The Motherkind Podcast

Welcome back to Moment. Moment is your place for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.Another episode with me this week. It is the next installment in my Christmas mini-series to help you have the happiest Christmas ever. This week we are talking about family dynamics. Is it possible to have a drama-free Christmas?Family dynamics can get so tricky at Christmas. Your family know how to push your buttons because they put them there. If you find it triggering and hard, perhaps it is because of what has been set up by our caregivers and the people around us in our early years. Throw in alcohol and high expectations, it isn’t surprising we get triggered over Christmas.I really want to help you today with some tips and ideas for how you might have a more peaceful family dynamic, how not to get triggered and how to enjoy time together.I hope you find this Moment really helpful. Let me know how you can get on.You can watch the full Workshop 3 from the series - Happy families? How to have a drama-free family Christmas - hereFREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is really special. It’s with Mel Robbins.It was such an honour to speak with her. She was in the UK for a few days speaking about her latest book and she made time to speak with me for the Motherkind podcast. When I shared on Instagram that I was speaking with her so many of you DMd me saying how much you love her work and asking how I got her on.I have been following Mel for a long time. She has been really influential in helping me achieve some of the changes I’ve made in my life.Mel is a former layer and one of the most sought-after motivational speakers in the world. Her TedX talk has had nearly 30 million views. And, she is the author of best-selling book the High Five Habit.What I love about Mel is that a lot of her work, tools and ideas come from moments in her life when she was stuck and then found ways to overcome that. And then, what’s so wonderful, is that she finds a way to share, in simple practical ways, what helped her.I first learned about Mel from her book the Five-second rule. She says if you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it. You just say 5-4-3-2-1 and then take the action. It is so simple and brilliant. I use it all the time.Her new tool, which we focus on in this episode, is the High Five Habit. After using this tool for several weeks, her relationship with herself changed. It could help you to change your attitude, mindset and behaviour too.We chat about: The High Five Habit and how it can support your relationship with yourself The most important relationship you will ever have Her challenges and struggles and how she got out of them I love her and find her incredibly inspiring and brilliant and I hope you love the episode too. Let me know what you think of the episode and if you are going to give the high five challenge a go. I have been doing it for 30 days now and find it really works.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Website High Five Habit Instagram FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register.ABOUT MEL ROBBINSMel Robbins is a former lawyer, bestselling author, talk show host, and one of the most widely booked public speakers in the world. Her new book is The High Five Habit.She has spent the past decade coaching, teaching, and motivating millions of people around the world. Her practical, no-nonsense advice and life strategies provide tangible results and skills that help people push through the everyday challenges we all face in life, work, and love.Her social media platforms inspire more than 60 million people every month and her TEDx Talk is one of the most popular of all time, with nearly 30 million views. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Moment. Moment is your place for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.This week’s moment is with me. For the next couple of episodes, I will be talking about Christmas and hopefully giving you some ideas on how to make it easier for yourself this year.In this very short episode, I talk about how to feel calm and less frantic, stressed and overwhelmed by the to-do list. I’m going to give you some ideas and tools to help you arrive at Christmas day not feeling totally stressed out from all the planning and all we have given in December. You too deserve feeling the joy, love and connection this Christmas.In this Moment, I invite you to ask yourself these powerful questions: What is it that you actually want this Christmas, how do you want to feel and how do you want those around you to feel?Next, What are the things on your to-do list that are causing you stress and overwhelm. Make a list.And now, Look at the list, item by item, and challenge yourself on what you can do, ditch and delegate.I hope you find this Moment really helpful. Let me know how you can get on.You can watch the full Workshop 2 from the series - From frantic to calm - the secret to doing less this Christmas - hereFREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this really special episode. Patty Wipfler has been working with families and children for an incredible 46 years. You may not know her name, but you may have heard of her organisation called Hand in Hand Parenting. It’s a nonprofit international resource for parents.Patty is on a mission to help parents by teaching an approach she calls parenting by connection. She also has a book out called Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.Hand in Hand is an incredible organisation and I would encourage you to look at their website. There are so many free resources and it’s all non-profit.They have 135 instructors in 18 countries. She is currently working with Harvard on a research project to bring Hand in Hand tools to early childhood educators.I love having guests like Patty on the podcast. She has an incredible perspective and this comes across in her tone, energy, wisdom and depth of expertise. When someone like Patty speaks, we want to listen.We chat about: Her moment of transformation Her life’s work and mission Crying and what it means if your child cries a lot Why we as parents need to allow ourselves to cry more What happens when we listen to our children’s emotions and when someone listens to ours Hand and Hand parenting tools for an incredible connection and relationship with your children What I take from this episode is that our children’s emotional release is an important and powerful thing that we do not want to shut down or worry about. She tells us that if your child cries a lot, as mine does, and releases a lot of emotion with you, that is an amazing sign of a close connection of safety.When we feel safe with someone, we can release that emotion and that is what we need to do. Crying is life’s natural healer.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Facebook: facebook.com/handinhandparenting Twitter: twitter.com/ListenToKids Website: handinhandparenting.org/blog/ Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register.About Patty WipflerPatty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own.She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities.In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting.She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Moment. Your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.Something a bit different this week because this Moment is with me. Throughout November, I have been delivering free coaching workshops online to help us have a calmer less stressful Christmas, which I think we all desperately need this year.Those of you who have come along and participated have kindly shared how powerful and helpful the workshops have been for you. It struck me that it could be useful for me to use these short Moment episodes to share some of the ideas from those workshops for those of you who perhaps couldn’t make it.For the next 4 Mondays in the run up to Christmas, I am going to be sharing ideas and tools to hopefully help you have your calmest least stressful Christmas ever.In today's moment, I want to talk to you about why you can’t please everyone at Christmas and what to do instead. Why does this matter and why have I chosen this topic? Listen to find out.My call to you at the end of the episode is to ask yourself: What is the one small change I can do to take my power back this Christmas?I also have to thank the revolutionary toy sharing service, Whirli, who have kindly sponsored these workshops which meant I could offer them for free for our community. We have a lot to thank them for. If you want to try the service you can get 30% off using the code: MOTHERKIND. Whirli.com/motherkind FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - The last one is 30 November at 8pm. How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. And go here for the discount. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest says there is a damn good reason why people are struggling. We are not raised to understand ourselves.Dr. Soph is a registered clinical psychologist and a Sunday Times best-selling author of the Manual for being human which is an incredible book.This is such an interesting episode where you are going to learn why going to therapy and seeking to understand ourselves better isn’t selfish at all and how it actually helps those around us.We chat about: Attachment styles, your type and how yours can help you and your parenting The one-minute practice to better be able to connect to your feelings How to challenge your feelings of guilt and why we might feel guilty - it’s not what you think It’s my whistle-stop tour of some of the most important psychological concepts us mothers need to know about. Here is the episode. I hope you enjoy it.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Instagram @_drsoph Website Her book: A manual for being human FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register.ABOUT DR. SOPHDr Soph has a bachelor’s degree in psychology, a master's in neuroscience and a doctorate in clinical psychology, and is one of the few clinical psychologists in the world right now taking psychology out of the therapy room. After seeing the staggering decline of the nation’s mental health, she left behind her traditional role as a clinical psychologist in the NHS in order to provide more people with the access they need to have good mental health. Since 2018, she has helped thousands manage their emotional wellbeing by sharing her psychological knowledge on Instagram, on her blog and through her online private practice. Dr Soph is an expert for the mindfulness app Happy Not Perfect and has been featured in global outlets including Vice Magazine, Girlboss, Psych Central and Teen Vogue. A Manual for Being Human is her first book. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Moment. Your moment for calm and connection for the week ahead. This week’s Moment is from Ep 27 June 2018 and in it, the world-renowned psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff shares the one tool that has transformed her parenting. And it can help transform yours too.What if I told you there was one tool that is proven to make you stronger, reduce anxiety, and even make you happier. That tool is self-compassion. Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that you would show to a friend.Isn’t it just a truism that we often treat ourselves differently from how we treat those we care about?As Dr. Neff says it isn’t what we face in life that determines how we cope but how we are with ourselves when we face difficult moments. And, aren’t there many difficult moments in parenting that we must face. As she explains in the clip we can either have an enemy or an inner ally.Having an inner ally, a kinder voice inside, actually makes us stronger.She also explains about mirror neurons. This is absolutely fascinating. I like to think about this as emotions being contagious. If we are stressed out and anxious our children will pick up on that and mirror it back on us. The opposite is also true. If they are anxious or tantrumming and we can find some calm and ease within ourselves, as hard as that is, then that will help them quicker than any words that we can say because of these mirror neurons.This is absolutely incredible and I wish that every single parent knew about this. The quickest way to help our children is to calm ourselves first.Here is this week’s clip. I hope you really enjoy it. Please do let me know what you thought. You can listen to the full episode here.FOR MORE ON DR. KRISTIN NEFF, PLEASE SEE: Test how self-compassionate you are here The fantastic books she has authored including ‘Self-compassion @self_compassion on Twitter Kristin’s inspirational Tedx Talk ABOUT DR. KRISTIN NEFFKristin Neff received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley, and is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is with one of the UK’s leading scientists, immunologist Dr. Jenna Macciochi, who is also a mum of twins. This is an incredibly powerful episode about the tension between motherhood and work. So if you have ever felt pulled in multiple directions, then this episode is for you.It is in two halves. The first half is very personal from Dr. Jenna. She shares so courageously and honestly about her experience with burnout and how it was the start of a total realignment of her priorities. I found it incredibly inspiring and thought-provoking. I think you are going to love what Dr. Jenna shares.The second half is from her professional expertise, about winter bugs and what we can all be doing to stay as well as possible this winter.We chat about: What can happen if we don’t look after our health The tension between motherhood and work How to use boundaries to reconcile this tension What to do to avoid getting ill this winter What to do if you do get ill And the answer to the question we all are asking: Is it true that we are all going to be more susceptible to winter bugs because we have been in lockdown and isolation? As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Author of Immunity: The Science of Staying Well Website www.drjennamacciochi.com Instagram www.instagram.com/dr_jenna_macciochi Twitter www.twitter.com/drjmacc FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register.About Dr. Jenna MacciochiDr. Jenna Macciochi has over 20 years' experience as a scientist researching the impact of lifestyle on the immune system in health and disease. A strong advocate of preventative medicine, she is on a mission to break down the science behind our health and share the secrets of how to be well. Based in Brighton, Jenna is a lecturer at Sussex University and a qualified fitness instructor. Her writing has been featured in The Times, Women's Health, Marie Claire, Glamour Magazine and Metro amongst others. She is a mother of 5-year-old twins and a keen home cook, creating recipes inspired by her farm-to-table Scottish roots and capturing her husband’s Italian heritage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to the third ever Moment. Your moment for calm and connection for the week ahead. This week’s Moment is with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who really needs no introduction.Oprah has called her the world’s most profound parenting teacher. She is a best-selling author, international speaker and she is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses all over the world.In this Moment clip, Dr. Shefali shares why we worry so much as parents, why it doesn’t help, and how to embrace the inevitable setbacks in life instead.My invitation for you this week having listened to this moment is - could you take one thing that you feel worried about, maybe something either about yourself or your children and choose to let that worry go and trust that it’s going to be ok and that there are some beautiful lessons hiding in that thing you worry about.Here is the episode and I hope you enjoy it. Click here to listen to the full episode.Resources: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary Check out Dr. Shefali’s parenting, wisdom, and meditation courses. The Year of Manifestation Course by Dr. Shefali. Recordings of Evolve 2019 are now available on-demand About Dr. ShefaliDr. Shefali Tsabary is an author, international speaker, and a clinical psychologist specialising in the integration of Eastern and Western philosophies. She is the author of three best-selling parenting books: The Conscious Parent, Out Of Control and The Awakened Family.She is known as Oprah’s favourite parenting teacher, calling her the world’s most profound parenting coach. Dr. Shefali continues to share her knowledge and passion for conscious parenting through workshops, courses and personal coaching.Get to know more about Dr. Shefali through her website. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Youtube.Worry brings about stagnation.- Dr. Shefali TsabaryAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is my wonderful friend Jessica Huie. I cannot tell you how lucky I am to have her in my life.The word inspirational gets thrown around a lot these days doesn’t it, but Jessica really does live up to that description.She went from being a teen mother expelled from school and living in a hostel, to having an amazing career in PR. She founded two awarding-winning businesses and received an MBE for her contribution to promoting diversity in business.Having built the life she thought she desired and looking very successful on the outside, her father passed away. This gave her an awakening to really assess everything with fresh eyes. She is now on a mission to help us connect to who we really are and to live from the heart rather than the head.We chat about: How to find your purpose (it’s not what you might think) Why control is the enemy of authenticity and joy Why we have the desire to control everything in our lives How to live based on how it feels to you and not how it looks to others How to make bold choices even if they go against the grain Her parenting philosophy How she handled the fallout from moving with her son from Surrey to Jamaica in the middle of a pandemic This is an incredible episode, a very spiritual episode. My hope and intention is that you find real peace and comfort in Jessica’s words. Every time I speak with Jessica it just really helps me cut through the day-to-day stresses and worries and ask myself what kind of life do I really want to live and am I creating it for myself. I really hope this episode does that for you too.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Instagram: @jessica_huie_ Purpose: Pre-order Website FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins on 15 November 2021. Curious? Find out more.About Jessica Huie MBEJessica Huie MBE is the Founder of The Purpose Academy and the entrepreneur whose Color blind cards made history in 2007 as the first independent publisher to secure a presence for black cards in the British High-street.Despite humble beginnings, as a teen mother expelled from school aged 15, Jessica went on to enjoy a glittering career as a journalist and publicist and has worked with some of the world’s best-known stars and business people, including Samuel L. Jackson, Simon Cowell, Kelly Rowland & Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle.Labeled one of Britain’s Most Inspiring Entrepreneurs by the Evening Standard, her first book, PURPOSE, evolved from the profound space between life and death in which she found herself as a carer for her beloved father. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices