In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.Whether you’re new to toys or looking to level up, we’ve got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming.✨ In this episode, we cover:How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you likeTips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performativeHow to bring up toys with a partner if they’re nervous or skepticalThe difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for eachHow to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use)Debunking myths like “you’ll get addicted to your vibrator”How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed productsThe role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating easeMasturbation as a form of self-connection and stress reliefWhy you don’t have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn’t a performanceSuing the MTA so they could advertise on the subwayThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-april 🎧 Unedited episodes, my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram? It’s all on Patreon

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you’re a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we’ve got you covered.Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn’t just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are.In this episode, we discuss:How to make oral feel incredible with your mouth and your whole bodyDeepthroating 101: tips, angles, breathing, and how to stay in controlWhat makes a blowjob feel intimate (even when it’s casual)How to avoid jaw fatigue and still make it look/feel amazingCommon mistakes people make when giving oral to penis-haversThe power of eye contact, vocal feedback, and enthusiasmCommunication tips—how to ask for direction without killing the moodThe difference between porn blowjobs and what people actually wantWhat to do if you're nervous, insecure, or don’t love giving oral (yet)How Zachary’s bisexuality influences his approach to pleasureThe importance of mutual pleasure and making oral a two-way experienceThis episode is informative, hot, and actually helpful—no shame, no judgment, just real talk about how to become a more generous, confident, and attuned lover.Thank you Fantasia for being a sponsor on today's episode. Check out fantasiatoy.online to see what your fantasy feels like!✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.In this episode, we discuss:The most common mistakes people make when going down on someoneHow to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsureKenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it worksThe anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essentialWhy going slow is underrated and how to read your partner’s body cuesCommunication tips that don’t kill the vibeTechniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and moreHow to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connectionTips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulationWhat Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva ownersBusting myths about what “good oral” looks likeHow to prioritize pleasure over performanceKenneth’s top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous loverWhether you’re new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life.✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexaThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex’s nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?Plus, we discuss what it’s like navigating relationships as a queer person, how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties—how they’ve helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she’s learned from attending them.Why more couples are choosing to live apartThe pros and cons of maintaining separate spacesHow non-monogamy fits into the equationHow to set clear boundaries and expectationsThe debate around keeping your ex’s nudes—what’s ethical?How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacyHayley’s personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empoweredHow past relationships shape how we handle intimacyThis episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries.🔥 Want more? Join my Patreon for unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes tea on my personal dating & sex life, and access to my Close Friends on Instagram!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you’re looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.We cover:How she got started and what it's like working at a dungeon.How to start dominating your boyfriend—even if you’ve never done it before.Why confidence is key—and how to build it in and out of the bedroom.Ways to take the lead in sex—without feeling awkward or forced.How to introduce power dynamics in a fun, flirty way—no whips or leather required.The psychology behind why some people love being told what to do—and how to use that to your advantage.Findom (financial domination) 101—what it is, how it works, and why it’s more common than you think.How to communicate what you want—and make sure your partner is on board.Easy ways to get started with small, subtle power shifts that can change everything.A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Lindsay Wynn, founder of Momotaro Apotheca, a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness. After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame.In this episode, we have a raw and informative conversation about all things vulva health, vaginal wellness, and self-care. We dive into:How to prevent and treat common vaginal issues like BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and irritation—what actually works and what’s just a marketing gimmick.The biggest culprits behind vaginal pH imbalance, from antibiotics and semen to diet, stress, and even your favorite pair of leggings.The dos and don’ts of vulva hygiene—should you wash with soap? Do you need probiotics? Are feminine wipes your friend or foe?Debunking common vulva myths, like whether certain foods change your taste and if tight underwear really causes infections.How sex impacts vaginal health, plus practical pre- and post-sex care tips to help you stay balanced.The truth about discharge and odor—what’s normal, what’s not, and why we need to stop pathologizing natural bodily functions.How to find the right products for vaginal health and what harmful ingredients to look out for.Changing the conversation around intimate wellness—why vaginal health is still so taboo and how we can normalize these discussions.Our personal experiences with squirting—Lindsay is still exploring, but she shares a position we should all try (trust us, you’ll want to take notes).A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya, a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator. Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free—whether you're new to it or looking to refine your approach.We discuss:How to know if casual sex is right for you—some people thrive in no-strings-attached encounters, while others struggle.How to set clear boundaries and communicate expectations so everyone is on the same page.How to avoid catching feelings (or handle it if you do) and ways to check in with yourself.Destigmatizing casual sex, especially for women and queer folks, and breaking down harmful stereotypes.How to stay physically and emotionally safe, including STI prevention, handling rejection, and self-reflection after hookups.Navigating casual sex in ethical non-monogamy and how it differs from traditional dating.Red flags to watch out for and how to recognize when a casual partner might want more than you do.How to make casual sex more enjoyable—from mindset shifts to exploring pleasure in a way that works for you.If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, worried about emotional entanglements, or just want to make sure you're approaching casual sex in a way that feels good for you, this episode is full of practical tips, expert insights, and real talk to help you have more fulfilling, shame-free casual experiences.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the Fuck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms. Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat, this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are, how they happen, and how you can tap into them.Sarah shares her journey from discovering sex-positivity in college to becoming a leading voice in pleasure-based sex education. We talk about how shame, stress, and disconnection block pleasure, and how somatic techniques, breathwork, and body awareness can help you reclaim your pleasure and access deeper orgasms.We also cover:🔸 Why so many people struggle to connect with their bodies (and how to change that)🔸 The myths around orgasm gaps, genital-focused pleasure, and what it really means to be “multi-orgasmic”🔸 How curiosity and playfulness can enhance your sexual experiences🔸 Why full body orgasms aren’t just about sex—they’re about embodiment, confidence, and overall well-beingA special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠⁠https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠ 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) sits down with ⁠Amy Baldwin⁠—sex educator, co-host of the ⁠Shameless Sex Podcast⁠, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy.Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only started having really good sex in her 30s. We also go deep into her journey in non-monogamy, how she and her partner opened up their relationship, and how their rules vs. agreements evolved over time.We cover:🔹 Growing up sex-positive & running a sex shop with her mom🔹 Why it took so long to start having good sex (and what changed!)🔹 Her journey into non-monogamy and what she’s learned along the way🔹 Her top blowjob tips for mind-blowing oral🔹 Why so many people struggle with receiving pleasure & how to get better at it🔹 The sex myths we wish we’d unlearned so much soonerIf you want to get better at giving and receiving pleasure, understand non-monogamy from someone who's lived it, and break free from old sexual conditioning, this episode is a must-listen!Check out the ⁠Shameless Sex Tour ⁠happening in Austin, Dallas and Santa Cruz!A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:⁠https://beducate.me/shecomesfirst⁠ 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sat down withApril Lampert in Costa Rica at theShameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of theShameless Sex Podcast, has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in avery different place.In this episode, we cover:🔹 Growing up in aconservative household and unlearning sexual guilt🔹 What working at asex shop taught her about human desire🔹 Theinfidelity in her past relationships & how she handled it🔹 Herslut era and what it taught her about sexual empowerment🔹 The hygiene tips everyone should know for a better sex life🔹 Why she’sstill intimidated by sex parties, despite talking about them all the time🔹 How much of what she learns onShameless Sex actually makes it into her real lifeApril keeps itreal, raw, and hilarious, and this conversation is packed with insight, honesty, and a whole lot of laughs. Tune in for an episode that will make you rethink everything youthought you knew about sex and shame.