Emancipate Your Mind

Living a financially free life has less to do with income and more to do with intention.Often when we come from a high demand religion, we are conditioned to believe that money is the root of all evil.We may shy away from making too much of it, or having any left over in savings.  We may also pick up shame or fear messages about what it means to be a working mother.We can also pick up societal and familial limiting beliefs about money from our upbringing that are passed down through the generations.Perhaps we learned that budgeting was difficult or meant living a life of lack.Maybe we thought only “rich people” get to live a financially free life.Financial Coach, Lisa Schader, says that these beliefs coupled with patriarchal views of women leave women particularly vulnerable to financial abuse. (And yes, that’s really a thing.) But Lisa helps us bust all of those myths and empower ourselves to get the exact financial futures we hope for and deserve. Whether you have a solid understanding of finances, or really aren’t sure what financial accounts you have or how to log into them, Lisa gives us shame-resilient ways to become aware of our current financial positions and begin to better chart  our financial futures with some simple adjustments.DID YOU LOVE LISA?Here’s how to soak up more financial wisdom from Lisa Schader.INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/moneyfitmoms/ YOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwJjy7yeD5b5cDGPo3AA9fw TIKTOK:https://www.tiktok.com/@moneyfitmoms PINTEREST:https://www.pinterest.com/MoneyFitMoms/ FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/MoneyFitMoms/ TWITTER:https://twitter.com/MoneyFitMomsWEBSITE and FREE MONEY FIT CHALLENGE:https://www.moneyfitmoms.com  _____________________________________________________WANT MORE SUPPORT HEALING AFTER RELIGIOUS TRANSITION?If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com 

Dive into the intriguing world of reparenting as a method for healing childhood trauma. Discover how reparenting can help address wounds from parental experiences, fostering excitement alongside vulnerability. The discussion highlights the importance of nurturing your inner child to heal past wounds and reshape coping strategies. Learn how addressing generational trauma can lead to healthier parenting behaviors, creating a positive ripple effect for future generations. This conversation invites listeners to thoughtfully engage with deeply personal material.

Exploring the intricacies of healthy boundaries, the discussion reveals how they counteract codependency in relationships. It highlights the common misconceptions that lack of boundaries signifies love, emphasizing that clear limits foster trust. The podcast also offers practical communication tips to establish mutual respect. Listeners are guided through the emotional journey of setting boundaries, balancing the pain of loss with the peace of reduced conflict, all while promoting personal growth and shared insights.

One of the most difficult parts of leaving religion is often telling our loved ones. We want to be honest and transparent about our decisions, but we also want our families to still accept and love us. We often try to accomplish both by doing hundreds of hours of research and soul searching to find factual evidence to support our decision, looking for irrefutable evidence that our choice was the “right” one. However, these ways of approaching this conversation often don’t guarantee that our loved ones will understand or agree with our decision. Kara Sakievich, believes that it’s not finding the “right” reason for leaving that will help you navigate this transition with more ease, but rather, loving YOUR reason for leaving and feeling confident in your decision to do what is best for you. When our decisions aren’t about who’s right and who’s wrong, it becomes about respecting our own decision and better helps us respect others’ decisions as well. ** TRIGGER WARNING FOR THOSE WORKING ON BODY POSITIVITY OR BODY SHAME** There is talk in this episode about weight coaching that may be triggering for those working on body positivity, body shame resilience, or who are overcoming eating disorders. DID YOU LOVE KARA? If you really resonated with Kara Sakievich and want more of her energy, head over to her FREE Mini Master Course on leaving the LDS Faith. https://www.lifecoachkara.com/mini-master-course Or catch her on Instagram @postmormonpurposeTikTok @postmormonpurposeFacebook at Kara Sakievich CoachingOr on her website www.lifecoachkara.comFeel free to email her questions at kara@lifecoachkara.com LOOKING FOR MORE IN-DEPTH HELP WITH THESE TOPICS? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com 

If you find that you have an impossible time saying no, apologize for everything even when something is not your fault, are exhausted trying to meet the needs of others, and can’t remember the last time you had guilt-free free time….you may be a people pleaser. People pleasing is simply another coping mechanism we developed to keep ourselves safe from rejection or abandonment and help us reach adulthood. And when we were children, it worked. We may have learned to care take or appease the adults in our lives in order to get our emotional and physical needs met. But now that we’re adults, it may feel like we’re being smothered by a coping mechanism that once made us feel secure. People pleasing can keep us from really knowing who we are, feeling confident in our own skin, being able to show up authentically in the world, and set boundaries. Often, we take on more than we can handle, hoping to keep people in our lives happy so that they will never have an excuse to discard us. But mostly, we just feel run down, exhausted, and often really resentful of those we serve. It feels like we give all of the time, and our needs go unobserved and unmet. If this sounds like you, this entire episode will help you understand why you people please and how to start creating new patterns that will leave you feeling more connected to humans you care about while also feeling more rested and confident in your body. WANT MORE? I’ll be support coaching with Stephanie Jaie, one of the world’s leading sex coaches, in her upcoming group program “Sexual Empowerment Academy” that starts later this month. This is the perfect time to shed the old indoctrination that has led us all to shame and frustration about our sexuality and has kept us from getting the pleasure we crave and deserve! Go to this link to check out the program and sign up… https://members.stephaniejaie.com/courses/sexual-empowerment-academy?affcode=855574_pdqxu-fe If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com 

Perfectionism is a coping mechanism we develop in order to keep ourselves safe from emotional discomfort. Listen to this episode for more information about how perfectionism develops and what it feels like for those who experience it. Learn the differences between high achievers and perfectionists and the difficulties perfectionists often experience on their path to high achievement. And learn how to use your perfectionism as a cue to engage in the healing process.  WANT MORE? I’ll be support coaching with Stephanie Jaie, one of the world’s leading sex coaches, in her upcoming group program “Sexual Empowerment Academy” that starts later this month. This is the perfect time to shed the old indoctrination that has led us all to shame and frustration about our sexuality and has kept us from getting the pleasure we crave and deserve! Go to this link to check out the program and sign up… https://members.stephaniejaie.com/courses/sexual-empowerment-academy?affcode=855574_pdqxu-fe OR if you’d like to check out her services for free, check out her 5 Day Pleasure Mastery Challenge going from March 17-21. If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri. If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com NOTE: Thank you for your patience. We had a small auto-scheduling glitch this weekend and the podcast didn’t go live on the 14th the way it should have. We’ve double-checked future episodes and they should all go live at their appropriate times from here on out. 

We talk a lot about shame, but when you’ve been raised your whole life in a high-shame culture, sometimes it can be hard to detect it in everyday life, even in other people. I recently read Mike McHargue’s book “Finding God in the Waves” and the last bit of the book was full of lingering shame messages Mike still had about his deconstruction at the time of the writing. This episode explores those messages and points out why they are harmful to healing. We also explore some of the shaming mechanisms his congregation employed to get Mike to fall in line and protect the integrity of the congregation.  Did any of this resonate with you? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly To join the Facebook group for more discussion about these topics, supportive community, free tools for healing and growth, and other really useful stuff during faith transition, join us at Emancipate Yourself. 

Do you find it really hard to forgive yourself when you make mistakes? Are you harder on yourself than anyone else? Many of us were taught that having compassion for ourselves would lead to weakness and self-indulgence, but studies over the past decade have proven differently. Self compassion has been shown to be a trait of some of the most resilient, courageous, and kind people on the planet. Self compassion is also one of the most helpful gifts we can give ourselves when healing from trauma, depression, anxiety…and can even help us rewrite narcissistic traits. Listen in for as we discuss the common myths about self compassion and the truth that science has uncovered about the incredible ways developing more love and compassion for yourself can change your life and your outlook on other people.  WANT MORE? If you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com 

Leaving religion doesn’t have to mean leaving behind a relationship with God. If you desire to keep a connection with the divine after a faith transition, this episode explores 4 ways for you to experience the “god feeling”, no church, synagogue, or mosque needed.  Psssst: If you have some burning questions you’d like answered, email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly To join the Facebook group for more discussion about these topics, supportive community, free tools for healing and growth, and other really useful stuff during faith transition, join us at Emancipate Yourself. 

For many who leave high demand religion, learning to trust oneself again after finding out you’ve been abandoning your inner knowing for years can be difficult. In this episode, we normalize how we got to where we are today while exploring ways we can begin to rebuild and strengthen the trusting relationship we have with ourselves starting today. Self trust is vital to building confidence and feeling hopeful about the future. If you’d like a sunnier outlook on life and would love to feel more confident about your choices and your ability to handle whatever comes your way…this episode is for you. COME HANG OUT WITH ME: Or if you’d like to be part of an online community where we take the podcast topics and pull them apart for discussion and further learning, talk about all the religious transition things, and just enjoy each other’s company, join my free “Emancipate Yourself” Facebook group at this link:https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or if you want to follow me for religious and psychological insights, commentary on events in the world, links to other people doing great work related to religion, and little windows into my real life, follow me on Instagram or Reddit @EmancipatedMolly , TikTok @EmancipatedTeri , or Twitter @EmancipatedTeri.  If you have a question or want to talk about further coaching support, please email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com