Your Secret Is Safe With Me

There is often a lot of shame that comes with talking about sex. Am I sexy? Is my libido too high or too low? What if I can't get my partner to orgasm? What if I can't climax? Is it too kinky to introduce toys—or not kinky enough? Amy Baldwin deals with a lot of shame in her work as a sex educator and coach. But, she doesn't think we should shy away from these intrusive thoughts; in fact, she says that ignoring our insecurities will only cause them to eventually bubble to the surface. Instead, Amy's advice is to use that shame as a teacher. By embracing these thoughts, you can get to the root of your feelings, free yourself from any restraints, and step into the fullest experience of yourself—in and out of the bedroom. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as she sits down with Amy Baldwin, a Sex and Relationship Coach and the Co-host of the Shameless Sex podcast. Amy shares her insight on how to deal with shame around sex, the importance of working together in partnerships, and the different ways you can find more sexual pleasure in your life—on your own terms. Stay tuned!

Here's a tricky question: should you tell your partner if you've cheated on them? While many people believe that there is a simple "yes" or "no" answer, this question may be a bit more complicated than we think. Disclosing your infidelity to your partner isn't a matter-of-fact situation. As Dr. Marie Murphy says, you're not obligated to tell anyone about your affair—whether it was a one-time thing or a long-term relationship. But, every action has a consequence, so regardless of what you decide to do, it's important to carefully consider your honest wants and needs. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about whether or not you need to tell your partner about your infidelity. She shares the first two things to consider when making a decision, the red flags to look out for in your decision-making process, and the various complexities of telling the truth. Plus, Dr. Murphy dives into her recommendations if you do decide to tell your partner that you've cheated. Stay tuned!

There is a whole mess of social pressures around considering divorce: what will your family and friends think? What will a separation do to your kids? How will you be viewed in social and professional spaces after getting divorced? But, what about the financial considerations? What happens if you and your partner are both in agreement that a separation would be best, but you don't think you can afford to make it happen? This is where a financial analyst comes in handy. They can help you make the best decisions depending on your financial situation, so you can regain your freedom and start planning for the rest of your life. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as she sits down with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Shawn Leamon. Together, they discuss the benefits of working with a financial advisor during your divorce proceedings, whether there's ever a bad time to get separated, and the different options available to you in the process. Plus, Shawn will explain some of the details on the division of assets and why it's in everyone's best interest to remain civil. Stay tuned!

So, you've had an affair and your family has found out about it. What now? Before you can even contemplate making a decision, the first thought that runs through your mind is: what about the kids? It can be incredibly difficult to navigate complex situations such as infidelity when you're just dealing with yourself and your partner—but add your children into the mix and it can feel downright impossible. While Dr. Marie Murphy says this is completely normal, there is something you're going to have to examine if you want to come out on the other side alive and ready to thrive: control. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by John Corcoran of Rise25 to discuss how to talk with your children about issues that impact your family dynamic—whether that's infidelity, separation, or anything else. Together, they share how to responsibly start the conversation, what to do when more family gets involved, and Dr. Murphy's advice for supporting your kids beyond the immediate aftermath. Keep listening!

The New Year is fast approaching and everyone's mind has turned to the same thing: resolutions for 2021. But before you start listing down all the things you want to change for the coming year, there are two important questions that you might not have asked yourself in a while that can help you determine what to add to your list: What do you really want? And more importantly, why do you want it? According to Dr. Jonathan Horowitz, getting honest about your answer to the questions above won't just help you set your intentions for the upcoming year, they can also mean the difference between a few months of change that gradually weakens and steadfast habit-forming. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as she sits down with Dr. Jonathan Horowitz, CEO and Founder of SF Stress and Anxiety Center. Together, they discuss their own experiences with resolution-setting, Dr. Horowitz's best practices when it comes to making fruitful changes in your life, and why your happiness may be the most important thing to factor into your goals. It's an insightful episode that can help set the tone for your 2021 and beyond, so make sure to tune in.

When something big happens in your life, it doesn't just affect you—it also impacts everyone around you. This is especially true when you have children. So, how do you navigate talking to your kids about the more difficult life changes, such as infidelity, separation, or divorce? Instead of descending into a nervous sweat or putting on the cone of silence, parenting coach Abigail Wald says to take it a little bit easier on yourself. Why? Because your children are incredibly capable—and they probably know more than you think. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by Abigail Wald, the Founder of Mother Flipping Awesome. Together, they talk about how to handle difficult conversations with your children, navigating the complex boundaries between parent and child, and the importance of relinquishing control as a parent. Plus, Abigail shares some of her hardest parenting moments and how she was able to move forward. Keep listening for more!

What's in the cards for the future of your romantic relationships? Undying love? Heartbreak? Freedom—or constraints? If you're curious to know what lies ahead, you may have considered going for a card reading to find out. But, according to medical intuitive Courtney Moore, the Tarot isn't for future-telling—it's for guidance. Courtney sees the Tarot as an information gathering system to help you make the decisions that will best serve you (and that you may have been putting off). Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as she sits down with acupuncturist and medical intuitive, Courtney Moore. Together, they talk about how to use the Tarot effectively and earnestly in your life, the complexities of compromise and discomfort, and Courtney's guidance for people grappling with infidelity. Plus, Courtney does a revealing card draw for Dr. Murphy. Stay tuned for more!

Have you ever felt responsible for your partner's feelings? When they're reacting to something you've done, it can be hard not to feel like it's your job to make them feel better. But, guess what: someone else's emotions are not under your control—nor should they be. According to Dr. Marie Murphy, taking responsibility for your feelings, and your feelings alone, is an essential step in building a healthy relationship—or dealing with the aftermath of an affair. As she says, there is only one path to freedom, and it involves taking ownership of your individual emotions, behavior, and business. In this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me, Dr. Marie Murphy sits down with John Corcoran of Rise25 to talk about the reality of infidelity. Together, they discuss the different emotions you may feel as a result of being cheated on, what to let go of in pursuit of a healthier relationship, and why your partner's feelings aren't your responsibility—but being considerate is. Keep listening.

We've all seen the movies: someone suspects they're being cheated on, so they call a private investigator to follow their partner in a high-speed chase that ends in a dramatic scene. However, the reality is just a bit different. Art Tilis, a private investigator and the Owner of Foglight Investigations, has received many calls from clients who believe their partner is having an affair. According to Art, the investigation process is a bit different from what we've seen on television and the big screen—but he has still experienced his fair share of climactic scenes, pun intended. Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as she sits down with Art Tilis, a private investigator and the Owner of Foglight Investigations. Together, they talk about Art's process for investigating a suspected cheater, some of the more interesting cases he's had, and his advice for if you suspect your partner may be having an affair. Stay tuned.

When it comes to infidelity, there are a lot of different thoughts that may run through someone's mind. Why did this happen? Did I do something wrong? And, importantly: what do we do now? The response to infidelity looks different for everyone. While some couples may choose to work it out, others may look to divorce—which, in many cases, involves the discussion of custody agreements, property division, spousal support, and more. In today's episode, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by Rodrigo Dias, a family law attorney, to discuss the first steps to take if the path you're on is leading toward divorce. Tune in to today's episode of Your Secret is Safe with Me as Dr. Marie Murphy talks to Rodrigo Dias, Partner at Greene Taubman Dias Chernus Simborg & Dominguez LLP, about the best practices for handling a divorce following an affair. Together, they discuss your legal rights if your partner finds out about your infidelity, how to have healthy conversations about custody, and the lessons to learn from the cases that have come through Rodrigo's office. Keep listening!