The Motherkind Podcast

Welcome back to the second ever Moment. Thank you for taking this moment for yourself to help you feel calmer, lighter and perhaps even shift your perspective a little before the busy week ahead.This week’s Moment is with Dr. Gabor Maté. I am sure you know of him. He is a renowned addiction expert, speaker and author and sought after for his expertise on trauma, addiction, stress and childhood development.This is one of the most powerful conversations I have ever had on the podcast. It is still the most downloaded ever to date.It was so hard to choose a 10-minute clip. It is no exaggeration that I have listened to this episode about 5 times this morning trying to find the most powerful clip for you.The whole episode is just remarkable and powerful. I did manage to kick my perfection out of the way and decide on one. In this Moment he talks about why it is so hard to be a mother today and why it is our profound responsibility to keep being curious about our own behaviour on this remarkable journey of motherhood.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Find out more: Full episode, click here Hold On To Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, PhD, and Gabor Maté, MD Follow his work on Facebook, Twitter, and his website. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November 2021. Curious? Find out more.About Dr. Gabor MatéDr Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author who teaches about human development through the lens of science and compassion. He is a retired medical doctor who has over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience.Dr. Gabor empowers people to promote their own healing by presenting a broad perspective on issues such as drug addiction, childhood development, trauma, and mental illness. His books include ‘In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction’, ‘When the Body Says No’, and ‘Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers’, written with Dr. Gordon Neufeld. He is currently writing his next book, ‘The Myth of Normal: Illness and Health in an Insane Culture’. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest was suggested by many of you. And now after speaking with her, I know why. She is awesome.Lyndsey Hookway is paediatric nurse, children’s public health nurse, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Holistic Sleep Coach, Ph.D. candidate, and birth trauma recovery practitioner.She is the author of three books: Holistic Sleep Coaching, Let’s Talk About Your New Family’s Sleep, and her latest book called Still Awake. She is also co-founder of the Holistic Sleep Coaching programme.This is a really powerful episode about trusting ourselves in all areas of parenting but particularly sleep. We also talk about how hard that can be when we are exhausted or bombarded with conflicting information about how to get more sleep for both ourselves and our children no matter what age they are.We chat about: How to stop stressing about sleep Why there aren't any techniques that work for everyone The danger of the new sleep industry The big sleep myths How to find your instinct even when you are so tired Her own powerful journey with sleep What to do if you can’t sleep even though you have the opportunity to The importance of self-belief Once you hear it, I think you are going to want to share it with so many of your mum-friends. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Instagram: @lyndsey_hookway Facebook: @LyndseyHookway Website: https://lyndseyhookway.com/ Holistic Sleep Coaching - available on Amazon and direct from the publisher PraeclarusPress.  Let’s Talk About Your New Family’s Sleep - now available on Amazon and from Pinter & Martin.  Still Awake - now available on Amazon and from Pinter & Martin.  FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Lyndsey HookwayLyndsey is an experienced paediatric nurse, children’s public health nurse, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Holistic Sleep Coach, Ph.D. candidate, and birth trauma recovery practitioner. She has worked in hospitals, clinics, the community and within clients’ homes for 20 years, serving within the UK NHS, in private practice and voluntarily.Lyndsey is a respected international speaker and teacher, and she regularly speaks out against the dominant sleep training culture, as well as advocating for the rights of families to receive high-quality, compassionate and expert lactation and respectful, responsive parenting support. She is the author of Holistic Sleep Coaching (2018), Let’s talk about your new family’s sleep (2020), and Still Awake (2021) and is currently working on three more books that will be published in 2022. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the very first episode of the MOTHERKIND MOMENT. Every Monday I am going to release a short inspirational clip from one of my previous episodes. My intention is to give you a moment of joy, inspiration and perhaps even shift your perspective as we start a new week together.A little moment of Motherkind every Monday before the crazy week ahead.Today's Moment is 10 minutes long with sustainability author and speaker Jen Gale. It is in honor of COP26 climate talks in Glasgow, which started yesterday. Jen brilliantly breaks down the issues and the incredible power we each have to be part of the solution.You can listen to the full episode here.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November 2021. Curious? Find out more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We have a special episode for you this week. If you followed my story about the birth of my first daughter, Jessie, who is nearly 6 now, you know that was a huge moment of transformation for me.Jessie was born, but also so was I. It was such an empowering experience for me that I felt called in my purpose and mission to work with mothers. So much so that I quit my corporate job of 12 years to start Motherkind. It was my purpose then and I feel that even more strongly today.This week’s guest was a hugely important part of that experience for me. Her name is Hollie de Cruz. Many of you will already know Hollie. She is a renowned birth coach, podcaster, author of Your Baby, Your Birth, and Motherhood Your Way and a mother of two boys.In many ways, we have lived parallel journeys of healing. This isn’t really an episode about birth. We touch on it and talk about it, but, this is actually an episode about purpose. It’s about healing and getting more and more comfortable about who we are.She is incredibly honest and vulnerable about her journey over the past few years and what that has meant for her and how she is different today.I think you are going to love this one. I hope you enjoy it.We chat about: Hollie’s journey and what it has meant to her Finding purpose The path of healing Asking ourselves: What is the fear? As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Yes Mum Cards - www.yesmumcards.com Instagram: @theyesmummum FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Hollie de CruzHollie is a renowned birth coach, author of Your Baby, Your Birth and Motherhood Your Way, podcaster and mother of two boys. She makes award-winning positive affirmation cards and is founder of the yesmum birth project – a hypnobirthing home study programme that supports women all over the world to feel empowered in pregnancy, birth and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this episode of the Motherkind podcast. My guest this week says that motherhood is a journey that has the power to help us evolve and transform. If you are a regular listener of this podcast then I know that will resonate with you.Shelly Robinson is the founder of Raising Yourself. She was also suggested by tons of you when I asked who you wanted me to have on the podcast.Shelly is a holistic family wellness coach, a workshop facilitator, and a conscious parenting advocate. She is on a mission to teach busy mid-life mothers how to heal unhelpful patterns and develop strong emotional health that they can pass on to their children.This is something that we talk about every week on this podcast. I hope you are going to love this episode.We chat about: Where does our deep well of anger come from? How to create a home where everyone’s voice is safe 2 truths and a lie The work of raising ourselves Disrupting generational patterns As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Website - LINK Instagram - LINK FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Shelly RobinsonShelly Robinson is a certified holistic family wellness coach, cycle-breaker, conscious parenting educator, and the creator of Raising Yourself. Her passion in life is to empower moms to turn their midlife crisis into midlife magic by teaching them how to reparent themselves, disrupt generational patterns, and take radically good care of their needs.When she's not connecting with her online community or geeking out on the latest neuroscience of cycle-breaking, she's likely making a mess in the kitchen with her two kids, trying to find her way out from under a pile of laundry, or decompressing with a good mystery in bed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this very special episode of the Motherkind Podcast created in partnership with the innovative and conscientious Whirli.I am super excited to be working with Whirli which is the UKs revolutionary toy subscription service.Think of it as the sharing economy for toys. It makes so much sense, doesn’t it? Sharing toys. What children like to play with changes so quickly and you can never predict what they are going to love or not even play with at all. I certainly would not like to add up all the money I have wasted on toys the girls never played with. Not to mention the additional mental load of researching and buying the right toys at the right time.I love Whirli because it’s a solution to all of that. Plus, it’s so much more sustainable than each of us buying all those toys. Think of it as a more affordable & sustainable alternative to buying toys. And more fun and memorable.This episode is created in partnership with Whirli because I was thinking about the best way to tell you about Whirli and the service, and I think this is it! I actually interview its founder Nigel Phan. Because who better to explain it.Let me know what you think of the sharing economy for toys. Will it work for you? And if you like this episode then I recommend you listen to, if you haven’t already, my conversation with Jen Gale Ep 140 You have more power than you think.We chat about: How it works and why How to get involved How to make Christmas buying so much easier this year As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Whirli homepage: https://bit.ly/giveitawhirli Whirli browse toys: https://bit.ly/whirli-toys Motherkind offer: https://bit.ly/motherkind - 30% off half-yearly Toy Box subscription (pay £57 instead of £81) MOTHERKIND to be entered at checkout FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you fee like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.ABOUT NIGEL PHANNigel grew up in Singapore and moved to the UK over 15 years ago to complete his education. He then spent 5 years as a management consultant at McKinsey & Company, where he was a junior Partner in the London office consumer retail practice. In 2018, Nigel left his corporate job to start Whirli - a venture that uses the power of sharing to help parents save money, declutter their homes, and consume eco-consciously. Nigel is also very passionate about helping children maximise their potential and opportunities. At Whirli, a strong emphasis is placed on early years development and the importance of learning through play. Nigel also volunteers as the Chair of the Board of Trustees for The Kids Network, a London-based charity providing mentorship to children who are going through extremely difficult challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This could possibly be one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the Podcast. Nova Reid is a Ted speaker, anti-racism activist, and author. Her incredible debut book The Good Ally is out now. I think the book should be required reading. It is informative and incredibly researched, kind and compassionate. Nova invites us to do the self-inquiry and uncomfortable work of unlearning our own racism.We chat about: What racism is Why the definition we may have in our head isn’t helpful Why we have got to start having conversations with our children about race and how to do it Trauma and racism The heartbreaking impact of racism on Nova’s body It really is an incredible episode. It’s also important for me to say that I have so much to do in my own anti-racism work. To be honest, I have to admit to you that I was nervous about talking to Nova and having this conversation.What I’m learning is how important these conversations are, especially if you are uncomfortable.You will hear me in discomfort, with some shame and guilt. I think that is part of the importance of having these conversations and doing this work. As Nova says, there is always something to explore in what comes up for us.I hope you enjoy the episode. Please let me know what you think.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Nova on Instagram Conversations with Nova Reid Podcast Anti-racism course Debut Book, The Good Ally FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.ABOUT NOVANova Reid is an Activist, TED speaker and author, with a mission to improve racial justice by helping people be the change they want to see by courageously unlearning their racism. Nova uses her professional background in mental wellbeing to encourage meaningful change from the inside out. Nova regularly appears on BBC News, Sky News and BBC Radio as a media expert and in 2018 was invited to attend the Royal Wedding of the Duke and Duchess of Sussex to provide expert media commentary on race. Her new book is the Good Ally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this very special episode of the Motherkind Podcast created in partnership with our lovely friends at Barbie.Do you remember last year when we had Dr. Michele Borba on the show talking about this amazing new research that Barbie had done with Cardiff University about doll play and empathy?Well, that study for the first time ever, through neuroimaging, showed that doll play activates the part of the brain that allows children to develop empathy and social processing skills.So many of you loved that episode. I think for lots of us it was a real aha moment that doll play even when played alone, can help develop those empathy skills that we want our children to have.I think that was especially important and interesting given the backdrop of the pandemic when those social interactions had been so limited.This episode is like the next installment to that conversation. Lots of you got in touch and asked about how to help your children play with dolls.So we have an amazing play expert on, Emma from the Playful Den. What Emma doesn’t know about play isn’t worth knowing. She is incredible.What I really took from this episode is that I am becoming increasingly fascinated with doll play and, secondly, just how amazing doll play is for helping our children understand the world around them. And don’t we need that for them right now.It is created in partnership with Barbie - I hope you love it.We chat about: What’s really going on when children play How to use doll play to help our children develop empathy How to process different social situations I think it is a real shame that doll play is associated as a girl’s activity.- Emma, The Playful DenAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: The benefits of doll play according to neuroscience LINK A doll can help change the world - Video The Playful Den FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.About Emma WorrolloEmma is the founder of The Playful Den where she translates her experience of looking at the world with childlike wonder and curiosity. The Playful Den has grown to be a place for courses, coaching, live events and content creation for people who want to play more.Thank you Barbie for sponsoring this episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Here is something a little bit different for you this week on The Motherkind podcast. I was recently interviewed on the Parental Control My Baba podcast with the lovely Leo Bamford. I’m sure many of you know that podcast and perhaps listen to it.I enjoyed the conversation so much, I thought I would put it out here as our episode this week.Leo and I had a such wide-ranging conversation. She was such a fantastic interviewer.We chat about: The power of giving ourselves just a few minutes Feelings and emotional health Identity Digital overwhelm Matressence Modern motherhood We teach our children by modeling more than anything we say.- Zoe BlaskeyAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: My Baba website Parental Control - The My Baba podcast @mybabainsta Motherkind group coaching programme - More info here GROUP COACHING STARTS 29 SEPTEMBER 2021 Last June I ran my first group coaching programme. It was such a success, I’m so excited to be running another one starting on the 29th of September. We still have a few places left. If you are curious please have a peak on the website and read the reviews from our first group. I’d love you to be part of it.FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is such a powerful episode. My guest today is Bethany Webster. She is the global expert on healing the mother wound.You might be thinking what is the mother wound? Do I have one? How do I know if I have one?Bethany would say most of us are carrying some wounding from our own mothers.The mother wound is when we split off from our authentic selves because of conscious and subconscious messages from our own mothers about who we need to be, about who they need us to be or about who society needs us to be.Our beliefs about ourselves are generally formed between the ages of 0-7. That is so powerful. And that is exactly the same time we need our caregiver’s love to survive. So what do we do? We adapt. We split off from who we really are to become who we think we need to be in order to get that love.And that is the mother wound.It is important to say that this is not about mother bashing or shaming our mothers. We are all mothers and know how challenging this role is.Bethany’s call to us is to look at this so it may be less likely that we will pass it on to our own daughters.This is an incredibly powerful episode and I think Bethany’s work is game-changing.We chat about: What is the mother wound Why we need to talk about it Shame-based identity What is the mother gap and how do we fill it Healing intergenerational patterns The difference between blaming and taking responsibility FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices