Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea? In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering. The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them. We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things that we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side. Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be spontaneous... like what happens in romance novels. But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer. In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples. After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar? Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can? You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time! Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea? In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering. The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them. We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things that we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side. Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be spontaneous... like what happens in romance novels. But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer. In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples. After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar? Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can? You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time! Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

Is Scheduling Sex a Good Idea? In this episode series Tony shares 10 reasons that "scheduling" sex might be worth considering. The fact of the matter is that for most people... when something is a priority to them... they go above and beyond the call of duty to not just wait to see if that thing happens... and instead they make sure that the thing happens... because it is a priority to them. We live in a crazy busy... "helter skelter" world... and there are often so many things that we "have" to do... that the things that we "want" to do... and "need" to do... often get overshadowed and pushed to the side. Many people have the romantic and idealistic notion that sexual intimacy should always be spontaneous... like what happens in romance novels. But in reality... if couples wait for sex to always happen spontaneously... they might end up waiting way more than they expected... and sexual intimacy between them might happen way less than they would prefer. In view of this... Tony shares 10 reasons that scheduling sex can often work to the advantage for married couples. After all... people schedule all kinds of other things that are important to them... like going to church... or taking the kids to practice... or grocery shopping... so why not keep sexual intimacy the priority that it should always be by also making sure that it happens on a frequent and regular basis by scheduling the event on your weekly calendar? Tony asks that before you render a judgment too quickly against this idea... will you at least listen to these episodes as objectively as you possibly can? You might just be surprised... because a "schedule" might just help you and your spouse to experience more sexual intimacy than you've been having in a long time! Welcome to... Is Scheduling Sex A Good Idea?

DID YOU KNOW THAT AN ESTIMATED 50% OF PASTORS VIEW INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY ON A REGULAR BASIS? Vern Tompke has been a pastor for 29 years... and throughout his ministry he has struggled with using pornography. During this time Vern realized just how hard it is for a pastor to find help with this struggle. * Who can a pastor turn to for help? * Who can a pastor be honest with? * Who can a pastor trust? * What if people find out about his struggle? * Will he be fired from his job? * How will be continue to provide for his family if he looses his job? These are no doubt questions that Vern struggled with. Although Vern led a weekly men's recovery group around this issue for 15 years... he didn't begin to walk in true freedom until 3 years ago. What helped Vern "turn the corner" was getting mentored by another godly man... investing time and finances in his own therapeutic process... and listening on a regular basis to great podcasts... including The Power of Purity Podcast. Recently Vern started his own podcast... Pastors On Porn... which is intended to be a safe place for struggling pastors to find anonymous help for their struggle. In this episode Tony does something very different... because Tony is normally the INTERVIEWER... but on this episode Tony is actually the INTERVIEWEE. Vern actually hosted Tony as a guest on the Pastors On Porn Podcast... and it's that episode that's being presented today on the Power of Purity Podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pastors-on-porn/id1435403633

DID YOU KNOW THAT AN ESTIMATED 50% OF PASTORS VIEW INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY ON A REGULAR BASIS? Vern Tompke has been a pastor for 29 years... and throughout his ministry he has struggled with using pornography. During this time Vern realized just how hard it is for a pastor to find help with this struggle. * Who can a pastor turn to for help? * Who can a pastor be honest with? * Who can a pastor trust? * What if people find out about his struggle? * Will he be fired from his job? * How will be continue to provide for his family if he looses his job? These are no doubt questions that Vern struggled with. Although Vern led a weekly men's recovery group around this issue for 15 years... he didn't begin to walk in true freedom until 3 years ago. What helped Vern "turn the corner" was getting mentored by another godly man... investing time and finances in his own therapeutic process... and listening on a regular basis to great podcasts... including The Power of Purity Podcast. Recently Vern started his own podcast... Pastors On Porn... which is intended to be a safe place for struggling pastors to find anonymous help for their struggle. In this episode Tony does something very different... because Tony is normally the INTERVIEWER... but on this episode Tony is actually the INTERVIEWEE. Vern actually hosted Tony as a guest on the Pastors On Porn Podcast... and it's that episode that's being presented today on the Power of Purity Podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/pastors-on-porn/id1435403633

NOTE - In this epidote Shaun shares some very powerful ideas on how to talk with you kids about sexual issues! Shaun is a believer in Christ. He loves God... and wants to serve God. He wants to honor God with his life. He loves his wife and his family. But Shaun struggled with his addiction to pornography for years. This lead to Shaun becoming a man of duplicity... because he had sexual secrets... and he was representing himself to his wife as one man... when he was in fact a very different man. And then Shaun got "CAUGHT"! That was "D-DAY"... and it forced him to come into the "light" with his wife... and with God... and with himself. Shortly after his D-DAY... a friend told him about this purity group that meets in the St. Louis area... led by this guy name Tony Ingrassia. About 5 years ago Shaun began coming to the group shortly after he heard about it... and Shaun now has 5 years of sexual sobriety... or said another way... Shaun has NOT looked at porn for about 5 years now! AMAZING Shaun is living proof that... * IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to STOP LOOKING AT PORN. * IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to OVERCOME HIS SEXUAL ADDICTION... by God's grace! * IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A WHITE GLOVE TO BE IN THE MIDDEL OF A BIG MUD PUDDLE AND STILL REMAIN PURE AND CLEAN! Be encouraged as you hear Shaun's story... because if Shaun can do it... so can YOU

Shaun is a believer in Christ. He loves God... and wants to serve God. He wants to honor God with his life. He loves his wife and his family. But Shaun struggled with his addiction to pornography for years. This lead to Shaun becoming a man of duplicity... because he had sexual secrets... and he was representing himself to his wife as one man... when he was in fact a very different man. And then Shaun got "CAUGHT"! That was "D-DAY"... and it forced him to come into the "light" with his wife... and with God... and with himself. Shortly after his D-DAY... a friend told him about this purity group that meets in the St. Louis area... led by this guy name Tony Ingrassia. About 5 years ago Shaun began coming to the group shortly after he heard about it... and Shaun now has 5 years of sexual sobriety... or said another way... Shaun has NOT looked at porn for about 5 years now! AMAZING Shaun is living proof that... * IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to STOP LOOKING AT PORN. * IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to OVERCOME HIS SEXUAL ADDICTION... by God's grace! * IT IS POSSIBLE for a man to BRING HIS SEXUAL GIFT UNDER THE AUTHORITY OF CHRIST! * IT IS POSSIBLE FOR A GLOVE TO STAY WHITE AND PURE... EVEN IN THE MIDDLE OF A MUD PUDDLE! Be encouraged as you hear Shaun's story... because if Shaun can do it... so can YOU!

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology. From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God's design for intimacy. Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli", and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. Dr. Juli's books include... (1) Rethinking Sexuality – God's Design And Why It Matters (2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making (3) Sex and The Single Girl (4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband (5) 25 Questions You're Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy (6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story (7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage (8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman's Heart (9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You (10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy. On this episode and the next... Tony presents "really hard questions" about sex and intimacy to Dr. Juli. Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio. www.authenticintimacy.com

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology. From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God's design for intimacy. Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli", and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute. Dr. Juli's books include... (1) Rethinking Sexuality – God's Design And Why It Matters (2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making (3) Sex and The Single Girl (4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband (5) 25 Questions You're Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy (6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story (7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage (8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman's Heart (9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You (10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy. On this episode and the next... Tony presents "really hard questions" about sex and intimacy to Dr. Juli. Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio. www.authenticintimacy.com

MJ Denis is a specialist in the area of Betrayal Trauma... with the following credentials: LPC - Licensed Professional Counselor LMFT – Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AASECT Certified Sex Therapist APSAT Certified Partner Trauma Specialist MJ's path has led her to specialize in areas involving sexual dysfunction, sexual betrayal, intimacy discrepancies and desire disorders. Her experience includes working as a mental health counselor, as an emergency hotline advocate, counseling patients experiencing sexual dysfunction, and helping individuals and couples work through the pain of betrayal, infidelity, and sex addiction for the Affair Recovery Center. MJ combines her experience as a sex therapist with her passion for helping couples learn to experience satisfying and healthy sexual relationships with their partners. As a Partner Trauma Specialist, she helps sex addicts and their partners learn about healthy sexuality and how to create intimacy in their relationships. MJ is trained in both ETT and EMDR. In this interview Tony and MJ discuss what Betrayal Trauma is... what it looks like... how it effects peoples... its profound implications... and what it takes to experience true and lasting healing. Tony wanted to interview MJ Denis for 2 primary reasons: (1) To inspire hope for those who are struggling with Betrayal Trauma... that genuine healing truly in possible. (2) To help us all understand the profound implications of Betrayal Trauma... in the hope that such understanding will help us to never perpetrate such trauma within the context of our own relationship.