Husband Material Glimmers: The Opposite Of Triggers
Mar 16, 2026
A look at “glimmers” as safety cues that counteract triggers, framed by polyvagal ideas. Everyday glimmers like sunshine, hugs, and laughter get attention. Practical practices include savoring moments, keeping a gratitude list, recalling sensory details, and sharing small joys with others.
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Glimmers Are The Opposite Of Triggers
- Glimmers are cues of safety that lead to joy, peace, and connection, opposite of triggers that cue danger and sexual temptation.
- Drew Boa defines glimmers via polyvagal theory as small moments of regulation like sun on skin or a long hug.
Laughter With Kids Turned Stress Into Relief
- Drew Boa shares personal glimmers: warm sun, a long hug, and an episode of uncontrollable laughter with his kids.
- He describes laughter that turned into minutes of crying and whole-family relief, illustrating stress relief from glimmers.
Negative Bias Makes Glimmers Slip Away
- Our brains have a negative bias that makes triggers sticky and glimmers slippery, so positive moments fade unless intentionally savored.
- Drew Boa uses a mushroom analogy to show why negative experiences are more memorable for survival.