Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Listener question: I think resentment comes about as I have to suppress rage all the time. It’s a very disempowering place to be in as a woman. Aren’t we colluding with thousands of years of suppression of female power/rage when we say it’s all our own creation, therefore all our own fault? 

Somehow, you made the jump from the three principles to this non dual approach. I suspect insight was part of your early and later experiences. Yet, I would love to know more about your evolution.  Reading “Real” and listening to this course and the “Real” Course did not give me the clue as to your initial moments and how you jumped over the gap between traditional 3 P to non - dual inside out.  

I struggle many days with trying to fill a void that in reality doesn't exist. Searching from the outside to make me feel whole on the inside. Depending on others to bring me happiness that never comes. I need more help to become happy within myself.  Any ideas to share with me?

A brief summary of this episode

Could you podcast on whether there’s a connection between seemingly separate pieces of learning.  Can learning/conditioning be compartmentalised or is it like the skeleton; ‘the hip bone’s connected to the thigh bone’ etc.  And if they are connected, might attention on one ‘area’ of conditioning shine light on other areas, gradually or suddenly revealing the whole structure of the made-up self even as it’s dissolving?

Listener question: what is separation and the mirror? 

Can i just ask for a heads up ... i have done your Change and Stress courses .... i am observing things in the way you suggest ... i notice i am suddenly freaking out big time because i have a tiny kitten arriving ... this feels like a huge thing for me as i already live in a hoarders chaos and find it so hard to manage things in the material form  i am really worried that this is just me ADDING to my pattern of chaos and disorder . So that not only do i have a chaotic hoarders house thats full of boxes, piles, building materials and hardly managable .. but now i'm adding in a kitten to make it all WORSE and more extremely out of control chaos. Sometimes i stand in my home surrounded by this insurmoutable chaos and feel like i'm in a mensa test that is way above my IQ level - i literally dont know where to begin with it all and attempts to move forwards just seem to have me adding more chaos ... what if this kitten arriving isnt a positive change and is me just 'staying the same' and adding in more extremes  ! - does that make sense. How do we know if somehting is a good change or just more of the same to ensure staying the same and not changing. It really feels like this is 'stirring' something up and testing me on some level ... as if all my futile attempts to keep on top of anything and stay in control will just 'go out the window' and push me over an edge. How can we know if somehting is us moving forward or backwards ! ... at this point i really dont want more of the same! and so long for sanity and an ordered living space! 

Listener question: Thank you for the stress course, unfortunately, I have taken a break from this one.  It amazes me I have never found this before but STRESS has really hit home, which I know is not a bad thing but has put me in a much more cautious ​mood and I have stalled at day 16.  I do hope to go back to the course and am confident that I will continue.  I can only offer this as evidence that you have created a brilliant course as it has found its way to the route of my stress/anxiety.  My hesitancy, from my fear of really facing my fears and asking the Why question, is seen and felt and noticed. I mentioned this to my buddy which resulted in a smack in the face realisation of a link between a childhood stressor and today's issues and was awash with tears, although when I try to recall it now I find I can't.  The next day was one of the highest stress/anxious days I have had for such a long time.  I have made a link between these events which I think has stopped me wanting to carry on and to be honest even stopped me wanting to speak to my buddy anymore. (this withdrawal is a pattern that has created so many of my limitations) I see this all but do feel an overwhelm like a wave going over my head, but I will pop up the other side.  Are you able to speak about this 2 steps forward, 1 step back that I have experienced throughout my time on your courses?  I feel understanding is most definitely there and the wall of fear I had has many breaks in it now, I still have worries there will always be part of a wall there, its so beyond belief that freedom is available for me.

Listener question: There's appreciation for this opening up and suddenly a sadness that there are many statements that seem like clarity that, if shared, may spark confrontation for the listener. I imagine that you aren't coaching all people all the time in your life and that you maybe have close loved ones who are very much in the world of free will exists and a self is the doer - do you mostly stay silent with people who are not in this conversation and simply use whatever shows up as new information as your own ego confrontation?

Looking at Dr Gabor Maté's quote: “A therapist once said to me, “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” It is wisdom I have passed on to many others since. If a refusal saddles you with guilt, while consent leaves resentment in its wake, opt for the guilt. Resentment is soul suicide. Negative thinking allows us to gaze unflinchingly on our own behalf at what does not work.