Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

Rob is the Founder and CEO of CityFam... which is a Baltimore based no-profit organization that advocates for the power of community to transform an individual, a city, and even the whole world! Rob has an amazing story of sexual redemption in his life... and Tony recently interviewed Rob as a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast... Episodes 230 & 231. In addition... Rob hosts his own podcast called... The Kowalski Analysis. After Rob was a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast... he then asked Tony to be a guest on The Kowalski Analysis. As a result... todays episode... and next weeks episode... are actually Tony being interviews by Rob on The Kowalski Analysis. Listen in to hear some variations of Tony's story that you may have never heard before!

Greg & Stacey Oliver are keenly aware of the devastation caused by pornography & sexual addiction. For years, during his time as a worship & music pastor, Greg secretly struggled with an addiction to porn and sex. This secret struggle – which was intensified by the fear of what would happen if ever exposed – led to years of attempting to stop, control, or at least manage the behavior; as well as countless prayers for God to "take it away." Not understanding the many factors that drive addiction, Greg thought that if he could just find the right formula, he would be able to make better choices and no one would have to know. After years of failure, he felt completely isolated from everyone in his life, including God. While unaware of Greg's issues, Stacey had her own struggles with insecurity and unhealthy relationship expectations. She experienced a type of idolatry within her marriage, placing hope and confidence in Greg instead of in God. She also looked to other people to give her worth, trying to be the perfect "ministry wife" and never saying no to anyone. She believed that enough "being and doing," made her OK. That all fell apart in early 2009, when God exposed Greg's years-long enslavement to sexual addiction. Greg lost his job, Stacey was devastated by betrayal, and they both found themselves in a place of emptiness, completely unable to predict what would happen next. Finally, with none of the old crutches or idols to hold on to, they began to walk a journey of recovery, guided by faithful friends and qualified therapists. It was on this journey that both Greg & Stacey rediscovered God for who He really is. Where they had seen Him as distant, angry, or always requiring more effort, they now began to see Him as the loving, gracious Father found in Scripture. Through the process of recovery, Greg & Stacey discovered how much unhealthy beliefs and behaviors had taken control of their lives, influencing how they viewed themselves, other people, and even God. Through their journey they have seen God change them, heal them, and use them in other peoples' lives who struggle with the same issues. Greg & Stacey feel passionately that God has brought them through their experience so that He can use them to help others find the same freedom, grace and abundant life. https://awakenrecovery.com

Greg & Stacey Oliver are keenly aware of the devastation caused by pornography & sexual addiction. For years, during his time as a worship & music pastor, Greg secretly struggled with an addiction to porn and sex. This secret struggle – which was intensified by the fear of what would happen if ever exposed – led to years of attempting to stop, control, or at least manage the behavior; as well as countless prayers for God to "take it away." Not understanding the many factors that drive addiction, Greg thought that if he could just find the right formula, he would be able to make better choices and no one would have to know. After years of failure, he felt completely isolated from everyone in his life, including God. While unaware of Greg's issues, Stacey had her own struggles with insecurity and unhealthy relationship expectations. She experienced a type of idolatry within her marriage, placing hope and confidence in Greg instead of in God. She also looked to other people to give her worth, trying to be the perfect "ministry wife" and never saying no to anyone. She believed that enough "being and doing," made her OK. That all fell apart in early 2009, when God exposed Greg's years-long enslavement to sexual addiction. Greg lost his job, Stacey was devastated by betrayal, and they both found themselves in a place of emptiness, completely unable to predict what would happen next. Finally, with none of the old crutches or idols to hold on to, they began to walk a journey of recovery, guided by faithful friends and qualified therapists. It was on this journey that both Greg & Stacey rediscovered God for who He really is. Where they had seen Him as distant, angry, or always requiring more effort, they now began to see Him as the loving, gracious Father found in Scripture. Through the process of recovery, Greg & Stacey discovered how much unhealthy beliefs and behaviors had taken control of their lives, influencing how they viewed themselves, other people, and even God. Through their journey they have seen God change them, heal them, and use them in other peoples' lives who struggle with the same issues. Greg & Stacey feel passionately that God has brought them through their experience so that He can use them to help others find the same freedom, grace and abundant life. https://awakenrecovery.com

After struggling with masturbation for 14 years… Caleb Clingan found The Power of Purity Podcast and began listening. After listening for some time… Caleb wrote the following note to Tony: 70 episodes! That's how many episodes it took for me to understand my sexuality is a gift intended for my wife and my wife only. 70 episodes is how long it took for me to build up my courage to confess to my wife how I am addicted to masturbation. Not even pornography. Simply the thrill and ecstasy of masturbating. I have struggled with masturbation for 14 years. Through God's grace, I felt convicted after every single time. He never stopped calling me higher. Thank you so much for this ministry. It has truly changed my life and my marriage. On the day Caleb finally confessed the truth to his wife… he was outside mowing the grass… and listening to episode 70 of the podcast. In that moment Caleb was convicted that he had to come into the light with his wife if he was ever to be free of his addiction. He knew what God was leading him to do... and he intuitively sensed that if he didn't act immediately on this conviction… that he might never have the courage to do so again. He therefore drove directly to her work… completely covered with grass... and had the conversation with his wife that he knew God wanted him to have. When Caleb had this very difficult conversation with his wife… he didn't know what to expect… and wondered if it would literally be the end of his marriage. Can God help a man who is struggling with sexual sin? Can God help a man to come into the light? Can God help a man to be more honest with himself… and more honest with his wife… than he's ever been before? Can God break the chains of sexual addiction? Can God break the power of shame that lives in a man's soul? Can God empower a man to quit stealing orgasms from his wife through masturbation? Can God empower a man to honor his wife with the expression of his sexual gift? Can God bring hope… healing… and redemption into a marriage? Listen to this amazing story… and be blessed as you discover the answer to questions like these!

After struggling with masturbation for 14 years… Caleb Clingan found The Power of Purity Podcast and began listening. After listening for some time… Caleb wrote the following note to Tony: 70 episodes! That's how many episodes it took for me to understand my sexuality is a gift intended for my wife and my wife only. 70 episodes is how long it took for me to build up my courage to confess to my wife how I am addicted to masturbation. Not even pornography. Simply the thrill and ecstasy of masturbating. I have struggled with masturbation for 14 years. Through God's grace, I felt convicted after every single time. He never stopped calling me higher. Thank you so much for this ministry. It has truly changed my life and my marriage. On the day Caleb finally confessed the truth to his wife… he was outside mowing the grass… and listening to episode 70 of the podcast. In that moment Caleb was convicted that he had to come into the light with his wife if he was ever to be free of his addiction. He knew what God was leading him to do... and he intuitively sensed that if he didn't act immediately on this conviction… that he might never have the courage to do so again. He therefore drove directly to her work… completely covered with grass... and had the conversation with his wife that he knew God wanted him to have. When Caleb had this very difficult conversation with his wife… he didn't know what to expect… and wondered if it would literally be the end of his marriage. Can God help a man who is struggling with sexual sin? Can God help a man to come into the light? Can God help a man to be more honest with himself… and more honest with his wife… than he's ever been before? Can God break the chains of sexual addiction? Can God break the power of shame that lives in a man's soul? Can God empower a man to quit stealing orgasms from his wife through masturbation? Can God empower a man to honor his wife with the expression of his sexual gift? Can God bring hope… healing… and redemption into a marriage? Listen to this amazing story… and be blessed as you discover the answer to questions like these!

Rob Kowalski is a self-proclaimed bad boy who has been reformed by the grace and mercy of God! Rob's mom was only 14 years old when she became pregnant with Rob. When he was a young boy he discovered a VHS tape in the house... so he popped it in to watch. He was shocked to see a video tape of male strippers... and he immediately knew that was exactly what he wanted to do when he got older. At the age of 19 Rob began his career as a male stripper... and became the most notable stripper and night club promoter in his hometown of Baltimore Maryland. Through this lifestyle Rob eventually accumulated sexual experiences with literally hundreds of sexual partners. Eventually Rob had a radical and life-changing encounter with Jesus that turned his life around. After stripping one night... Rob returned to his hotel room... and had an amazing encounter when the Lord unexpectedly and mysteriously revealed himself to Rob in such a tangible and undeniable way... that Rob instantly knew who Jesus was and that would serve the Lord from that day forward. The life of excess that Rob had lived for many years taught him many lessons about what does and doesn't work when is comes to sex... and why. His mess has now become his message... and Rob has lived a life close to celibacy since then... as he waits for God to bring him the wife he has been waiting for. Rob is the Founder and CEO of CityFam... which is a Baltimore based no-profit organization that advocates for the power of community to transform an individual, a city, and even the whole world! Rob Kowalski's life is living proof that even sexual bad boys can be saved and transformed by the miracle working power of God through Christ.

Rob Kowalski is a self-proclaimed bad boy who has been reformed by the grace and mercy of God! Rob's mom was only 14 years old when she became pregnant with Rob. When he was a young boy he discovered a VHS tape in the house... so he popped it in to watch. He was shocked to see a video tape of male strippers... and he immediately knew that was exactly what he wanted to do when he got older. At the age of 19 Rob began his career as a male stripper... and became the most notable stripper and night club promoter in his hometown of Baltimore Maryland. Through this lifestyle Rob eventually accumulated sexual experiences with literally hundreds of sexual partners. Eventually Rob had a radical and life-changing encounter with Jesus that turned his life around. After stripping one night... Rob returned to his hotel room... and had an amazing encounter when the Lord unexpectedly and mysteriously revealed himself to Rob in such a tangible and undeniable way... that Rob instantly knew who Jesus was and that would serve the Lord from that day forward. The life of excess that Rob had lived for many years taught him many lessons about what does and doesn't work when is comes to sex... and why. His mess has now become his message... and Rob has lived a life close to celibacy since then... as he waits for God to bring him the wife he has been waiting for. Rob is the Founder and CEO of CityFam... which is a Baltimore based no-profit organization that advocates for the power of community to transform an individual, a city, and even the whole world! Rob Kowalski's life is living proof that even sexual bad boys can be saved and transformed by the miracle working power of God through Christ.

Whether we realize it or not... our sexual acting out... our sexual addiction... our sexual sin... extracts an enormous price from our life and soul that we are then required to pay. This "price" might include things such as... * Damage to your wife's heart * Damage to your marriage * The loss of your marriage * The loss of your children... in the sense that if you do get divorced... you no longer have the opportunity to live with your kids full time... you're no longer there to tuck them into bed every night... you're no longer there to say prayers with them at bedtime... etc. * The loss of your home * Tremendous financial loss... * The violation of your own conscience * The loss of effectiveness in your testimony and your service to God * The loss of your reputation And these... just to name a few. Although this episode series does not focus specifically on these various losses that we sometimes experience... it does focus on the idea of loss... and how the reality of such loss often becomes the catalyst we need to provoke true and lasting change in our hearts and our lives. Or said another way... if the pain gets bad enough... we often find the self-motivation and self-determination necessary to do the work that can then lead to true and lasting change. In this series Tony shares 8 observations concerning the price of sexual sin... and develops the idea that when we "Realize The Price"... we often find the motivation to change.

Whether we realize it or not... our sexual acting out... our sexual addiction... our sexual sin... extracts an enormous price from our life and soul that we are then required to pay. This "price" might include things such as... * Damage to your wife's heart * Damage to your marriage * The loss of your marriage * The loss of your children... in the sense that if you do get divorced... you no longer have the opportunity to live with your kids full time... you're no longer there to tuck them into bed every night... you're no longer there to say prayers with them at bedtime... etc. * The loss of your home * Tremendous financial loss... * The violation of your own conscience * The loss of effectiveness in your testimony and your service to God * The loss of your reputation And these... just to name a few. Although this episode series does not focus specifically on these various losses that we sometimes experience... it does focus on the idea of loss... and how the reality of such loss often becomes the catalyst we need to provoke true and lasting change in our hearts and our lives. Or said another way... if the pain gets bad enough... we often find the self-motivation and self-determination necessary to do the work that can then lead to true and lasting change. In this series Tony shares 8 observations concerning the price of sexual sin... and develops the idea that when we "Realize The Price"... we often find the motivation to change.

Whether we realize it or not... our sexual acting out... our sexual addiction... our sexual sin... extracts an enormous price from our life and soul that we are then required to pay. This "price" might include things such as... * Damage to your wife's heart * Damage to your marriage * The loss of your marriage * The loss of your children... in the sense that if you do get divorced... you no longer have the opportunity to live with your kids full time... you're no longer there to tuck them into bed every night... you're no longer there to say prayers with them at bedtime... etc. * The loss of your home * Tremendous financial loss... * The violation of your own conscience * The loss of effectiveness in your testimony and your service to God * The loss of your reputation And these... just to name a few. Although this episode series does not focus specifically on these various losses that we sometimes experience... it does focus on the idea of loss... and how the reality of such loss often becomes the catalyst we need to provoke true and lasting change in our hearts and our lives. Or said another way... if the pain gets bad enough... we often find the self-motivation and self-determination necessary to do the work that can then lead to true and lasting change. In this series Tony shares 8 observations concerning the price of sexual sin... and develops the idea that when we "Realize The Price"... we often find the motivation to change.