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Jason Mellard, founder of Own Your Identity and certified high performance coach who helps men overcome unwanted same-sex attraction. He explores reclaiming curiosity, childlike wonder, and awe as tools for recovery. Short takes cover observation versus obsession, imagination for building instead of escaping, appreciation versus idolatry, and practical ways to pause, notice, and choose wonder.

A look at “glimmers” as safety cues that counteract triggers, framed by polyvagal ideas. Everyday glimmers like sunshine, hugs, and laughter get attention. Practical practices include savoring moments, keeping a gratitude list, recalling sensory details, and sharing small joys with others.

Davey Blackburn, founder of Nothing Is Wasted Ministries and author, shares a personal story of loss and how he turned pain into purpose. He discusses confronting triggers, how grief reshapes ministry and temptation, and the ministry’s approach of sitting with people and guiding them through a pain-to-purpose pathway.

Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author of Desire, offers therapy-informed insight into longing and healing. He explores five core longings—healing, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. Conversations cover how childhood, pornography, and culture shape desire, the conflict of suppressed longings, and practical ways to welcome and reshape desire for healthier life and relationships.

A deep dive into taking redemptive risks for healing and outgrowing porn. Short contrasts between clean pain and dirty pain. Real-life examples of brave disclosures and embodied group practices. Practical prompts: start with why, count the cost, and own your strength before acting.

Tom Zuniga, director of Your Other Brothers and builder of Christian communities where men navigate faith, sexuality, and masculinity. He tells his story of loneliness and finding chosen family. They discuss the value of male friendship as intimate love, how churches can better hold single men, and practical ways to build safe, consistent brotherhood.

In this episode, longtime friend of the podcast and author Sathiya Sam shares why porn recovery can literally save lives, what true freedom looks like (eternal, internal, and external) and practical advice on how to find purpose beyond porn.Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean Coaching, helps men overcome pornography addiction, inspired by his own 15-year journey. Author of The Last Relapse and host of The Man Within, he has guided thousands of men to freedom. Learn more at sathiyasam.comTo celebrate 10 years of freedom from porn and 1 million podcast downloads, Sathiya is hosting a giveaway. Enter here: deepcleancoaching.com/giveaway"You don't set people free just so they can say they're free; you set people free so they can fly." —Sathiya SamRegister now for the Husband Material Retreat in Georgia (April 24-27) at husbandmaterial.com/spring-retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Do you know what it's like to feel numb, drained, and disconnected? This is the most common precursor to watching porn: the "flop" reaction. In this episode, you'll learn what the flop reaction is, why it's not necessarily bad, and three ways to navigate low-energy moments without crashing into a relapse. Strategy #1: Flop with a purposeStrategy #2: Flop with a friendStrategy #3: Flop with your bodyRegister now for the Husband Material Retreat in Georgia (April 24-27) at husbandmaterial.com/spring-retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does physical fitness support sexual and spiritual health? In this episode, Alex VanHouten describes what it looks like to faithfully care for your body. You'll learn about the twin pitfalls of pride/envy and gluttony/sloth, how working out can help you process emotions and sexual urges, and what fitness is ultimately about: reclaiming the territory of your body for the kingdom of God.Alex VanHouten is an exercise scientist, health coach, and the founder of Faithful Fitness. With over 20 years of experience in fitness coaching, he has empowered individuals to transform their health through intelligent, science-based training, all while grounding his approach in the hope of the gospel. As the host of the Faithful Fitness Podcast and leader of the Faithful Fitness community, Coach Alex provides valuable tools to help people steward their bodies well for God’s glory. Learn more at faithfulfitness.coBuy Alex's new book:Faithful Fitness: A 40-Day Devotional for Christian Health and StewardshipRegister now for the Husband Material Retreat in Georgia (April 24-27) at husbandmaterial.com/spring-retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

If you're in a season of depression, darkness, or difficulty, please listen to this episode. Justin McRoberts and Scott Erickson offer deep wisdom on how to welcome all that is within you (yes, even that). This interview is punctuated by powerful poems and prayers for whatever "low" you might be going through.Justin McRoberts is the author of 8 books, including In The Low: Honest Prayers For Dark Seasons. He lives in Martinez, CA and talks with his mom every day. Connect with Justin at justinmcroberts.com or on Instagram @justinmcroberts.Scott Erickson is an artist, author, and performance speaker creating a visual vocabulary for the spiritual journey. Connect with Scott at scottericksonart.com or on Instagram @scottthepainter.Buy Justin and Scott's new book:In The Low: Honest Prayers For Dark SeasonsRegister now for the Husband Material Retreat in Georgia (April 24-27) at husbandmaterial.com/spring-retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!