Gay Men Going Deeper

In this powerful episode, we address a topic that affects many but is often shrouded in silence and stigma: sexual abuse. Joining us for this important conversation is Michael Pezzullo, a seasoned therapist who works with trauma and sexual abuse recovery. Together, we explore the impact that sexual abuse can have on one's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Some of the topics covered in this episode are: Ways in which abuse can occur in childhood and/or adulthood  Setting and maintaining sexual boundaries  Navigating consent in queer spaces Common misconceptions we have about sexual abuse  Long-term effects that survivors may experience Unique challenges faced by gay men who have endured abuse Types of therapeutic approaches available for survivors Whether you are a survivor, know someone who is, or simply want to understand more about this crucial issue, this episode offers a compassionate and informative perspective on a topic that deserves our attention and empathy. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Instagram Today's Host: Michael Diiorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

First dates can be exhilarating, nerve-wracking, and everything in between. But fear not! On this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're here to guide you through having a successful first date. Join us as we share expert tips, personal stories, and practical advice for making a lasting impression and setting the stage for a potential connection. Some of the topics we’re covering in this episode: What exactly makes a first date ‘successful’ What to talk about on a first date Techniques for active listening and showing genuine interest Chemistry and attraction   The art of having an engaging conversation  How to handle awkward moments Communication after your date  Whether you're a seasoned dater or stepping into dating for the first time, grab your notepad, pour yourself a drink, and learn how to make your next first date an unforgettable experience. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Nyle Biondi, about anger and how important it is to connect with and release anger from our mind and body. Anger can serve a great purpose if we consciously work with it. It can help us step into our power, and be a messenger of unmet needs or crossed boundaries. Many of us have social conditioning that tells us anger is inappropriate, or perhaps you were even shamed for being angry. Connecting with your anger in a healthy way might just be what's missing from your healing journey. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Anger 101 Other words to identify anger  The difference between anger and rage  Ways unprocessed anger shows up  Your relationship with anger  How to identify it? Implosive vs explosive anger  Why do we repress anger? Why anger is helpful and why we need it The connection between anger and other emotions - primary and secondary feelings The challenges of exploring anger  The benefits of exploring anger How to connect and activate anger in a healthy way  How to release anger from the body Inner child work - letting your inner child have the temper tantrum it didn't get to have  How to soothe your nervous system after feeling anger Soothing is like reparenting  3 Steps to Processing Anger: Connect and activate Past traumas Daily stressors  Personality traits  Release Primal screaming into a pillow  Punching pillows  Slamming pillows on your bed  Chopping wood  Batting cages  Demo rooms  Soothe Deep, slow, and long belly breathing - in through the nose and out slow through the mouth  Hold your hand on your heart  Listen to a guided meditation.  Focus on positive sensations in your body Listen to your favourite song  Smell something nice   Talk to a friend Today's Guest: Nyle Biondi Instagram Facebook Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Instagram Related Links: The Pain-Free Pathway: A Course to Get Out of Pain Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Today, we are unpacking a seldom-discussed, but deeply relevant issue within the gay community: Fear of Intimacy.  Many men grapple with the challenge of opening up emotionally and forging meaningful connections. Often, we find ourselves settling for superficial encounters while yearning for something more meaningful. Today we’re discussing how the same emotional walls that protect us from getting hurt can also leave us feeling isolated and lonely.   In this episode, we are going deeper into the fear of intimacy – its roots, its impact on our relationships, and how we are overcoming these barriers. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are: Signs of having a fear of intimacy  Why we fear the thing we want  Social conditioning The impact of past relationship traumas   The power of vulnerability  Attachment styles  Join us as we share our own experiences with this topic in an effort to shed light on this important issue and dismantle the internal barriers to the deeper connections we truly deserve.   Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this informative episode, anal health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, addresses common questions and concerns about anal sex. If you've ever wondered about issues like hemorrhoids, fissures, or general rectal health, this is the perfect opportunity to get expert advice.  Taking care of your anal health is fundamental to feeling sexy in your body and showing up confidently in your relationships. Unfortunately, there are plenty of misconceptions and taboos surrounding butt health that hinder open discussions and proper care. Today we are debunking myths, dismantling taboos, and providing valuable education on topics such as: Understanding your butt anatomy  Anal cleansing/douching  Types of bottoms  Recommended sex toys and dilation techiques Water vs. silicone lubricants  Reducing pain when bottoming  Proper hygiene practices  Hemorrhoids  Tears, anal fissures, and skin tags  Anal botox Finding proper anal care  Join us for an episode where we are answering the questions you’ve always wanted to ask but never felt comfortable saying out loud. Today’s Guest: Dr. Evan Goldstein Author of Butt Seriously, founder of Future Method and Bespoke Surgical Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

One of the greatest fears that holds us back in love and in life is the fear of rejection.  In this episode,  we are acknowledging the daunting prospect of putting ourselves out there, whether it be romantically, sexually, or professionally. We dissect the psychology of rejection as it pertains to our past traumas, beliefs, and inner narratives. Some of the topics we cover in this episode are:  The need for belonging and connection Being pursued versus pursuing The narratives we construct around rejection The impact of shame and resilience  People pleasing vs. having compassion Normalizing the fear of rejection How to cope with the pain of rejection Reframing rejection to make it more palatable By sharing personal stories,  we confront the harsh realities of shame and insecurity that often accompanies rejection. With empathy and insight, this episode offers listeners a roadmap for navigating the fearful terrain of rejection by offering powerful reframes and new perspectives to face your fears head-on and reclaim your power in the face of rejection. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with Reunion Founder, Brad Wells, and Psychotherapist/ Ayahuasquero, Alex Theberge, about healing with plant medicine (psychedelics).  We unpack the benefits of psychedelics and how plants can be used to heal many common issues where traditional psychotherapy might not be as effective. Psychedelics are becoming more mainstream and their powerful healing benefits are becoming more known. Come on this journey with us and see if psychedelics may benefit your healing journey.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What is Ayahuasca?  What are other types of plant medicines or psychedelics? How does Ayahuasca heal? What can it heal?  Our personal experiences using plants to heal Is plant medicine for everyone? Contraindications?  Healing in community with psychedelics  Learn about a special opportunity to explore Ayahuasca Today's Guests: Brad Wells - Instagram Alex Theberge - Facebook Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel - Instagram Related Links: Learn More About Reunion Link for the Retreat Promo Code to Save $250 on Registration: MLREUNION Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we delve into the complexities of authenticity in the digital age. From Instagram to OnlyFans, we are living in an increasingly performative world where authenticity seems harder to discern.  Today we are going deeper behind the blurred lines between being fake and putting your best self forward. We’ll be discussing the nuances of genuine self-expression versus performative behavior with personal examples and anecdotes to illustrate.  Some of the topics we’ll be discussing are:  Why insincerity thrives in social media  How do you define authenticity?  The pressures to “keep up” with other gay men  The tendency to compete and compare   Is curating your social media still considered authentic? The fine line between being authentic and performative  Ascertaining authenticity in the age of filters and algorithms  Tune in to gain valuable perspectives on social media, insincerity, and the pursuit of authenticity in the digital age. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Join us for a compelling panel discussion as we spotlight the experiences of Asian gay men with our diverse panel of guests. Against the backdrop of intersectionality, our panelists share their personal journeys, confronting stereotypes, and navigating the complexities of race, sexuality, and culture. The sacrifices we make to feel included  Discrimination in dating Common stereotypes and microaggressions   Fetishization  Challenges of visibility Media representation: then and now  Code-switching  The diversity within the Asian community Having a sense of pride in one’s cultural heritage Hierarchies that exist within minority communities  Allyship within the LGBTQ+ community Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking dialogue, we are looking at celebrating intersecting identities and the quest for acceptance and belonging.  Join us for this much-needed discussion that advocates for understanding, empathy, and solidarity among all members of the LGBTQ+ community. Today's Panelists: JP Fernandes Aldwin Era Jarrod Bruce Lee Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, we are discussing the intriguing topic of self-disclosure and its role in fostering genuine connections. Self-disclosure, the art of revealing personal information about yourself to others,  shapes our relationships on various levels.  Join us as we explore the psychology behind self-disclosure, its benefits, risks, and the delicate balance required for meaningful communication.  Some of the topics we’re covering in today’s episode: Knowing what to share and what not to share The fear of being seen Vulnerability hangovers Building trust and intimacy  How we practice self-disclosure  How to maintain boundaries  Coming out as an act of self-disclosure If you’re wanting to enjoy richer, more fulfilling connections in both personal and professional spheres, this episode is for you! Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.