

Gay Men Going Deeper
Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhood
Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life.
Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.
Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.
Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture.
Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.
Episodes
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May 2, 2024 • 1h 3min
Finding and Releasing Your Voice (Self-Expression)
In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for self-expression. They unpack ways to unlock the voice through facing the fears and blockages many of us have about expressing ourselves.
Come spend an hour with Matt and Javier and learn some of the powerful benefits of vocal expression and how it can lead to profound transformation, healing and empowerment.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
How vocal expression supports self expression
How to find and release your voice
The blocks to self expression
The benefits of vocal expression
The benefits of vocal coaching
Today’s Guest: Javier Wallis
Instagram
TikTok
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Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Apr 25, 2024 • 45min
Dealing with Guilt and Regret
In this emotionally stirring episode, we dive into the heavy and complex topic of dealing with guilt and regret.
Sometimes we must face the uncomfortable consequences of our actions and learn how to not remain paralyzed in the shadows of guilt and regret.
Join us as we explore the universal experience of making mistakes, forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and the power of moving forward with resilience
Some of the topics we’re covering today are:
What’s the difference between guilt and regret
How to handle making mistakes in your life and relationships
Dwelling on past mistakes vs. healthy self-reflection
Step-by-step process to help you move on
Letting yourself down
Mistakes as learning opportunities
Acceptance and forgiveness
With personal anecdotes and expert insights, this episode delves into the intricate layers of shame, remorse, and self-reflection.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Apr 18, 2024 • 51min
Financial Empowerment
Financial empowerment is your ability to take control of your finances, make informed decisions, and effectively manage your resources to achieve your goals and improve your overall well-being.
Unfortunately, many people are holding onto limiting beliefs and habits around money that create stress, and leave you feeling disempowered.
In today’s episode, Michael speaks to Personal Finance Coach, CPA, and TedX Speaker, Michael Kim, to guide you toward financial empowerment. Some of the topics they’ll cover are:
The unique financial challenges gay men face
How financial literacy enables you to take greater control of your life
The impact of financial stress on your mental health and relationships
How does your financial situation impact your ability to be authentically you
Dealing with shame and inadequacy around income, debt, and finances
Understanding the influence of your personal money narrative on your financial outlook
Strategies for improving your personal financial situation
Join us for an inspiring discussion on empowering yourself to achieve greater security and unlock opportunities, enabling you to live the life you truly desire.
Today’s Guest: Michael Kim
Instagram
Related Episode: Money Mindset
YouTube
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Apr 11, 2024 • 57min
The Power of Self-Compassion
In this episode, we explore the profound power of self-compassion on our emotional well-being. As we share our own experiences and favorite lessons on this topic, you will discover what self-compassion truly means and practical ways to integrate it into your daily life.
Some of the topics we cover in this episode:
What does self-compassion entail exactly?
The different types of self-compassion
Why it can be hard to practice at times
The significance of embodiment
The role of your inner-dialogue
Re-writing critical narratives
Healing shame
The impact on your self-confidence
Ways to practice self-compassion
If you are looking for practical ways to process emotional pain, while acknowledging and overcoming barriers that hinder self-love and acceptance, this episode is for you.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Apr 4, 2024 • 1h 5min
Healing Through The Subconscious Mind
In this episode, Matt speaks with Intuitive Energy Healer, Scott Clover about the subconscious mind and healing. Scott shares his wisdom on how to evoke the childhood imagination for healing past victimhood so we can move forward into self-esteem. Scott explains how to speak to the body for healing and also shares tips and a few experiential exercises to use to prepare the subconscious mind for transformation. Come learn how to practice self-acceptance and forgiveness for yourself through self-compassion and subconscious healing techniques through an intuitive lens.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
What is the subconscious mind?
Childhood trauma and the impact on the subconscious mind
The stories we tell ourselves as adults can block healing the inner child
Explore empathy, intuition, and hypervigilance in relationship to childhood trauma
How do we evoke the childhood imagination and why this help us heal?
Somatic Semantics® - How do we speak to our bodies and what is our body is trying to tell us?
How can we start to understand the language of the body and the subconscious mind, and how it relates to trauma release so we can heal from our past?
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Come to our monthly Connection Circles
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Sharing Circles
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Follow us on Instagram | TikTok | YouTube
Learn more at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Mar 28, 2024 • 48min
Caring For Your Body
In this episode, we are exploring the multifaceted aspects of caring for your body from the inside out.
In gay culture, it’s easy to overemphasize aesthetics when it comes to any discussion of our bodies. But our bodies are more than just their external appearances.
Today we are flipping the script and offering a refreshing perspective on self-care practices. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are:
Unconventional ways to care for your body
Self-care habits that we swear by
Motivations for maintaining physical fitness
How aging can change your relationship with your body
Practical tips that promote holistic well-being
Fostering a deeper connection with your body
Body positivity
By adding in our own personal anecdotes, we hope to inspire you to cultivate a more loving and compassionate relationship with your body.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Come to our monthly Connection Circles
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Mar 21, 2024 • 1h 5min
The Anxious Gay Mind
In this episode, Michael and Pepper of The Gay Good are exploring the unique stressors that contribute to anxiety in the lives of gay men.
They’re sharing personal experiences, coaching tools, coping mechanisms, and insights on how we can support each other through the challenges of anxiety.
Some of the topics we cover in today’s episode:
The difference between anxiety and anxiety disorder
The role of minority stress
Feeling pressure to meet unrealistic expectations
Social media and dating apps
The environmental factors that contribute to anxiety
How to recognize anxiety in your mind and body
Mindfulness techniques that help provide relief
Useful and not-so-useful coping mechanisms
Processes for responding to your anxious gay mind
Tune in for this candid conversation filled with insights and strategies for navigating anxiety as a gay man.
Today’s Guest: Pepper
Instagram
Resources:
Anxiety Disorder (National Institute of Mental Health)
Better Help (Online Therapy)
Anxiety, Fear, and Panic (National Health Service)
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
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Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Mar 14, 2024 • 1h 9min
Body Shaming
Join us as we have a candid and crucial conversation about body shaming within the gay community. We’re sharing personal experiences while shedding light on the layers of societal expectations and standards that often impact self-perception.
We’ll look at the historical context of body image for gay men and its evolution over the years. From the quest for the "ideal" physique to the influence of media and apps, we’re sharing personal stories and providing insightful perspectives on the numerous factors that contribute to body image struggles among gay men. Some of the topics we’re exploring in this episode:
How have you been impacted by body shame?
Media literacy
Depictions of masculinity in social media and p0rnography
What contributes to body shaming in society/gay community?
What can we do to overcome body shaming?
As always we’ll also be sharing ideas for solutions as we discuss the role of media representation, the importance of supportive communities, and the need for collective action to challenge harmful stereotypes.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Mar 7, 2024 • 1h 10min
Mentoring the Next Generation of Gay Men
In this episode, Matt speaks with leadership and culture consultant, speaker, coach, and best-selling author Joe Makston about mentoring the next generation of gay men.
They both share their experiences with leadership/mentorship in their process of coming out. They also unpack how to best become mentors for the next generation so we can end the intense suffering our community endures. It’s through our own healing that we can lead others in their healing; this conversation shines light on how we can best do this as a community.
The questions and concepts discussed in this episode are:
Explore the community that was created for us by the previous generation
What has been your experience with leadership in the gay community? (Pros and cons)
What type of mentorship did you have or wish you had when you were coming out?
How can we have platonic intimacy when the connection calls for it?
What are the skills that are required to thrive in the gay community or have healthy relationships with other gay men?
How can we best mentor the next generation to have a positive gay experience?
Connect with Matt:
Instagram
Website
Connect with Joe Makston:
Email
Instagram
Facebook
LinkedIn
- viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Feb 29, 2024 • 56min
Unleash Your Inner Sexy
Get ready to turn up the heat on this sexy episode of Gay Men Going Deeper as we explore the nuances of what makes you feel sexy from the inside out, and how that authentic allure is perceived by others. From owning your personal style to embracing your quirks, we're revealing the secrets to unlocking your inner sexiness.
Some of the topics we’ll be covering:
How to increase your capacity to feel sexy?
What makes you feel sexy?
How does external validation fit into the mix?
How do you acknowledge your sexiness without being vain or arrogant?
What tips do we have for those who want to feel more sexy?
This is not just about the mirror selfie and Instagram likes – we'll delve into the psychology behind feeling sexy and how it transcends physical appearance. Learn tips and tricks for boosting your self-esteem and exuding that magnetic energy that draws others in.
Join us as we celebrate our inner sexiness and inspire you to shine confidently in your own skin.
Today's Hosts:
Michael DiIorio
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.


