In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) chats with the internet's resident sexpert, ⁠Dr. Tara⁠, on a candid journey through Dr. Tara’s sexual history, insights, and expert advice on improving relationships. Dr. Tara opens up about her childhood in Thailand with parents who avoided discussing sex, her early sexual experiences with girls at 13, and her exploration with guys after moving to Finland. She shares how her first marriage ended due to a lack of sexual compatibility and how, through friendship first, she built a strong relationship with her current husband, eventually evolving from monogamous to “monogamish.” We dive into Dr. Tara’s research on sexual communication, with tips on navigating protective vs. possessive attitudes and how men often struggle to open relationships due to cultural ideas of ownership. Dr. Tara highlights her findings on the top predictors of long-term satisfaction—sexual communication, sexual esteem, and sexual mindfulness—and offers advice on bringing these into relationships. We also discuss her new lube line, “⁠Luv by Dr. Tara⁠,” and her tips for integrating micro and macro communication in intimate conversations. From the impact of inequities in oral sex and the importance of addressing them to funny experiences around poop play clients and why “dirty talk” is her specialty, Dr. Tara keeps it real. Join us as she discusses how a simple pro/con list can change perspectives in relationships and why we should prioritize equality, communication, and the right tools for a better sex life! A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa60⁠

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with MJ Fox, co-founder of Joyride (@joyride.rave) a sex-positive rave redefining inclusive nightlife in London. In this episode, MJ shares their journey into the sex-positive space and how Joyride was born, a rave known for its vibrant, safe atmosphere and all-queer staff and DJs. We dive into what attendees can expect when they walk into Joyride, including the two designated play spaces, the event's unique 4 PM to midnight schedule, and MJ's decision not to enter the playroom. MJ opens up about how Joyride creates a welcoming environment for the queer community and what their dream party would look like in the future. Plus, a look at the challenges and triumphs of building this one-of-a-kind rave.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Karl, the founder of Klub Verboten, one of the most inclusive and progressive kink spaces in Europe. They delve into how the club was born, who can attend, and the rules that ensure everyone’s safety and comfort. Karl shares his hot takes on why straight cis men tend to stay away and how he learned to become a great lover. We also discuss the importance of feedback from the community and how KV adapts to make the space even better for everyone. Karl opens up about dating within the kink scene and managing an entire community while being an introvert. From venue nightmares to why Klub Verboten doesn’t bring performers to their events, we talk about it all—including Karl’s experience using a fake online profile to better understand cis-het men. Plus, tips for anyone preparing to attend their first KV event and insights into why education and guardianship are crucial to keeping single women and all attendees safe.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Leanne Yau (@polyphiliablog), who shares her journey from growing up in Hong Kong to leaving a law career behind to become a full-time content creator focusing on non-monogamy. They discuss what it's like getting recognized at sex parties, balancing a large online platform, and how being neurodivergent shapes Leanne's life and work. Leanne opens up about her current relationship structure, her shift from orgasm-driven sex to scheduling time for pleasure, and her thoughts on whether non-monogamy is more challenging for men. They also dive into successful de-escalations as an alternative to breaking up and why sex, for both Leanne and Alexa, is totally a hobby! Check out Leanne and Zachary Zane's workshop on Bisexuality and Non-Monogamy on Nov 10th here!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator and non-monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett (@polyampoppy). In this candid episode, we dive into what we got up to in Barcelona, Poppy's journey through sex chat rooms, and her experiences as an emo kid. Poppy opens up about her sexual awakening, being slut-shamed for the first time at 15, and the creative ways she used to get off as a teen—think stuffed animals, electric toothbrushes, and even a vending machine plastic vibrator!We also discuss her first trip to Ann Summers, how she incorporates sex toys with her partners, and whether she’s team frill or team flat (let us know which one you belong to!). We explore genital confidence, her queer awakening, and her polyamorous journey while being in a relationship of 11 years. Poppy shares her experiences with OnlyFans and embraces the term "greedy" because she wants it all and does it all. Plus, we rate our preferences between fingering, oral, and penetration in a fun and honest exchange.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Lily, co-founder of @quench_london, a unique queer party that centers people who are queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled, and of all sizes. In this episode, we talk about who can attend Quench, what to expect when you walk through the doors, where you're allowed to play, and how they prioritize safety and inclusivity for everyone. Lily also shares Quench's journey, their dream venue and theme nights, and some unforgettable moments in the party’s history.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) is joined by Cydney (⁠@cydneythelight⁠) in this episode where they dive deep into postpartum body insecurities, bisexuality, and dating. Cydney opens up about her journey from being confident in her body before giving birth to hiding her body for 8 years after having her son at 19. They also discuss how her mom raised a confident daughter, but the lack of representation for stretch marks and postpartum bodies took a toll. Cydney talks about her bisexual awakening, what dating women is like compared to men, and how intimacy and sex differ. From insecurity to acceptance, Cydney shares her inspiring story of body positivity and love.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Emma Richardson-Gerrard, CEO and founder of Knude Society, for a deep dive into her upbringing in the UK, where sex education was lacking, and how she’s changing that with her own daughter. Emma shares her story about her first boyfriend gifting her a vibrator, but never achieving an orgasm with him, and how she now advocates for introducing toys in the bedroom. We talk about the best ways and places to have these conversations, how to receive feedback, and how parents can create a safe space for their kids to ask questions. Emma also opens up about starting her company, the challenges she’s faced, and the exciting new toys she’s released – The Wanda and The Bette.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by content creator Taiwo (King TM) for a candid conversation about sex education in the UK and his first masturbation experience. We explore how growing up with a single mom gave him the freedom to explore, and why he made a pact not to have sex until he was 16. Taiwo shares how he learned to be a good lover by asking his partners for feedback, tells us the dynamics of low-effort vs. high-effort first dates, and dives into why men often enjoy the chase and respect these women more. We also tackle topics like penis size insecurities, cheating, and more.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Hani Dresner, founder of @gashtrays, a unique ceramics line focused on sex education. We dive into Hani’s upbringing in a naked household, how it shaped her body image journey, and what it was like growing up as the "weird kid" in school. Our conversation explores why sex education is so important, society’s obsession with big penises, the fascinating world of play parties, and the need for greater acceptance of genital diversity. Tune in for a deep, insightful chat that challenges norms and celebrates individuality.