Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift

Les is a Christian man. Les loves God. Les went to bible college. Les wants his life to count for the Kingdom of God. Les got married... and wanted to honor his wife with the expression of his sexual gift. Yet... in spite of all these realities... Les struggled deeply with an addiction to internet pornography... and eventually felt complete hopelessness. Then a friend told Les about The Power of Purity Podcast. Les began to listen to the podcast... and after listening for a while... he wrote the following note to Tony: Hello Tony, First of all I have to say this ministry has impacted me greatly. I have felt hopeless as a newly married man who struggles with pornography. My friend shared with me your podcast and I cant stop listening to it, I have been so encouraged and convicted through it that I have made some big steps to sexual healing and becoming the man God wants me to be. I feel that God has brought you and this ministry into my life at the right time because I had no idea how big of a deal this can become. I thought that no one would know about pornography but I am seeing the progressiveness of this sin and the impact it has had on my wife as well. Praise be to God that it is not too late and that I find myself having hope about this issue for the first time and progress being made. I decided I want to share this with as many men as I can and am going to start a small group where we watch your conference and use the workbook. Listen to this story and you'll see that God can break sexual addiction from a man's heart and life... and that a Christian man can truly learn to honor God... and honor his wife... with the expression of his sexual gift!

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt. Dr. Sheri Keffer received both her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts in Theology… from Fuller Theological Seminary. She currently specializes in individual, couples and family therapy at her private practice in Newport Beach, CA. Sheri is a regular co-host of the nationally-syndicated talk show New Life Live with Stephen Arteburn… which is heard in 150 markets with 2 million listeners. Sheri is the author of the book Intimate Deception… which is intended to help women heal from the trauma of sexual betrayal. Sheri enjoys the beach, reading, mountain biking, hiking, camping, and big game fishing evidenced by a 150-pound marlin that proudly hangs on her wall. drsherikeffer.com braveone.com

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt. Dr. Sheri Keffer received both her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts in Theology… from Fuller Theological Seminary. She currently specializes in individual, couples and family therapy at her private practice in Newport Beach, CA. Sheri is a regular co-host of the nationally-syndicated talk show New Life Live with Stephen Arteburn… which is heard in 150 markets with 2 million listeners. Sheri is the author of the book Intimate Deception… which is intended to help women heal from the trauma of sexual betrayal. Sheri enjoys the beach, reading, mountain biking, hiking, camping, and big game fishing evidenced by a 150-pound marlin that proudly hangs on her wall. drsherikeffer.com brave one.com

In a very real way... in several different ways... your physical body is about the business of betraying you. Your physical body is trying to sabotage and betray the possibility of you being a man of God... and a man of sexual purity. The reason for this is because your physical body has a very powerful sex drive. Your body has an opinion about sex. Your body knows what it wants and what it needs when it comes to sex... and your body will tell you when it wants what it wants. Or maybe better said... your body will scream at you... and essentially place a kind of demand upon you... GIVE ME SEX NOW! GIVE ME MY ORGASM NOW! GIVE ME A RELEASE NOW! And what this means... is that if you're going to be a man of sexual purity... you absolutely are going to have to engage a very real battle with your own physical body. You're going to have to tame your body. You're going to have to break your body. You're going to have to retrain your body. You're going to have to teach your body that it does not control you... and that you control it. You're going to have to teach your body that it does not tell you when it gets an orgasm... and that you tell it when it gets an orgasm. In this series Tony will help you to see your battle with your body in a new and different way... and offer some very practical strategies for you to tame your body as you fight to bring your body... and your sexual gift... into submission to Christ!

In a very real way... in several different ways... your physical body is about the business of betraying you. Your physical body is trying to sabotage and betray the possibility of you being a man of God... and a man of sexual purity. The reason for this is because your physical body has a very powerful sex drive. Your body has an opinion about sex. Your body knows what it wants and what it needs when it comes to sex... and your body will tell you when it wants what it wants. Or maybe better said... your body will scream at you... and essentially place a kind of demand upon you... GIVE ME SEX NOW! GIVE ME MY ORGASM NOW! GIVE ME A RELEASE NOW! And what this means... is that if you're going to be a man of sexual purity... you absolutely are going to have to engage a very real battle with your own physical body. You're going to have to tame your body. You're going to have to break your body. You're going to have to retrain your body. You're going to have to teach your body that it does not control you... and that you control it. You're going to have to teach your body that it does not tell you when it gets an orgasm... and that you tell it when it gets an orgasm. In this series Tony will help you to see your battle with your body in a new and different way... and offer some very practical strategies for you to tame your body as you fight to bring your body... and your sexual gift... into submission to Christ!

The last 2 episodes of the podcast (238 & 239) were entitled... With Or Without Your Wife. In these 2 episodes Tony discussed the importance of a Christian man being committed to sexual purity... regardless of what's going on sexually in the context of his marriage. Unfortunately... sometimes a married couple can be in the place where sexual intimacy never happens... or happens very infrequently. In such cases many men resort to acting out in secrecy as they take matters into their own hands (no pun intended)... and meet their own sexual needs in their own way... apart from their wife. While it's true that we are called to be men of purity... With Or Without Our Wife... it's also true that it can be profoundly difficult for men to maintain their purity in the context of a sexless marriage... or a very difficult marriage. In this episode... and the next... Tony offers advice and guidance concerning what it might look like for a man to live with "sexual honesty" before his wife... even if they are struggling with sex in the marriage.

The last 2 episodes of the podcast (238 & 239) were entitled... With Or Without Your Wife. In these 2 episodes Tony discussed the importance of a Christian man being committed to sexual purity... regardless of what's going on sexually in the context of his marriage. Unfortunately... sometimes a married couple can be in the place where sexual intimacy never happens... or happens very infrequently. In such cases many men resort to acting out in secrecy as they take matters into their own hands (no pun intended)... and meet their own sexual needs in their own way... apart from their wife. While it's true that we are called to be men of purity... With Or Without Our Wife... it's also true that it can be profoundly difficult for men to maintain their purity in the context of a sexless marriage... or a very difficult marriage. In this episode... and the next... Tony offers advice and guidance concerning what it might look like for a man to live with "sexual honesty" before his wife... even if they are struggling with sex in the marriage.

Sometimes it feels like God is really unfair! God tells us... as Christian men... that he expects us to only express our sexual gift with our wife... within the context of our marriage. But then... in many situations... a man's wife simply isn't as interested in sex as her husband is. So as a result... this Christian man is basically stuck in the middle... being pressed from both sides! On one side... God is telling him he can only have sex with his wife. On the other side... the man has a wife who isn't interested in sex. Is God crazy? Is God unfair? Does God really expect us to be men of sexual integrity... and sexual faithfulness... if our wife isn't as interested in sex as we are? In this episode Tony explores the idea that we are called... as Christian men... and as men of God... to be men of sexual purity and sexual integrity... WITH OR WITHOUT the sexual accessibility to our wife that we might prefer.

Sometimes it feels like God is really unfair! God tells us... as Christian men... that he expects us to only express our sexual gift with our wife... within the context of our marriage. But then... in many situations... a man's wife simply isn't as interested in sex as her husband is. So as a result... this Christian man is basically stuck in the middle... being pressed from both sides! On one side... God is telling him he can only have sex with his wife. On the other side... the man has a wife who isn't interested in sex. Is God crazy? Is God unfair? Does God really expect us to be men of sexual integrity... and sexual faithfulness... if our wife isn't as interested in sex as we are? In this episode Tony explores the idea that we are called... as Christian men... and as men of God... to be men of sexual purity and sexual integrity... WITH OR WITHOUT the sexual accessibility to our wife that we might prefer.

Rob Kowalski is the Founder and CEO of CityFam... which is a Baltimore based no-profit organization that advocates for the power of community to transform an individual, a city, and even the whole world! Rob has an amazing story of sexual redemption in his life... and Tony recently interviewed Rob as a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast... Episodes 230 & 231. In addition... Rob hosts his own podcast called... The Kowalski Analysis. After Rob was a guest on The Power of Purity Podcast... he then asked Tony to be a guest on The Kowalski Analysis. As a result... todays episode... and next weeks episode... are actually Tony being interviews by Rob on The Kowalski Analysis. Listen in to hear some variations of Tony's story that you may have never heard before!