The Luella Jonk Show

Not every conversation advocates for problem-solving or open displays of vulnerability. The only conversations that advocate for these behaviors are those in which change needs to happen.    It is typical that in business, we have a problem-solving conversation—not one that calls for a lot of emotion or vulnerability. Why is that? Because we are focused on the end goal, we subsequently check our egos at the door into the boardroom. In business, we know we need to work as a team player or are kicked out of the tribe.    A personal relationship can be vulnerable if we want to establish a deep connection. But most conversations that happen in the kitchen do not require a deep connection. You can plan those for date night. Most of the time, in our personal relationships, we just need to talk and work together to manage the mothership. We need to find the best solution for team WE, a.k.a. our family or our relationship.    Unfortunately, team WE often gets kicked to the side in personal relationships and team I or ME sneaks in. What I want, what is best for ME, etc.     Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

Abby Medcalf is a Relationship Maven, psychologist, author, podcast host and Tedx speaker who has helped thousands of people think differently so they can create connection, ease and joy in their relationships (especially the one with yourself)! With her unique background in both business and counseling, she brings a fresh, effective perspective to life’s struggles using humor, research and her direct, no-nonsense style. With over 35 years of experience, Abby is a recognized authority and sought-after speaker at organizations such as Google, Apple, AT&T, Kaiser, PG&E, American Airlines and Chevron. She’s been a featured expert on CBS and ABC news, and has been a contributor to the New York Times, Women’s Health, Psychology Today, Well+Good and Bustle. She’s the author of the #1 Amazon best-selling book, “Be Happily Married, Even if Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing,” as well as the newly released Boundaries Made Easy, and the host of the top-rated “Relationships Made Easy” Podcast now in over 170 countries. Abby has a way of getting to the point regarding what needs to be done to truly transform your relationship and what will not. In this episode, you will hear us speak a lot about asking more questions and making fewer statements (a.k.a. Criticizing). She reminds us to get out of our heads, make it less about ourselves, and become more curious about our partners.    Connect with Abby Medcalf: https://abbymedcalf.com/  https://www.youtube.com/user/AbbyMedcalfThriving https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/  https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd  https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf  https://www.linkedin.com/in/abby-medcalf-phd-718969b8/   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

Alexander Harmsen is an experienced tech entrepreneur, CEO, board member, and advisor, having founded multiple successful companies and organizations. His work has seen him produce multiple AI-driven products, scale sales globally, hire world-class executives, manage hundreds of employees, raise over $30M in venture capital, and successfully navigate an M&A process. He is focused on hard problems that have a meaningful impact on the world, with 2 kids, and a wife who is equally as ambitious, running her own venture-backed pharma tech business. As I interviewed Alex, I saw many congruencies between running a good business and running a good relationship. If one person’s energy causes a cog in the wheel to break, the whole system can shut down. If one team member is not in sync with the rest of the team, the system will not work. Sometimes, the answer is not just to solve the problem as you would a math equation; it can be much more delicate than that. Alex has the same mindset as a skilled founder as he does as a partner and a dad. This conversation advocates for the willingness to be curious and take the time to answer the questions posed to you, whether it is from a team member, your child or your spouse. These little nuisances are worth investing your time into.    Connect with Alexander Harmsen: https://portfoliopilot.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexanderharmsen/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/globalpredictions/ https://x.com/portfoliopilot https://x.com/alexharm   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

 As a relationship therapist and coach, the topic of sex and the disagreements surrounding sex are not uncommonin my office. Mostly, the disagreement communicated to me is due to the lack of frequency from those who identify themselves as male in gender. As my guest, Elizabeth McGrath, a sex and relationship therapist and sexuality educator located in the Los Angeles area, explains so eloquently, sexuality and exploring one’s preferences, level of desire, and frequency widely varies across different individuals, as well as across the lifespan of the couples’ time together.  Ms. McGrath works with individuals and couples, guiding them as they learn to value their own pleasure and overcome obstacles to satisfying sexual self-expression, resulting in exhilarating sex lives, embodied attachment and fulfilling relationships with themselves and others.  In 2011, Elizabeth graduated with a master’s in social work and became a certified yoga instructor and somatic breath worker, which added a physical and breath-focused level to her work. Trained in the Somatica Method™, she speaks both locally and internationally about sexuality, gender, sexual expression and sexual performativity.   Connect with Elizabeth McGrath here: https://thesomaticsextherapist.com/   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

In this solo episode, I discuss how the most successful business owners, executives and team players listen more than they speak. These folks do not have the need to be the centre of attention. Instead, they become curious and inquisitive when speaking to their business or intimate partner. They are more interested in you than in themselves and their prerogatives. This is, of course, true in personal relationships. John Gottman, a well-known psychologist specializing in interpersonal relationships, often examined how conflict was resolved during political discussions during times of war, hoping to help his clients work through marital relationships. Great leaders listen more than they speak to influence their speaking partner. That’s the secret sauce.    Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

Sandy Weiner is the Chief Love Officer at Last First Date. She's an internationally known TEDx speaker, dating and relationship coach, author, and podcast host. Her approach to coaching is holistic, encompassing a hybrid mix of life coaching, Neurolinguistic Programming, and Non-Violent Communication.  She’s the author of Becoming a Woman of Value, How to Thrive in Life and Love and Choice Points in Dating: Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love. She’s also the host of two popular podcasts, Last First Date Radio and The Woman of Value Podcast, and she believes it's never too late to have the life and love you want! In this episode, we focused on how to make dating more productive, efficient, and, most of all, FUN. Sandy reminds us that we always have a choice at every point of the dating process, from the location of the first meet-up to the amount of texting during the day. It is important to voice your needs at the beginning of the relationship, not midway through. We discussed trusting your gut and how this is different from your intuition. You will also discover the method for creating a list of must-haves and deal breakers for finding your ideal partner and the best tips for anyone who wants to go on their last first date. FREE GIFT for MBWP Listeners: Get two free chapters of Sandy's new book, Choice Points in Dating, and learn how to make healthier decisions in love. https://lastfirstdate.com/book-bonuses-sign-up-page-2/   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk https://lastfirstdate.com/ Becoming a Woman of Value, How to Thrive in Life and Love:  https://a.co/d/e1sgsCw Choice Points in Dating: Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love: https://a.co/d/4wnXgAi   This podcast provides general health information and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance. The views expressed here are not a replacement for expert medical opinions.

Yes, I decide to close up this Podcast! In this final episode, I explain why. The health and wellness space is flooded with fear-inducing health claims, often implying that you need to invest in various products to improve your well-being. It’s making us stressed and may even be causing orthorexia for some. Very few people are telling you what you really need to hear, which is that you need to dumb down and simplify your life. This doesn’t cost you money and only requires common sense—not a biochemistry degree. I will continue to interview expert guests, just on another show. Listen in to learn more about why I am doing this and what my intentions are for the new show, Mixing Business With Pleasure.  Vroom Vroom!! Let’s go!!   My Program for Entrepreneurs, Executives and others who are addicted to dopamine:  https://mixingbusinesswithpleasure.com   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk

In this episode, we explored many exciting and surprising points. However, they all circled back to one crucial theme: the importance of defining your purpose. This is the key to feeling fulfilled in your personal relationships and financial goals, and it's a journey that can inspire and motivate you. Andrew uses science and experience to validate his teachings in a way that is impossible to argue against. If you were to track the historical data over time, it would be all there—if you care to look at it. Doing so would provide you with great insight in to why you have found yourself in the state you are in right now. However, most people would rather ignore their spending habits and, possibly, their partners by going after instant gratification. Tune in to discover how listening, being curious, and avoiding a me-centric mindset can lead to more happiness and security in finances and personal relationships.    My Program for Entrepreneurs, Executives and others who are addicted to dopamine:  https://mixingbusinesswithpleasure.com   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-hallam-44b81627/

In true ‘Luella’ style, which some might call somewhat disorganized, I did a mind dump for this episode on all the reasons why you might be feeling lost and apathetic about life. This episode is for the person trying to find a sense of meaning and happiness in everyday life.  In this episode, I uncover: The importance of having a sense of community while also spending more time in solitude. The need to connect with Source, albeit God or another higher power. Why is it never a means to an end but rather a journey that will feed the soul. How self-awareness is the first behavior you must strive towards in order to change.  Most of humankind’s lack of focus keeps them in a scarcity loop. How abundance is already yours and how gratitude will allow you to see it.  My Program for Entrepreneurs, Executives and others who are addicted to dopamine:  https://mixingbusinesswithpleasure.com   Relevant Links | Social Media: https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk

Today, I had an enlightening conversation with Dennis Wong, a functional and integrative registered pharmacist, about the various manifestations of stress on a physiological, emotional, and mental level. We combined his expertise in pharmacy (the science) with my observations of stress in my therapy room (psychology). In essence, stress presents itself in physical and emotional signs, and it is crucial for us to heed these signals from our bodies on a daily basis, empowering us to take control of our well-being. Dennis is a seasoned Metabolic, Nutritional, and Functional Medicine Consultant Pharmacist committed to guiding individuals on their journey to optimal health and wellness. He leverages an in-depth understanding of the underlying causes of health issues, combining nutritional guidance and lifestyle enhancements to devise personalized solutions. In 2007, Dennis was honored with a fellowship in Anti-Aging, Nutritional & Metabolic Medicine from the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine (A4M). He earned the distinction of Diplomate with the American Board of Anti-Aging Health Practitioners. Further expanding his expertise, he became a Certified Clinical Nutritionist in 2008 and was recognized as an Institute for Functional Medicine Certified Practitioner in 2015. Dennis offers comprehensive strategies to empower individuals to achieve sustained health improvements through these prestigious certifications and his innovative approach.   Relevant Links | Social Media: New 1:1 Coaching Program for Entrepreneurs and Executives: https://mixingbusinesswithpleasure.com https://luellajonk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/luellajonk/ https://www.facebook.com/luellajonkemotionalhealth https://linktr.ee/luellajonk https://www.cinden.com/ https://www.instagram.com/healyoufromwithin/