The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Today on the show, relationship and attachment expert, Silvy Khoucasian and I have a conversation about attachment in relationships. We talk through all of the attachment styles and how to heal and find secure attachment regardless of your style. We also talk about the importance of boundaries and how to set them as well as shame and trust in relationships and how to build this. Regardless of your attachment style, you are going to find value in today's show and walk away with tools you can begin to use right away! 30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days New website! https://theadultchair.com Silvy Khoucasian on Instagram @SilvyKhoucasian Boundaries offering: https://bryanreves.com/boundaries-silvy/

Wow and what a show this was - Jim Fortin is a genius! On today's show, Jim Fortin, Master Hypnotist and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) was on with me and we discussed how to reprogram the subconscious mind. He teaches us how to break habits, addictions anxiety and depression and why having a healthy self identity and image is vital to success. If you are ready for transformation, buckle up and listen to this show. It's a show not to be missed. Website and Podcast http://jimfortin.com New Website! http://theadultchair.com 30 Day Journaling Challenge http://theadultchair.com/30days Joseph Murphy - How to Change the Subconscious Mind

Relationships with narcissist are insidious. They begin one way and over time, very slowly and covertly, change and become poison. We wake up one day and wonder what we did wrong and how we got here. We blame ourselves and can even feel embarrassed to tell others. In today's very vulnerable show. Tracy shares her story of narcissism. She married a wonderful man and within a 2 year period, her life had drastically changed and she couldn't understand what was happening and began doubting herself. She fell into a depression and lived with anxiety and had lost her self, in 2 short years. Tracy walks us through her story and in the end we offer advice for those that are also in these types of relationships and what you can do about it to begin to build yourself up and find your (true) self again. Website https://theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-podcast 30 Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days Membership site https://theadultchair.com/membership 5 Minute Self Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/ Podcasts: 84-Raising Self Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/84-raising-self-esteem/ 173 Am I in a Toxic Relationship https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/173-am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship/ 174 Building Self Esteem https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/174-building-self-esteem/

Are you ready to shift out of procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing? (I can't imagine anyone that doesn't have their hand up). Well today's show we are diving into The Adult Chair model and looking deeper at our "parts". Our inner unconscious parts are running the show until we bring them into awareness to transform. Today I am going to show you how to use this model and transform your inner parts that are driving you to do things or act in ways that are limiting you. As always, I have included easy to use steps for you to work with this concept today and begin your transformation right away. Get ready for shifts with today's episode! The Adult Chair website: http://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair events: http://theadultchair.com/events Care/Of - For 25% off your first Care/Of order go to: https://TakeCareOf.com Promo code: ADULT

What a show! Today's show with special guest - Marriage and Family therapist, Meghan Crough was as empowering as it was inspirational. Meg answered so many important questions about raising kids. We talked about so many things including temper tantrums or angry kids, how to discipline effectively, boundaries versus control, what to do if you have a spouse or co-parent with different values and ideas about parenting and most importantly how to raise empowered, successful kids. It is a show not to be missed if you are wanting to learn more about parenting successfully. Meg clearly knows her stuff and explained clearly how to raise authentic and healthy kids. http://TakeCareOf.com promo code ADULT http://MeghanCrough.com

This show was incredible! Ramona Reid, Enneagram coach and I had a fascinating conversation about how our childhood wounding affects us later on in life and creates the masks that we wear to cover up our wounding. Ramona does a beautiful job of blending the Enneagram into The Adult Chair and teaches us how to live from our essence (otherwise known as our Adult Chair), regardless of our wounding. She goes over each enneagram type with us and explains how each type has a specific wounding and mask that we wear. This show as as cool as it was informative! Even if you have never heard of the Enneagram, you will benefit from listening as it will deepen your understandings of your wounding and how you are showing up in the world. If you want to listen to the previous two shows that Ramona has been on to deepen your understanding of the Enneagram, see the show notes below. They are all brilliant shows! Resources: http://www.mynashvillecenter.com http://www.holisticrevolution.com Previous podcasts with Ramona: Podcast #51: Find your authentic self in the heart of your Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/51 Podcast #114: Deepening The Adult Chair using the Wisdom of the Enneagram https://theadultchair.com/podcast/114 Recommended Book: Sacred Enneagram by Chris Heuertz

Why do people cringe at the suggestion of setting a boundary? So many people respond with, "I don't like confrontation", when I suggest a boundary. Setting boundaries is tough to do if we were not modeled healthy boundaries growing up. Even if we came from a pretty healthy family, few people grew up with healthy boundary modeling. In today's show I talk about what boundaries are, how to set them, examples of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries and the four key steps and "how to's", to setting healthy boundaries. I also discuss what to do when boundaries "backfire" and we are met with upsetness or anger from another at our simple request. I end with a few take aways of what boundaries are and are not and what to do if you are in a toxic or even abusive relationship. Boundaries are a necessary part of our lives and a key to healthy relationships. This show is filled with great tools and tips to help you to start better taking care of yourself and learning how to set a simple request and teaching other people how to treat you. The Adult Chair San Antonio https://theadultchair.com/san-antonio The Adult Chair Membership (September Theme-I Matter) https://theadultchair.com/membership Boundaries and Defenses https://theadultchair.com/podcast/160 Boundaries versus Confrontation https://theadultchair.com/podcast/26 How do I feel my Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcast/80

We can never have enough self esteem! So many of us didn't have healthy self esteem role models growing up so we are embarking on this journey now. Here's the good news, it's never too late! With the help of The Adult Chair model we can live our lives to the fullest and create happiness when we thought it wasn't possible. Healthy self esteem from The Adult Chair is not only possible, it's happens quickly with these easy to apply 4 steps. Enjoy your journey building up your new sense of self and empowerment in your Adult Chair. https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair 3 day event in San Antonio, Texas October 24-26 https://theadultchair.com/membership The Adult Chair Membership https://GreenChef.com/ADULT75 Enjoy $75 off your first 3 boxes with $25 off each box Podcast on Parts Work: Transform your Parts and Find Self Love https://theadultchair.com/podcast/150

Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels "normal" is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic relationships. In today's show I go over 6 signs of toxic relationships. I explain what to look for in toxic relationships and how to know if you are in one. I also offer next steps to heal and transform yourself out of the toxic relationship. https://theadultchair.com/events The Adult Chair San Antonio October 24-26

What would you think if I told you that joy could be part of codependency? Well it can! Codependency and I have been friends for too many years to count (most of my life). However, in my discovery of this, I have found joy in learning who I am as an Adult and taking my childhood back. I might even say that I find it now as a gift as I now get to discover who I am and it's an exciting journey to take as an Adult. I feel my inner child come through me with excitement and wonder with all of the new thoughts, ideas and plans "we" have for my future. The journey can be an exciting one when we shift our idea about codependency and step out of victim mode. Just because we grew up codependent or are experiencing it now doesn't mean our lives are over! It means our lives can begin and the time is now to experience the joy that comes with this self-discovery process. Free Inner Child download: https://theadultchair.com/innerchild The Adult Chair event-San Antonio: https://theadultchair.com/events October 24-26 Previous podcasts on Codependency: Codependency-I'm ok if you are ok. - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/11 Ending Codependency in Relationships - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/70 Codependency: Ending the Addiction to "Help" others - https://theadultchair.com/podcast/127