Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond

Listener question: discipline, accountability and no self 

Listener question: anger was always heavily sanctioned, and deemed very unfeminine. There was only room for being the good girl and that resulted in a lot of rebellion. (The rebel inside can be still strong at times 🤣)Later on my healing journey I learned that anger can signal where a boundary was crossed or violated. And that suppressed anger can be very damaging for the system and in my experience suppressed anger can lead to depression. At the same time i see the destructive force unbridled anger can be. I love the story of the Boy who asks the shaman: „Wise one, I seem to have two wolfs living in my chest. One is loving and the other one is hating. Which one will win?“ and the shaman answered: „The one you feed“. Now im wondering if this all ego storyline going on here? I see that there is something here that wants to be integrated instead of battled or suppressed. Maybe anger is misguided power? The people I see as innately powerful don’t get angry, they are not battling. Or maybe that’s just another side of the story that is ready to drop.When you speak of going to the backroom it’s a bit murky here. I Imagine going back to the roots and further. Maybe in a profane way it’s saying: ok if I have clearer boundaries I don’t need to get angry. If I really see that nothing is personal, we are all just programmed tubes bumping up against each other until we don’t need to do that anymore. Maybe life doesn’t care if there is anger and joy and sorrow, maybe life just wants to get on with it, warts and all. 

Listener  question: I wonder if you could give me your thoughts about the following.  I have become aware of my disproportionate sense of fear in 'perceived as threatening' situations.  I first became aware of how extreme it was during my divorce when I felt terrified...I was experiencing Gaslighting from my ex husband who still lived in the house.  It was horrible but the terror was disproportunate.  Subsequent to this, the societal issues around the pandemic and an ongoing health scare seem to elicit the same response.I would sincerely appreciate your thoughts about this and whether Subliminals could help.

Listener question:  To see what's being pointed to the mind needs to be settled and when one sees what's being pointed to the mind settles.  It seems like a catch 22.  I do question my mind, but somehow I'm doing it wrong, or hoping it will change things, or I don't really know.  It's hard not to find the story believable when it almost always comes true. Sadly I'm feeling like this conversation may just not be for me at this time.  I wish it were, and maybe it will be again.

Listener question: Thank you for the podcast which I’ve just listened to again.  I’m still confused!  How is it that you know there’s protection going on here?  Is it because the reactions to my friend’s diagnosis and my Mother’s are different?  Is there really one, undiluted response that we can have to all situations, events, relationships?  Sounds a bit bland to me.  Also, I don’t quite see that there’s a hierarchy of relatedness with family on the inside, then close friends etc.  I can feel real connection during a random interaction with a complete stranger. 

Listener question: Clare, I’m wondering if you might do a podcast on one of your common phrases, “it must begin here.” For example, if I am judging someone as, say, cruel, I must begin with me, here, and see all the ways that I am cruel. This is where my tricky little mind goes with that: “ok, so let me find all the times, past and present, in which I have been cruel. Well, now we just have two shitty people in the scenario. Two, cruel shitty people.” And then I don’t know where to go. The idea of “begin here” feels heavy and dark, which lets me know there is obviously confusion happening over here.

Listener question: I just listened to the latest video and podcast that you sent out and feel somewhat clearer about this whole thing to do with our ‘shadow’Basically my understanding is that whatever I see ‘out there’ is simply a reflection of what I have going on ‘in here’ So the only thing for me to do if I am having a reaction to something or someone is to look for where in myself I am not being my True Self…is that right?If so, can you help me see how this could possibly apply if I or someone close to me or a child had been sexually abused or murdered?This is not something I have ever thought I would even be remotely interested in seeing, but somehow I can feel the freedom it would offer to be able to even consider this possibility.

Listener question: I have stayed in this conversation, listening to your podcasts and am seeing more. However, I still get caught up in believing my perceived reality and there is an intense over identification with ‘self’ and the desperate need to protect it, for fear of being exposed and feeling vulnerable in the world.You probably cannot say, and it’s different for everyone, but what has made the difference for the person in the video you sent out? Has she just stuck at it? What has helped her shift her whole perception/understanding? I’m just curious!

Listener question: I found your website while reading “Real” and had a complex reaction to your talk about subliminal s. I thought it was brilliant to try to get past the intellect sentries to allow an opening as I think it is my feelings about my intellect that prevent me from seeing deeply. On the other hand, I met Syd Banks at the Hawaii lectures in 2001 and have listened extensively to him saying I shouldn’t need subliminal or psychological tools because I am sitting in mental health and I am one thought away from insights that would be life shifting.  I would be very curious about your response, since you are definitely anchored in the principles and have “made it” to the other side. I would appreciate any ideas you may have.

Listener question: My husband had a primarily emotional affair with his HR director. The flirting started pretty much right when he met her, then 6 months later it ballooned into an actual affair (not sex but kissing) and then I found out and we hashed things out for 6 weeks and he stopped the affair for a couple weeks. Then he started it back up for another 3-4 months but just texting. Nothing physical. Finally, about 4 months ago he really ended it. And he is working really hard on us. Genuine heartfelt apologies, spending lots of time together, talking and planning our lives, etc.However, he still works closely with her. They have meetings most days and often several times a day. I know their meetings are not just business. I know he spends lots of time just catching up and chatting about her life and his. Full disclosure, he is a very chatty, friendly, engaging kind of boss with many of his team. So it would be a little unnatural for him to really pull back completely.But I of course hate it. I hate that he still chats with her daily, I hate that she is his "confidant" which he justifies because as his director of HR, they have to discuss all the employees and new hires etc. I hate that he keeps me so separate from her. I'm not sure what would be normal there, but I know for sure he will mention my name when talking to other employees but never with her.Basically, I am insecure and worried about their relationship but he insists that it is necessary for work. I just don't know what to do. I am constantly tempted to ask him what's going on with him and her. I am tempted to look at his messages. Eavesdrop on his calls. And of course always wanting to know where we stand and my favorite, "How could you??"Does this perspective offer insights into how I should be making sense of this situation? If I was really free and anchored in my true beautiful self would I be so insecure and suspicious and jealous? Or is is actually wise, strong to ask to see his messages and demand he minimize his interaction with her?