

The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast
Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini
Does your marriage feel like a war of unmet wants?
We know how this feels.
Follow our conversation in The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast. We’ll help you both get what you want in marriage so you never have to feel at war again.
Hosted by relationship coaches, and husband and wife, Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini.
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Jun 27, 2025 • 38min
250: The #1 Hack British Olympic Gold Rowing Legends Can Teach Us About How To Be Ultra Decisive Husbands All Day Every Day
In the run up to the summer Olympics In Sydney 2000, the British rowing team had failed to win gold for over 88 YEARS! Like most husbands, they had a long history of their good intentions never being good enough. Determined to finally change the story, they based their entire training preparations on one simple clarifying question. This one simple tool allowed them to decide what was going to lead them to Gold….and more importantly, what was not.The type of decision-making clarity is absent in every struggling husband on the planet. This episode will introduce you to a simple decision-making tool that will turn you into a decisive man your Queen will trust like never before. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jun 26, 2025 • 1h 13min
249: Marriage Transformation Heroes Special Series with Tara and Duane Kennedy
We welcome in Tara and Duane Kennedy to tell their heart-warming story of marriage transformation. From the depths of pain and hopelessness that things could ever improve, Tara and Duane let us know the insights and strategies driving their stunning turnaround.Tara gifts us many profound insights into the challenges a wife experiences when relating with a well-intentioned but emotionally unsafe husband.Duane explains how he used the Heroic Husbands mantra "Inspire Don't Require" to create a safe space where his Queen feels seen, heard and safe as the new norm.If you ever doubt you'll be able to radically change your marriage for the better, then this is the rocket fuel your soul has been waiting for.Let's begin...Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work:Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jun 20, 2025 • 57min
248: 10 Ways Stoicism Will Help You Kill Victimhood and Master Your Mind and Marriage
Explore how Stoicism can shift your mindset from victimhood to empowerment for stronger relationships. Discover the significance of radical ownership in marriage and learn to embrace challenges as growth opportunities. The discussion emphasizes emotional presence, taking risks, and fostering deeper connections with partners. Gain insights into creating a supportive home environment while proactively engaging with loved ones. Get ready to transform your marriage through a powerful mental outlook!

Jun 13, 2025 • 23min
247: The 3 Attachment Needs to Instantly Ease Tension in Marital and Parenting Conflicts With Zero Need to Say Anything Clever
Most of us husbands have a trigger happy impulse to try and fix conflicts at home with rational solutions.....that rarely work!!!!In this episode you will meet the three human attachment needs and how to use them at home that will change how you look at conflict forever.In conflict, effective communicators are not trying to change the mental state of others. Instead, their focus is on changing their emotional state via meeting their attachment needs.When this happens, emotional reactivity is gone and full intelligence comes back online...aka: end of conflict.Let’s begin…..Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jun 6, 2025 • 59min
246: 10 Ideas To Break Up Mundane Marital Boredom By Unleashing Your Freedom-Loving WILD Man
Monotony in marriage can stifle excitement and passion. Embrace your wild side to rejuvenate your relationship! Discover the power of 'hell yes, hell no' lists to reclaim what energizes you. Dive into self-love and engage in playful activities that inspire. Overcoming fears and self-limiting beliefs is key to nurturing your partnership. Learn how to transform your life into a thrilling adventure, giving both you and your queen what you've been missing!

May 30, 2025 • 56min
245: Why Not Giving A Sh!t About Your Wife’s Happiness Actually Inspires Her To Love and Trust You More Than Ever Before
Unpack the surprising idea that not prioritizing your wife's happiness might actually enhance your relationship. Discover how societal conditioning from childhood shapes our emotional interactions in marriage, often with negative consequences. Learn the importance of prioritizing your own emotional needs to foster deeper connections. This conversation encourages men to reclaim their self-worth and embrace self-care as a pathway to building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

May 23, 2025 • 50min
244: The 6 Most Unsexy and Untrustworthy Mistakes Husbands Commonly Make When Trying to Save Their Marriage
Husbands often strive to improve their marriages but can stumble into common mistakes that hinder progress. Connection and consistency are essential for meaningful change, rather than pursuing quick fixes. Emotional energy can be stifled by childhood conditioning, making it crucial for men to embrace their feelings. Authenticity becomes vital in rekindling passion between partners, highlighting the need for commitment and mutual understanding. Dive into strategies to avoid pitfalls and strengthen your marriage.

May 16, 2025 • 35min
243: These 3 Simple Yet RARELY SPOKEN Words Form The Single Most Impactful Phrase a Husband Can Speak To His Wife…(it’s NOT What You Are Thinking)
There are three words in the English language that hold enormous power to help you transform your marriage with your wife. Coincidently they are also universally the least spoken words by husbands in marriage. The more disconnected your marriage situation, the more powerful these words are. They are not the words, “I love you”. These three words are infinitely more impactful. When spoken sincerely by a husband to his wife, everything starts changing for the better in marriage. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

May 8, 2025 • 56min
242: End Suffocating Self-Doubt In Marriage By Activating These 6 Dormant Superpowers Every Husband Has But Rarely Uses
Ever experience self-doubt in marriage? Being a husband and father is the most challenging leadership position on the planet….Of course you experience self-doubt! Fact: Every husband on the planet experiences self-doubt at times. However, most husbands lock their self-doubt away and try to just get on with life pretending it’s not there. This doesn’t work. Ever. The rare few who learn how to transcend self-doubt and create a married life built on infinite freedom and fulfilment (Yes, this IS possible for you too!) have all reactivated these 6 natural superpowers….that you have too. Ready to end self-doubt’s negative influence forever more? Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

May 2, 2025 • 58min
241: How To Confidently Inspire Your Wife To Stop Flirting With Other Men
Nearly every husband has been there. Seeing your wife feeling radically alive, eyes lit up, loving life, laughing and letting loose…but in the presence of another man. All her behaviours fall into the category we call flirting. But what is the most powerful way to intervene in this awkward, disconnecting situation? This episode gifts you the code to obliterating the competition in any social event you attend, leaving your wife’s eyes and energy being locked in on you, her conscious King. Get ready to set the ultimate energetic boundary, Heroic Husband style! Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast


