Gay Men Going Deeper

How do you know when it’s time to say goodbye? Whether it’s a relationship or job or a living situation, the best goodbyes are the ones that come from a place of love, not destruction.  In today’s episode, Michael and Star are opening up about their painful decision to close the chapter on their romantic relationship. Some of the topics they’ll cover in this episode are: How and why they came to this decision The importance of knowing when you’ve reached the natural ending  Ways to make the uncoupling process smoother  How they individually grew from this experience How their relationship will change going forward Reflection questions that can help you decide whether you should stay or leave  Tips for having a “good” goodbye Goodbyes are a natural part of life and this episode encourages the idea that goodbyes can be good and peaceful. You can leave a situation full of gratitude and peace rather than resentment and destruction. Connect with Michael: Instagram Website Connect with Star: Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

As gay guys, our relationship with straight men can be quite complicated. In this episode, we’re exploring the complex connection between gay-straight male bonds, from platonic friendship to secret attractions. We'll also discuss common misconceptions and challenges that can arise when navigating these dynamics. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are: Our relationships with straight men How early experiences influenced these relationships What makes straight men attractive Sharing our intimate experiences Whether you're a gay or straight, join us for this episode about exploring the nuances of gay-straight male connections.  Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with Ken Reid, an attachment and trauma informed counsellor, about narcissism in the gay community. They unpack the intricacies of this topic from both perspectives; understanding the narcissistic person, as well as those who attract these types of people into their lives. Come learn what causes narcissism, how to deal with narcissistic people, and what you can do to heal the parts of you that are attracting narcissistic people.    The questions we will be unpacking in today's episode are: What is narcissism?  What causes narcissism?  How might gay men have higher rates of narcissim? How does it show up in the gay community? Dating a narcissist, what would it look like? How can we deal with narcissistic people? Related Topic: Empath and Narcissist workshop Referenced book: The Point of Existence: A.H. Almaas Connect with Matt: Instagram Website Connect with Ken Reid: Email Instagram TikTok Website Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re exploring a more playful and flirtatious side of ourselves as we dive headfirst into the captivating realm of crushes and attraction. Being "boy crazy," may seem frivolous but, today we are unfolding the intricate layers of emotions and experiences that come with navigating attraction. As always, we are using our personal experiences to explore the unique dynamics of attraction, the thrill of infatuation, and the challenges that come with it. The questions we’re unpacking today are: What kinds of guys are you typically attracted to? Are there any specific traits that make your heart flutter?  How do you express your feelings to guys you are interested in? How do you handle unreciprocated feelings? Join us for a candid conversation about the exciting, nerve-wracking, and sometimes surprising journeys of having a crush. Whether it's the electrifying feeling of butterflies or the vulnerability of unrequited love, this episode embraces the spectrum of emotions that make crushes a universal, yet uniquely personal, aspect of the human experience. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In Part 2 of Finding Connection in the Gay Community, we shift the focus towards solutions, strategies, and the transformative power of authentic connections. If Part 1 delved into the challenges, Part 2 is all about fostering meaningful connections and platonic intimacy with other men. In this episode, we provide tangible and actionable ways for our listeners to build and strengthen bonds within the gay community.  Some of the topics we’re covering: Real connection vs. pseudo connection How to connect with others in your own unique way  The power of platonic intimacy  How to cultivate deeper, more authentic connections How to use the Gay Men’s Brotherhood community to connect with others Whether you're navigating a new city, exploring your identity, or simply seeking camaraderie, this episode provides a roadmap for building a supportive community around you. Related episodes: Finding Connection in the Gay Community (Overcoming Loneliness): Part 1 Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper. - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Join us for an intimate exploration into the common challenges and pain points that gay men encounter in our quest for connection within the gay community. Loneliness is a universal experience, but in this episode, we delve into the unique challenges that we face in our community such as: The types of loneliness  What loneliness actually looks like  Shame and stigmas Sex as a solution The need for emotional intimacy This episode feels like a heartfelt conversation, sharing personal stories that aim to dismantle the stigma surrounding the struggle for connection. We discuss the multifaceted nature of loneliness within the gay community and how things aren’t always what they seem on the surface. We aim to foster a deeper understanding of the pain of disconnection, and create a more empathetic dialogue around the challenges of finding connection within the gay community. This is Part 1 of a two-part series, setting the stage for a continued exploration into the transformative power of authentic connections among gay men. Related Episodes: Dealing with Loneliness Friendships with Gay Men Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper. - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In part 2 of this 2-part series, we are focusing on recovery from addiction, including the strategies that proved useful along our respective journeys, and the wisdom we’ve gained in the process. Throughout the episode, we stress the importance of community and offer practical advice for those navigating recovery, while still acknowledging the unique challenges that we encounter along the way. Some of the topics we cover: Different pathways to recovery  Understanding and managing our triggers Enjoying pleasure responsibly    Escapism Part 2 of this series aims to empower listeners with knowledge, empathy, and hope on their journey toward a healthier, more authentic self. Featured in this Episode:  Addiction and Recovery (Part 1)  Reinventing Yourself Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report

In part 1 of this 2-part series, we are exploring the complex and often unspoken realm of addiction and compulsive behaviour. In this episode, we are sharing our own experiences, including substance abuse and behavioral addictions. In doing so, we hope to break the stigma surrounding addiction within the gay community, and foster a sense of understanding and support. Some of the topics we’ll be covering in this episode are: How do we define addiction and compulsive behaviour?  Different types of addiction Factors that contribute to addictive tendencies Common manifestations of addiction within the gay community Join us as we provide valuable perspectives on the intersectionality of gay identity and addiction. Featured in this Episode: Shamelessly Gay Men’s Group Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report

For many LGBTQ+ people, coming out to family is a pivotal moment and significant step toward self-acceptance and living authentically. However, regardless of your age, coming out to family members can be extra challenging due to cultural reasons, family dynamics, and a fear of not being accepted.  Even once we have come out to our family members, we must navigate the delicate balance of how much access we give them into our gay lives, including our intimate relationships. In this episode, we’ll be exploring these questions and more:  How did you come out to your family? How open are you with your family about your sexuality and love life? What tips would you offer someone who is considering coming out to their family? Listen in as we recount moments of fear, courage, and vulnerability in our pursuit of authentic self-expression and acceptance.  If you or someone you know is looking for support, see the resources below or contact us at info@gaymensbrotherhood.com.  Resources Coming Out Guide (for parents): https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/parent-guide-gay/download Coming Out to Your Parents (for LGBTQIA+): https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/how-to-come-out-to-parents/ Trevor Project: Coming Out Handbook - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/the-coming-out-handbook/ Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report

In this extra special episode, Michael welcomes members of his own chosen family to explore the unique dynamics that make chosen families such an important part of the LGBTQ+ experience. While providing a candid look at their own family dynamics, they delve into various subjects including: The importance of chosen family compared to biological family  How bonds evolve over time and what makes them last How their dynamics can be similar to traditional family (for better or worse) Navigating and overcoming conflict  Sharing helpful tips and advice for anyone nurturing their own chosen family  Join us for this particularly personal episode as Michael and his family share thoughtful insights, intimate revelations, and amusing anecdotes. Host: Michael DiIorio Guests: Sean Colyer Gavin Armstrong Star Semper Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report