On Purpose with Jay Shetty 4 Reasons We Crave External Validation and 3 Ways to Feel Truly Seen, Heard, and Understood
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Mar 12, 2021 Everyone craves understanding, yet seeking validation can deepen loneliness. The discussion dives into how social media skews self-image and the psychological roots of needing approval. By reflecting on Bruce Lee’s life, the complexity of self-identity versus external validation is explored. The emphasis shifts to self-affirmation, focusing on core values rather than fleeting praise. Ultimately, listeners are encouraged to embrace self-worth, reject others' expectations, and forge deeper connections with their true selves.
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Validation Seeking
- Seeking validation is a fundamental human desire, not inherently negative.
- It stems from our brains' attunement to social harmony and disagreement.
Conformity and the Brain
- Humans are wired to conform, prioritizing group acceptance over individual correctness.
- Disagreeing with the group triggers distress signals in the brain, as shown by research.
Social Media's Impact
- Social media can negatively impact self-esteem by encouraging comparison with curated online personas.
- This creates a feedback loop of seeking external validation for a false self.