Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.”― Mary Oliver

Can you say more about the idea of self centeredness qualities when there is no self?There is a best friend of my partner's who this mind judges as cheap, selfish, know it all, and self centered. Which of course is just a reflection of how I am being...or rather what this system does based on what is believed. And the same is true for him.There is resistance to not liking him, to feeling these judgments. Resisting them makes it worse. Beyond noticing this system flip flopping in pretending to like him out of politeness and likely being a jerk...what is there to see?Thank you,

I am probably someone who keeps things, mysery in place, especially hurtful thinking, living, that I don't recognize it anymore etc. Or I am just to scared to do something about , acknowledge it. Or don't care. New or nice things are not allowed, I can't or don't know how to enjoy that anymore. Or if I feel it, it's not important, enough etc. or I numb. (automatically). For me it almost means 'that's just how I am' , sometimes it feels I am' killing', destroying myself, giving up. In a way I feel like a lost person. Asking, talking to people but no change. Listening, reading, sometimes a bit of relief. Tired of it. (you will probably say, I am not..) Maybe I am too defensive, controlling, protecting. That I don't want to change. When I ask 'what's at stake', nothing is I guess. The high tone in my head is not helping it's there all the time, never quiet. Feeling like a robot quite often because of this, probably all thinking. I don't know what I am asking, I guess I just want to share, vent.I guess I am scared.. 

When you say "that's why we're here" I just can't seem to get on with the video, my mind is just too intrigued by this as it sounds like you say we have "a purpose" on this earth. Could you maybe please elaborate? 

I’m writing you because I am desperate. Since the days before 3P, when I was in a constant state of desperation, living from one therapy session to another, I haven’t been so desperate. It feels like total regression.I reached a point of total hopelessness. You say it’s something good, but it feels just awful. I took your advice and let the topic of weight loss rest for the duration of the Home course. This showed me a total unhappiness I am living in, like being totally separated from life. Or maybe I cannot be separate from life, but I don’t want the things life gives me, I fight with them, and I can’t stop myself from fighting. My whole day is a fight and desperation and not wanting to.It's like realising in what dark place I was living all the time, now not being able to paint over it with hope and looking for a good feeling or looking for the innate wellbeing. Is there even such a thing, or is this just another nice sounding concept?And yes, I want this to go away, and you say, this is what keeps it in place. I get that, so here again no hope at all, because how could I honestly not want the suffering to go away? I can’t imagine.I don’t even have a question, because the only thing I would want now is for all this to go away and for me to finally be happy. And this is the suffering.I also would like to understand something, but it seems to me that I just don’t get anything. I don’t know what is true, well what I wrote is true for me at the moment. And this other truth you talk about, I don’t know what this is, I don’t know what this would even help, if I am an entity controlled by a program. The more I think about it, the more it gets confusing.If the system does what the system does, and only an understanding of the system might change the system or not, who does this understanding, and if there is no self, who has this conversation anyway, and what is there to be seen anyway? It seems to me I understand nothing. All I know is there is this heaviness in the body and tears.Thank you for reading, it’s good to have someone to write to.

I recently had my second child and am struggling with the demands of life with two small children. My question is about parenting: what is it about this relationship that it can bring up so much suffering? What do you think this understanding can offer to parents in particular? I was also wondering if you would ever offer a course specifically aimed at parents as I feel there is so much to explore there. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. 

How Not To Die by Michael Greger MD. Sunday Book 

The images of the unconscious place a great responsibility upon a man. Failure to understand them, or a shirking of ethical responsibility, deprives him of his wholeness and imposes a painful fragmentariness on his life. Carl Jung

I'm working my way through the course and I'm finding it to be a combination of enlightening and overwhelming-sometimes both at the same time!!As a result of meditation(which is something that you never refer to, which I found surprising), I'm aware of my thoughts, and I often "catch myself" during the day. I sometimes get the sense that I'm watching myself think, but wonder if this is one part of the mind watching another part of the mind, or if that's the witness that you refer to.I suppose my question is, once I finish the course, where to next? I say this while knowing that I spent a lot of my life being "somewhere else" , or thinking that once I get somewhere I will be happyI know what I want( an end to suffering(worry & anxiety) and a sense of direction) but from listening to your course/podcasts etc, you seem to suggest letting things be and the universe will sort out the rest.

To make long story short I purchased something online and had to be assembled.  The instructions were confusing and they didn't answer the phone and my husband who was trying to build it got very angry. He had other things going on this week and I think this was his boiling point.All my life I have had a trigger about anger and both my husbands have had anger issues.  In the past I would numb out and do anything to not have the anger affect me, get defensive, angry back, and afterward do anything to distract myself from sitting with the bad feelings.  This time I stayed calm and told him I would send it back but after I felt gut punched and it took awhile to get peace back.  I realized after listening to your video I was doing anything to escape the feelings even diving into 3P.It wasn't the situation with the assembly, I knew it might cost money if seller refused to take back, but I was more upset and fearful of my husbands anger and just like in your video #2 where you say it happens over and over again, that has been the pattern all my life and I am 65!I found out about 3P year and half ago in a senior course at local university and now a few of us from that course started a weekly discussion group a few months ago and that has really changed my life. So far what it sounds like you are saying is to sit with the emotional pain and feelings and explore what they mean.  In the past if I try to sit with feelings or journal them the thoughts about the situation send me down the rabbit hole and instead of seeing wisdom it gets worse.So I am not understanding how you can sit in pain and be comfortable with that?