In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex Living Apart, Non-Monogamy & Ex’s Nudes (ft. Hayley Folk)
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?
We also dive into one of Hayley’s most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex’s nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?
Plus, we discuss what it’s like navigating relationships as a queer person, how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties—how they’ve helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she’s learned from attending them.
Why more couples are choosing to live apart
The pros and cons of maintaining separate spaces
How non-monogamy fits into the equation
How to set clear boundaries and expectations
The debate around keeping your ex’s nudes—what’s ethical?
How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacy
Hayley’s personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empowered
How past relationships shape how we handle intimacy
This episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries.
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