Husband Material Why Men Need Men (with Tom Zuniga)
Feb 16, 2026
Tom Zuniga, director of Your Other Brothers and builder of Christian communities where men navigate faith, sexuality, and masculinity. He tells his story of loneliness and finding chosen family. They discuss the value of male friendship as intimate love, how churches can better hold single men, and practical ways to build safe, consistent brotherhood.
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From Hidden Longing To Found Community
- Tom describes growing up lonely, different, and hiding his same-sex attraction until porn forced him to confront it at 19.
- Finding blogs and other men online led to friendships and ultimately co-founding Your Other Brothers in 2015.
Singleness Stands Out As Men Age
- Tom highlights how churches and culture prioritize married life, making long-term singleness more visible and painful as men age.
- He warns single men to expect real challenges but seeks hope in other communities and friendships.
Intentionally Build Chosen Family
- Build a chosen family by intentionally forming deep friendships that mirror Jesus' redefinition of family.
- Seek community beyond biological ties so you won't rely solely on romantic partnership for belonging.