Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

How come we don't do or have what we think we want to do or have ? 

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Can you please do a podcast on listening to others while our own dialogue is happening. Even though I am aware of it, it is so easy to get caught up in it.

Listener question: what slightly confuses me is this ...i see that our nervous system is the thing that tells us we are in or out of capacity right - and so if it is constantly in freeze then its tell me i'm out of capacity somehow - its not that the nervous system is flawed or needs re-programming because thats just the 'alarm' isnt it  or can it be 'broken' and not responding correctly or stuck 'beeping' like an actual firealarm does ? Sometimes it feels like these things, for example, working with all the 'internal parts and voices' or somatic experiencing programmes or Vagal reset programmes are caught up in trying to 'fixing the alarm' rather than ever dealing with the cause of the smoke or teaching us how to understand what the alarm means and is trying to tell us ... does that make sense ?... what's the point of keeping reseting the alarm if the smoke is still there ... it would be dangerous to reset the alarm. Or is the alarm telling us there IS NO SMOKE (trauma) or that the alarm itself IS the smokeI guess we HOPE that these programmes are about the fact the alarm got stuck 'on'/'off' or jammed at some point in the past when smoke was billowing out (or percieved smoke) and so now it isnt available as a system to give us accurate messages anymore about our reality or if there is smoke in the present moment.... BUT to just learn somatic experiencing tools to switch the alarm off because we dont like the sound when it's on then whats the point of that and isnt that missing the point of the purpose of the nervous system. I'm getting confused about how to Know if there is any value in it all that helps to get to the back room with all this... or if these 'practical somatic things' just confuse the system more... and are the mind trying to interfere in the process or outwit itself when it cant.

Listener question: I have a scattered mind. How do I calm it down to do boring tasks?

Listener question: So if the selfing patterns are established over years of habitual thinking (Neurons that fire together wire together) does it require a certain amount of willpower to not slip into these patterns? Or is willpower an activity of the self as well?You often speak of beliefs and behaviours falling away, does this happen through witnessing patterns and staying with uncomfortable feelings in the body alone?Is vigilance needed at this point to not slip into storymaking? 

Still have to look into it more. I feel a sense of where you are pointing at but my head is busy with it. It is like when I am teaching Dutch. I just do Dutch all the time. Now I have to explain Dutch I go deeper in that language and my head is busy with the rules and I get confused about the language I just do when I am not teaching/thinking about it.Love Ingrid

Listener question: I'm wondering if you could guide me in some way.  I have financial difficulties so I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself in the area of work.  I have insecurity issues which tie into this.  In particular I wanted to ask you about feeling insecure around certain clients.  I see that I feel less than them and then tend to have panic attacks with them.  I can see that it's thought and I try to dig into the, "why do I feel less than them?".  I can see what's happening here and yet I don't think I'm in the observing mode.  It all comes down to separation, but do we at some point see thru this clearer if we keep questioning it?  I've been doing that for years and logically I can see it, but I think the programme is very strong and so perhaps something else has to clue in.

Someone said to me 'I feel like I can't trust anyone'. Let's look at that...

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