The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Happy New Year! I thought long and hard about this kick off show and know how so many of us strive for big change in the New Year but in my experience, small changes lead to big impact. In December I fell upon a book (it actually felt like it jumped off the shelf to me), :) that I have read several times. It's a classic book that you might have read as it came out in 1997. The book is: The 4 Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. I leafed through the book again and a light bulb moment happened. These agreements are key concepts in The Adult Chair AND provide HUGE shifts when applied consistently. So I thought to myself..."THIS is what people need to apply for transformation". The 4 agreements are essential for anyone's transformation so today I am reviewing what they are and how you can start applying them TODAY and experience immediate change in your own life. https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair Charlotte-January 30 -Feb 1 https://theadultchair.com/membership The Adult Chair Membership https://audibletrial.com/Theadultchair The 4 Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom Don Miguel Ruiz Connect with Michelle: https://theadultchair.com/membership/ https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ2buoRyaYIjuBugJqwKzDw https://www.pinterest.co.uk/michellechalfanttheadultchair/ *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

We made it through the holidays! How are you feeling...Drained, relieved, elated? Now is the best time to "clean yourself off" and today and get yourself ready for the New Year. In today's show I explain a bit about how we can be dysfunctionally connected to others and don't even know it. I let you know how you can tell and exactly how you can "cut those cords". Even if we don't have a dysfunctional relationship, it's still important to keep yourself "clean" energetically and to cut the cords with people we know and love so each time we show up with them, they see us as who we are TODAY and not as they knew us from the past. Today at the end of the show, I offer you a guided meditation that walks you through exactly how to keep yourself "cleaned off" and to cut the cords if necessary. This is a wonderful end of year ceremony but can certainly be done year round. The Adult Chair Event-Charlotte https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair-website https://theadultchair.com

In a word, victim energy is just plain yucky. We fall into victim when we least expect it and "think" it feels good. We feel like we deserve to feel this way, we have been wronged for goodness sake...and then we wake up. In today's show I share with you a personal experience I had, where I feel into that victim energy, not once but twice! It felt deserving and great until I woke up to truth, to what was real. It was a wonderful experience as it taught me a lot about victim energy and how sneaky it can be. I give you a few ideas on how to get out of the seat of the victim (located squarely in the Adolescent Chair), and most importantly, that we need to choose to be conscious and make choices that empower us and not disempower us. I hope you enjoy my story (aka-drama) that I fell into and get a good laugh. I now can laugh at myself as well and see the whole experience as a gift. This is an energy I feel very familiar with now and plan not to visit there anytime soon. :) The Adult Chair -Charlotte January 30-Feb 1st https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair Membership TAC Tribe https://theadultchair.com/membership

Today on the show we have Patti Elledge back again to talk about how we can heal our early developmental wounds, attachment wounds, trauma, abuse and more by working with the wisdom of the body. This is not a show about "body work," but instead a show about how we learn to feel our emotions, our felt sense and use our body as a navigation system for healing old wounding. If we don't pay attention to our body, our old wounding lays stuck or dormant in the body. With increased awareness to the body you would be amazed at the healing that can happen. Patti also speaks to us about the Polyvagel system of the body and how nervous system regulation (and getting out of fight/flight) is necessary for true healing. Get ready for this show, it's packed with information for your own healing journey. The Adult Chair workshop https://theadultchair.com/events Somatic Mentoring Course https://Somanticmentoring.com Patti Elledge podcast on Attachment theory https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/111-patti-elledge-teaches-us-how-to-heal-our-attachment-wounds/

Ah the holidays, what a wonderful time of year. The rushing around the shopping the preparing of food the obligations to attend all the parties. It's a codependents nightmare! By the time the first week of January hits we are wiped out and in bed with fatigue from all the caretaking and controlling we did during the holidays. It can be exhausting for us codependents! In today's show, I give you tools and tips for staying "in your own lane" during the holidays and all year long. It's a mini codependents reference guide in today's show. I share with you all about the fatigue, anger, resentment, anxiety and even depression we can get if we are not "careful codependents". There is a way to make it through the holidays in a healthy way and today I give you numerous tips to do just that. From boundaries (and how to set them), dealing with narcissism, in laws, how to self soothe when we are triggered and how to stay connected to your Self (intentional capital S here). You see there is a big difference between our Self and self. Our "self" (small s) is the self that wears a mask to please everyone else. Our "Self" is the Self that knows who we are and strives to live authentically. Lots of information in today's show for you. Remember, life is a journey, an adventure. Don't cling to anything, to any labels (even codependency). See parts like codependency instead as indicators of what we need to give our attention to (temporarily), to keep ourselves healthy and to aid in our transformation. That's it! https://theadultchair.com/events Charlotte, NC event January 30-Feb 1

Happy Thanksgiving all! Today is the day that marks the official "mad dashing" around to get to the parties on time, buying the perfect gifts, lots of rushing here and there with lots of traffic and the common denominator...stress (and of course it's not all bad...we have some fun too). What I hear so much about from people is yes a lot about this stressful time of year but even more about how they lose themselves and don't have time for themselves. In today's episode I give you a few ideas on how to stay connected to yourself and stay grounded despite the holiday craziness. I also give you a wonderful 5 minute meditation that you could (I am having a hard time not saying should here), :) do daily to help you get through the next month. If you are even thinking to yourself, "I don't have 5 minutes"! Then you need to do a 10 minute meditation! We all can build in 5 minutes a day for ourselves and our sanity. This meditation helps with just that. I wish you all a beautiful and safe Thanksgiving! Much love, Michelle https://youtu.be/cFeCUfw657g This is the You Tube link for the 5 minute self love meditation. https://theadultchair.com/events Charlotte, NC event January 30-Feb 1

Childhood sexual abuse creeps into the lives of innocent children on a daily basis. As children, we are defenseless to our abusers. Dr. Gregory Williams was one of those children. On today's show, we have Dr. Gregory Williams on sharing his story of childhood sexual abuse, how to heal from abuse, what the signs are of childhood sexual abuse and lastly forgiveness. We also spoke about the importance of getting ourselves healthy after abuse and how physical illness can stem from unhealed emotional wounds, trauma and abuse. This is an incredible show and it's an honor to have Dr. Gregory on the show being so honest and open about his experience, and now sharing with the world how others can heal from a childhood filled with abuse. https://theadultchair.com/membership Promo code: BIRTHDAY The Adult Chair Membership (Free for month of November)! https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair Charlotte Event Jan 30-Feb 1 Dr. Gregory Book: Shattered by the Darkness: Putting the pieces back together after child abuse. Website: https://Shatteredbythedarkenss.com Dr. Gregory email: gawilli1@texaschildrens.org Dr. Gregory phone: 832-396-6525 ACE's https://acesconnection.com

I am so excited about this show. On today's show I interviewed a client and she was able to find her truth, step into her power and learn how to set boundaries-all in one show! This is a client from our membership group that wes interested in learning how to be free from the stress of pleasing her parents and standing up for herself. Our monthly theme in the membership is "I'm Free" and she wanted further help on how to apply it to her situation. It was an amazing session and she had such breakthroughs. You will be able to hear it in her voice! She even said at one point, "I feel so powerful-I can feel it!" Such a great show and I was thrilled that by the end, she was able to grow herself a very nice Adult Chair and speak from this place. :) https://theadultchair.com/membership Promo Code: BIRTHDAY Free month of membership https://theadultchair.com/30days 30 Day Journaling Challenge https://Takecareof.com Promo Code: ADULT50 50% off your first Care/Of order

On today's show we have one of my favorite people and therapists, on the show-Karen Gelstein. Karen helped us to understand our defenses and how to heal them and change how we react with others. She shares with us how humor, ruminating thoughts, missing red flags, codependency and even addictions are all ways that we defend ourselves to stay safe. We delved into the inner child and how the inner child becomes wounded and the defenses are created. Lastly, she helps us to identify our defenses and gives us the tools we need to heal, so that we can regain emotional balance and reconnect with ourselves and others in a healthy way. As always, Karen delivers a wealth of information for us to help with our own inner transformation. One Free month to the membership https://theadultchair.com/membership Promo code: Birthday Karen Gelstein contact info: karengelstein@gmail.com Karen Gelstein previous podcast: Love Addiction-Love Avoidant https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/102-love-addiction-love-avoidant-with-karen-gelstein/

Happy Halloween! After so many questions coming in about The Adult Chair, I felt like it was time to do a show on this. In today's episode I answer where the Adult Chair is and how to get it back if you've lost access to it. How to find your Adult if you never witnessed a healthy one growing up. Lastly, I answer what the Adult Chair even is. It's a fun episode with examples and the key to gaining your own Adult's wisdom and living with it daily for your own transformation. 30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30Days