

Creating Midlife Calm: Coping Skills for Stress & Anxiety in Family, Work & Relationships
MJ Murray Vachon LCSW
Coping Skills for Midlife Stress and Anxiety in Family, Work & RelationshipsForget the midlife crisis—how about creating midlife calm? The anxiety and stress of this life stage can drain your energy, fuel overthinking, and make it hard to enjoy what should be the best years of your life. This podcast offers practical coping skills to help you reduce anxiety, manage stress, and rediscover a calmer, more confident version of yourself.In Creating Midlife Calm, you’ll discover how to:Be happier, more present, and more effective at home and work.Transform stress and anxiety into powerful tools that boost your clarity, energy, and confidence.Cultivate calm and joy through practical, affordable coping skills that help you handle life’s daily challenges.Join MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, a seasoned therapist with over 50,000 hours of clinical experience and 32 years teaching mental wellness, as she guides you to reclaim your inner calm. Learn to stay grounded in the present, navigate midlife transitions with clarity, and build emotional resilience using proven coping tools.Every Monday, MJ dives into real stories and science-backed insights to help you shift from anxious to centered—ending each episode with an “Inner Challenge” you can practice right away. Then, on Thursdays, she shares a brief follow-up episode that connects, deepens, or expands the week’s topic, helping you apply these skills in real life.Let’s evolve from crisis to calm—and make midlife your most balanced and fulfilling chapter yet. 🎧 Start with listener favorite Ep. 138 to feel the difference calm can make.
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Oct 13, 2025 • 13min
Ep. 202 Top Coping Skills to Instantly Stop Bad Days in Their Tracks—And Reduce Midlife Anxiety & Stress
Have you ever had one of those days where the tiniest thing sets you off—like your partner’s chewing suddenly drives you nuts? That’s the science of a bad day at work in your brain and body.You don’t have to let one bad moment spiral into a bad day, or worse, a bad week.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. Why midlife stress and anxiety are wired into your brain and body 2. How to use the RESET coping skill3. How to build your own reset ritual so you can stop anxiety and stress from stealing your energy in midlife. Take 12 minutes to reset your mind and reclaim your calm—you’re worth it.The Good Life & The Abundant LifeFree workshop Monday October 13, 7-8pm EST.Click Here to Register: Click Here to RegisterSend us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Oct 9, 2025 • 8min
Ep. 201 How Taylor Swift’s “Life of a Showgirl” Interview Can Help Midlife Listeners Cope with Holiday Stress, Anxiety & Chaos
Can Taylor Swift’s approach to calm help you manage midlife stress and anxiety this holiday season? (OMG, is she really talking about holidays???)You’re not alone — even the most grounded people feel the pull of pressure and expectation this time of year.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. How Taylor Swift’s choice to protect her peace can inspire your own midlife coping skills.2. Why setting intentions now helps reduce stress, anxiety, and overwhelm later in the season.3. Simple, science-backed ways to trade pressure for presence and design the calm you crave. Take 8 minutes to shift from holiday stress to midlife calm — you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Oct 6, 2025 • 8min
Ep. 200 The Surprising Coping Skill Taylor Swift Reveals in Her “Life of a Showgirl” Interview To Ease Midlife Stress & Anxiety
What if one of the world’s most famous women just shared the secret to reducing anxiety in midlife?You’re not alone if endless scrolling leaves you feeling drained, distracted, and anxious.In this episode, you’ll discover:The conscious choices Taylor Swift makes to protect her peace and reduce stress.How attention, not time, may be your most valuable coping skill in midlife.Why less scrolling and more creativity can transform anxiety into calm.🎧 Take 9 minutes to reclaim your calm and refocus your attention—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Oct 2, 2025 • 11min
Ep. 199 How to Banish Your Inner Critic in Midlife and Move From Anxiety and Stress to Calm and Self-Trust
Why does your inner critic keep pushing you harder even when you already know how to get things done in midlife?Your inner critic often hides behind “truth,” “motivation,” or “standards.”In this episode, you’ll discover:1. Why tracing the roots of your inner critic matter and how giving it a midlife update can free you to trust yourself and enjoy your life2. How self-criticism wires your body for stress and anxiety—and what you can do to shift into calm3. A simple, science-backed coping skill that helps you move from judgment to gratitude, confidence, and self-trust Take 11 minutes to rewire your inner critic, ease anxiety, and increase calm in midlife—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 29, 2025 • 11min
Ep. 198 The Surprising Science Backed Coping Skill That Will Silence Your Inner Critic, Ease Midlife Anxiety & Calm Stress
Why do your efforts to silence your inner critic never seem to last?You’re not alone—midlife anxiety and stress often thrive when criticism becomes a daily habit.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. Why calming your outer critic is the real key to quieting your inner critic2. How midlife stress, anxiety, and overthinking are fueled by cultural patterns of criticism3. The surprising science of what criticism does to your body—and the coping skill that rewires your brain in real time Take 11 minutes to silence your critic, ease midlife anxiety, and lower stress—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 25, 2025 • 10min
Ep. 197 Mel Robbins Says It Takes 200 Hours—Here’s Why Fifteen Seconds Can Ease Midlife Loneliness, Calm Anxiety, and Reduce Stress
Can fifteen brave seconds really be enough to move you out of loneliness in midlife?You’re not alone—many people feel stuck in midlife loneliness while also battling anxiety and stress.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why Mel Robbins’ 200-hour friendship rule doesn’t capture the reality of connection in midlifeHow self-knowledge and social intelligence can make friendship easier and quicker to buildWhy anxiety—not time—is the real barrier, and how just fifteen seconds of bravery can help you break free from loneliness🎧 Take 10 minutes to see how one brave choice can ease midlife loneliness, calm anxiety, and reduce stress—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 22, 2025 • 10min
Ep. 196 Essential Coping Skills for Midlife Loneliness: How to Ease Anxiety and Stress by Rebuilding Community.
Does your busyness cover up midlife loneliness without truly easing your anxiety and stress? You’re not alone—belonging often fades when school, church, or work communities disappear, leaving a quiet ache.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. Why loneliness in midlife reminds us that busyness doesn’t equal belonging.2. How belonging shifts once familiar communities disappear—and why creating connection becomes a DIY project.3. Three practical coping skills to rebuild community and ease midlife loneliness, anxiety, and stress.🎧 Take 10 minutes to reclaim calm and connection in midlife—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 18, 2025 • 14min
Ep. 195 Science-Backed Coping Skills Using the Comfort of Fall to Reduce Midlife Stress and Anxiety
Do you know how the natural comfort of Fall can be used as a science-backed way to calm anxiety?You’re not alone—many in midlife overlook how the season itself can offer coping skills that reduce stress and restore resilience.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. How to add physical comfort in ways that calm your nervous system and reduce midlife stress2. Simple but powerful psychospiritual coping skills for anxiety3. How environmental and social comfort can strengthen calm and ease midlife anxiety in everyday life Take 12 minutes to reduce stress and anxiety with four science-backed coping skills that lean into the comfort of Fall!Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 15, 2025 • 11min
Ep. 194 The Surprising Way You Can Turn the Comfort of Fall into Coping Skills to Reduce Midlife Stress and Anxiety
Are you overlooking the comfort of fall that could become a powerful coping skill for midlife stress and anxiety? You’re not alone—many people miss how seasonal routines and autumn comforts can ease anxiety and strengthen resilience.In this episode, you’ll discover:How the comfort of fall can anchor you in calm and reduce stress and anxiety in midlifeThe surprising difference between soothing and comfort—and why only one truly restores your energyWhy the science of comfort proves it’s not indulgent but a powerful coping skill for lasting midlife resilience🎧 Take 10 minutes to reduce stress and anxiety with autumn comfort—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.

Sep 11, 2025 • 13min
Ep. 193 Break Free From Stress & Anxiety For GOOD Using This Science Backed Midlife Coping Skill
What if science could show you a way to finally get free from anxiety in midlife?You’re not alone—so many believe anxiety is something they just have to manage, but research and real-life practice prove otherwise.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why your amygdala often misfires and fuels unnecessary anxietyHow blame and avoidance quietly keep you stuck in midlife stressThe one science-backed coping skill that retrains your brain and helps you move beyond anxiety for good Take 13 minutes to learn the coping skill science shows can free you from anxiety—you’re worth it.Send us Fan Mail****About the Host:MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.


