

The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast
Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini
Does your marriage feel like a war of unmet wants?
We know how this feels.
Follow our conversation in The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast. We’ll help you both get what you want in marriage so you never have to feel at war again.
Hosted by relationship coaches, and husband and wife, Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini.
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Aug 29, 2025 • 49min
260: How To Use 2 Simple FBI Hostage-negotiator Strategic Empathy Techniques to Bring Your Wife from Irrational Rupture Hell to Grounded Rational Repair You Can Understand and Connect With
The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll understand the distinction between masculine and feminine integrity practices helping you take nothing personal ever again. 2. You’ll know how to embrace any emotional intensity your Queen throws your way and exactly what to say to help ground her. 3. You’ll know a strategic trick to use everything your wife says, no matter how hurtful, as a support to bringing you both back into rapid connection and repairWill you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Aug 22, 2025 • 36min
259: 1 Question To Help Unlock Your Wife’s Kindest and Most Encouraging Feedback and Help You Create Meaningful Progress She’ll Love and Appreciate You For.
The three specific benefits you'll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1.You'll know the highest leveraged question a husband can ask his wife in marriage. 2.You'll know the best timing to ask this question to get the maximum brownie points from asking it. 3.You'll know the exact follow up that is required to maximise the trust you build by asking the question. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Aug 15, 2025 • 1h 5min
258: How to Use The 10 Key Masculine and Feminine Differences Between Husbands and Wives to Confidently Create Connection and Attraction
The 3 benefits you'll gain by listening to the end of this episode are:1. You'll understand, acknowledge and accept the beauty of marriage is knowing how to allow each other be uniquely different.2. You'll know the two precise strategies to use to inspire your wife to bloom into hot feminine fullness with you.3. You'll know how to channel your masculine mission for freedom in meaningful ways bringing you radical fulfilment in marriage.Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message Now

Aug 8, 2025 • 38min
257: The #1 Most Sexually Attractive Thing A Husband Can Say That’s Guaranteed To Relight The Marital Sexual Flame Today and For Years to Come
In this episode you'll discover the #1 Most Sexually Attractive Thing A Husband Can Say That’s Guaranteed To Relight The Marital Sexual Flame Today and For Years to Come The 3 Benefits you will gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1- You’ll learn the one thing all female authors of romantic novels make sure their male protagonist says and thinks about sexually relating with his partner. 2 - You’ll know the one approach to long-term sexual relating in marriage that’s essential to become the 1% of couples who have red hot sex no matter how many years that pass. 3 - You’ll have your finger on the on-switch to shake your marriage out of any sexual stagnancy it may have slipped into over the years.Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Aug 7, 2025 • 1h 31min
256: "Marriage Transformation Heroes Special Series" with Alan and Karoline
In this special episode, you will get to witness the precise strategies and mindset that Alan has used in his marriage transformation journey with his beautiful wife Karoline. The benefits you will experience by listening to the end of this episode are: - Learn Alan’s detailed inner process going from shutdown and conflict to repair and reconnection - You will understand from Karoline’s amazing articulation a wife’s feminine emotional challenge in dealing with a well-intentioned but emotionally ineffective husband. - You will learn simple and small consistent changes that help husbands evoke deep trust, connection and attraction from their wives. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Aug 1, 2025 • 45min
255: How To Stop Being A Weak Feminine Pleasing Mr Nice Guy and Set Safe and Strong Boundaries Your Wife Respects
In this episode, you'll discover How To Stop Being a Weak Feminine Pleasing Mr Nice Guy And Set Safe Yet Strong Boundaries Your Wife RespectsThe 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. Understand the two ways husbands avoid setting boundaries that erode trust, connection and attraction. 2. Learn how to set boundaries with your wife that allow mutual connection and understanding to flourish. 3. You’ll understand that anger is a healthy and essential emotion to express, and how to express it safely.Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan?Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jul 25, 2025 • 38min
254: 2 Things You Must Do Together To Help Your Wife Relax And Surrender Into Your Leadership and Listen To What You Have To Say
In this episode, you'll discover 2 things you must do together to help your wife relax and surrender into your leadership and listen to what you have to say.The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are:1. You will have 2 high leverage precise challenges that will let you know exactly what to do beyond this episode to have your wife trust your leadership like never before. 2. You will learn exactly how to enter conversations you have been avoiding in the most powerful way. 3. You will learn the simple technique the world’s best performers use to always back up what they say they will do. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan?Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message Now

Jul 18, 2025 • 50min
253: 5 Easy Steps To Embodying A Trustworthy Secure Attachment Style No Matter What Dysfunctional Attachment Style Has Eroded Trust Until Now
In this episode, you'll discover the one practice you need to know to start embodying a secure attachment style, no matter what dysfunctional attachment style you have had until now. The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: - You’ll know exactly what response to take at the first signs of conflict….husbands that struggle don’t know this simple practice. - You’ll have a precise checklist to use helping you remain calm and grounded in any emotional upset. - You’ll have a repeatable process designed to inspire trust and connection in every conflict or disagreement. Let’s begin…..Foundations of Attachment style old episode 213: Be The Husband She Brags About / The 4 Attachment Styles Husbands and Wives Have In MarriageWill you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan?Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message NowTo connect with Mark’s Queen and her incredible work: Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast

Jul 11, 2025 • 25min
252: An Easy 2-Minute Progress Building Communication Habit To Create A Sense of Confidence and Connection No Matter How Distant Your Marriage Feels
In this episode, you'll discover a daily progress building communication habit that can be done in 2 minutes flat.The 3 marriage transforming benefits you'll gain by listening are:- Gaining a high leverage connection habit you can fit in the busiest of family schedules- A simple tool to focus you and your wife's awareness on the things that are going well- A daily habit guaranteed to build momentum in the right direction towards connection.Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start 5-Min Self-Assessment NOWWant the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transforming Hero of your relationship?Coaching - Heroic HusbandsDon’t Miss The Upcoming Intake to the brand NEW Heroic Husbands Training and Community platform:Community Platform - Heroic HusbandsI want to hear from you! Click the link to send me a 90sec voice message with questions or suggestions for relationship topics you’d love me to cover. Send Mark voice message Now

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Jul 3, 2025 • 1h 5min
251: The 3 Levels of Masculine Maturity Wives Meet in their Husbands When Trying to Land Their Feminine Feedback…2 They Hate, 1 They LOVE!!!
Discover the three levels of masculine maturity that shape how husbands respond to feedback from their wives. The exploration reveals the challenges men face, from the beaten boy to the maturing man, in navigating emotional growth. Learn how embracing feedback can strengthen trust and connection in marriage. The discussion emphasizes the importance of gratitude and emotional awareness, offering valuable insights to enhance relationship dynamics. Tune in for tips on transforming feedback into a powerful tool for marital success!


