small, immediate steps toward real change.
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Future Fantasy Regulates Emotions
- Future fantasy acts as emotional self-regulation that feels good in the moment.
- Letting it go forces presence, which can trigger dysregulation but enables real change.
Start From Present Reality
- Sit in the present and name what's between you and your goal instead of escaping into optimism.
- Remove value judgments and accept current reality to gain agency and choose next steps.
Act On Ideas, Not Just Ideate
- If you never move past ideation, call out toxic shame and stop labeling yourself 'lazy'.
- Begin small concrete steps to break dissociation and start actual execution toward the goal.