Emancipate Your Mind

I almost didn’t choose this question for today’s Q&A because your faith transition is NOT about what I believe and value now that I’ve left my former religion. It’s about what YOU believe and value. But because this is the question I get asked more than any other since transitioning out of my Mormon faith, I decided to go ahead and tackle this and the many related questions and issues hiding behind this inquiry. Listen on for information about what limiting beliefs might be lurking behind this question and how to get curious with yourself and understand your fears, limits, and motivations better. We’ll also cover how to get clear with yourself about what you believe now that you’ve gone through (or are going through) a faith transition. And finally, after we’ve gone through those explorations, I’ll tell you where I am in my faith and why I really like the place I’m currently in. Thank you ALL for the incredible questions and comments. It’s been so hard to select just one each week. I appreciate you all. Teri Hales Psssst: If you have some burning questions you’d like answered, email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly To join the Facebook group for more discussion about these topics, supportive community, free tools for healing and growth, and other really useful stuff during faith transition, join us at Emancipate Yourself. 

Marriage Therapist Kevin Hales discusses the power of active listening in relationships and its impact on communication dynamics. They explore the drawbacks of digital communication and emphasize the significance of eye contact and body language in indicating a lack of safety. The importance of actively engaging with the speaker's words, emotions, and body language is highlighted, emphasizing the need to give undivided attention and minimize distractions.

The podcast explores the fear of disappointing others and offers advice on living an authentic life. It discusses the importance of choosing oneself, prioritizing happiness, and breaking generational patterns. The hosts provide strategies for communicating with parents and setting boundaries when leaving the church. Embracing authenticity and learning from mistakes are also highlighted.

Marriage therapist Kevin Hales joins to discuss the importance of empathy in relationships, its distinction from sympathy, and its role in leadership and business. They also explore the challenges of practicing empathy in religious contexts and the significance of recognizing and communicating emotions. The concept of unresolved hurts and the importance of having difficult conversations for resolving issues in relationships are discussed.

You asked, and I answered! My inbox has been flooded with questions…questions that are common to those of us who have gone (or are going) through religious transition. I decided y’all deserve answers sooner than later. And you’ll get them each Thursday morning. Introducing: The Midweek Question and Answer Mini Episode. This week, I’m answering a question I’ve gotten 5 times since Kevin has joined me on the podcast in February (and I know if that many people spoke up, there are even more of you wondering in silence). The question this week: “How do I know if I should look for a therapist or a life coach? And what is the difference?” I also threw in some bonus answers to related questions like, “Why did I choose to become a life coach?” and “What do I do if I don’t like my therapist?” Enjoy! Teri Psssst: If you have some burning questions you’d like answered, email me at teri@emancipatedcoaching.com or send me a message on Instagram @emancipatedmolly Resources:I mentioned that 47% of people in the United States will undergo a faith transition at some point in their lives. This came from the Pew Research at this link. 

Change is inevitable in our relationships. As individuals we learn new information, we expand our understanding, and we change our values, beliefs, and lifestyles based on this new understanding. This isn’t a failing, this is the natural course of maturing as a human being. It’s said that “each of us gets married 3 different times in our life, and sometimes it’s to the same person.” Because we grow and change so much throughout the course of our lives, it will be almost like we’re married to completely different people as we evolve over time. Sometimes we grow together through these changes, and sometimes we grow apart. When part of this change includes a faith transition, it can create special friction that Licensed Professional Counselor, Kevin Hales, and I address in this episode. We discuss the often scary conversations we have in our partnerships that are part of the deconstruction process: Do I enjoy the roles I’m currently filling in my life? Am I happy right now? Is this how I want to continue to live? Now that the church or our faith is no longer binding us together, are we a good fit for each other? How can we face the frightening prospect of possible divorce with honesty, shame resilience, and courage? How do we decide our family values and beliefs? How do we teach our children to be moral and kind people? These questions can seem daunting, but when we learn to normalize the change process and learn to accept and appreciate each other as constantly evolving individuals, these questions can open the door to creating deepened trust in our relationships. BECOMING SOUL MATES WORKSHOP: FEBRUARY 21stIf you’d like some face-to-face support and tangible tools to help you build safer, more loving bonds in your relationships, sign up for the 2-hour “Becoming Soulmates” workshop Kevin and I are hosting on February 21st at 8pm ET/ 5pm PT on Zoom. The cost is $55 and you can sign up at the link here. So often, we fall in love with a person and believe (or at least hope) that we are soul mates. We fall into the myth that the spark we feel at the beginning means we’ve found the one we’ll connect with forever. We believe that chemistry and time will create that bond. But the reality is we don’t find that soul connection so much as create it through our actions. Anyone can become soul mates, but it takes some effort and often the unlearning of unhelpful habits and patterns often passed down to us through the generations. Click the link below if you’d like to know how to build more safety and trust, communicate more clearly, and release old attachment hurts that influence our relationships in the present. https://emancipatedcoaching.com/becoming-soulmates-workshop/ CONNECT WITH US:If you’re looking for more support and discussion on the topics you hear in this episode, come join us in the Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Or follow Teri on Instagram

In this insightful discussion, Kevin Hales, a licensed marriage therapist, shares his expertise on managing conflict in relationships. He dives into the emotional dynamics that spark conflicts, emphasizing the need for awareness and empathy. Nonverbal communication plays a crucial role, as it constitutes 93% of our interactions. Hales explores emotional triggers and the importance of recognizing them, while also discussing the transformative power of pausing during heated moments. Ultimately, he encourages viewers to embrace conflict as a path to growth and deeper understanding.

Explore the world of limiting beliefs—thoughts that shape our reality and creativity. Discover how group coaching fosters vulnerability and self-discovery, helping you confront these barriers. Learn practical strategies to identify and transform societal influences that hold you back. Embrace the concept of 'yet' to recognize your progress and practice self-forgiveness in your journey. Finally, challenge guilt and shame to step into a more authentic and fulfilling life with a supportive community at your side.

Dive into the transformative power of emotions as messengers. Explore how anger and vulnerability are often misunderstood in society. Uncover the intricacies of grief, highlighting the importance of empathy and open communication. Learn to observe emotions without judgment and understand their informative role in personal growth. Discover how emotional intelligence can lead to healing and deeper connections with others.

Have you gone through the difficult journey of deconstructing your religion only to find you deconstructed your identity too? Those who leave high demand religion often find that when they leave behind orthodoxy or the faith altogether, they inadvertently leave behind the pseudo-identity they’ve been living with for years. What do I believe now? What are my values? What do I want out of life? What is my purpose? If these questions (and many more presented in the episode) resonate with you, then you’ll want to deep dive into this episode for understanding and to begin the process of rediscovering your authentic self. If you find after listening you’d like even more support, enrollment is open for my 3rd round of my 7-week identity reclamation coaching group entitled “Reclaim Your Power”. Go to this link to look over the syllabus and schedule. Class starts January 31, 2021. https://effervescent-coaching.mykajabi.com/reclaim-your-power Or if you’d like to be a part of a budding community of religious recovery, and enjoy ongoing live discussions and text chats about religious topics that go along with the podcasts each week, please feel free to join the free Facebook group at this link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/370375144009891 Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss a single episode. And please, leave a review if you’re finding this podcast helpful!  Thank you so much! – Teri