In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by a very special guest—her sister! In this episode, they dive into everything from their easy orgasms and first boyfriends to their Catholic upbringing and how it impacted their body image and relationship with femininity. They share stories of sexual exploration as teens, their journeys with masturbation, and tips on how to ask for what you want in bed—especially when one of them is a pro at it despite their shared upbringing. The conversation also covers the difference between being vanilla and having a routine that works, the challenges and rewards of growing as a couple, and the balance between accepting your partner as they are versus trying to change them. Plus, they discuss what it's like to have Alexa as a sister, figuring out bisexuality while in a straight relationship, the quirks of dating a boyfriend without a sense of smell, and tips for making long-distance relationships work.

Kicking off Season 3! Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Jessica Stahl (@vanillacooldance), a sex-positive cartoonist and creative director. We dive into Jessica's mfm fantasy, her experience growing up in an open household, and how her mom gifting her her first vibrator shaped her advocacy for pleasure. Jessica shares her journey from anger at men to a place of curiosity, her experiences with toys and partners, overcoming dry spells, and the culture shocks she’s faced since moving to Amsterdam. Plus, we get into the highs and lows of sex parties!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Tara Michaela, a sex educator and founder of the Youth Sexpert Program. We dive deep into body image, sharing our personal experiences and discussing the importance of sensate focus and overcoming spectatoring. Tara offers insights on changing up your masturbation technique, the benefits of doing so, and why it's totally okay if you prefer sticking to the same routine. We also discuss her work in sex education, and wrap up with a candid conversation about men who boast about eating pussy but don’t deliver when it matters.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Rachel Wright, a therapist, sex therapist, educator, and non-monogamy expert. We dive into the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice and her 4-step process for better communication with your partner. Rachel shares her unique journey as a pregnant woman with another pregnant wife, discussing body changes, hiring a doula, and fulfilling people's desire to have sex with a pregnant person. We also cover how to ask for reassurance, cope with a partner's past cheating, and get along with an ex. Plus, a special update: baby Logan has been born since we recorded the episode and is a happy, healthy baby!

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Goddess Bats, a versatile and empowering sex worker. We dive into their journey, starting with camming at 18 and transitioning to various facets of sex work, including findom. We uncover the realities behind porn productions, like where the lube bottles are and how performer collaborations actually work. Goddess Bats shares their queerness journey, being demisexual as a sex worker, and how they navigate it all. We also discuss our takes on consent, providing valuable insights into this crucial aspect of the industry.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Sarah Casper from @comprehensiveconsent, author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum, and consent educator. We dive deep into the concept of consent, exploring its different types and how to ask for it. Sarah explains why consent doesn't necessarily have to be sexy but should always be asked for anyway. We also tackle some gray area situations, such as both people being equally drunk, whether you should ask for consent every single time in a long-term relationship, and how power dynamics like a big age gap can affect consent. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and practice consent more effectively.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Violet, an extremely lesbian-leaning bisexual and founder of Mesh, a queer event app in NYC. We dive into the world of queer dating, discussing how to pick up women (or non-cis men), how to approach, what to say, and where to go. Violet shares her insights on figuring out if someone is queer, handling rejection, and the differences between picking people up in real life versus on dating apps. Whether you're new to the queer dating scene or looking to refine your skills, this episode is packed with valuable advice and tips.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Maybe Burke, a trans woman, artist and educator for an open and heartfelt conversation. We discuss her sexuality, orientation, identity, and expression journeys, and delve into her dating stories. Maybe shares how she stays safe as a trans woman and the unique challenges she faces. We also talk about the fact that she has never been in love, her thoughts on relationships, and some of her personal kinks. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions about sexual assault and consent violations.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) hosts her first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast, besties and lovers. We dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting our experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and I first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. We provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for what you want. Vee and Elle also talk about the vibrant non-monogamous community they have built together. Tune in for an open and enlightening conversation about pleasure, connection, and community in the world of ENM.

In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Yair Lenchner, a private chef and husband to two pregnant wives (11 weeks apart), one of whom is sex therapist Rachel Wright. Yair shares his incredible journey from being a serial monogamist and cheater to embracing life as an open, polyamorous partner. We discuss how they’re navigating the pregnancies, what they plan to explain to their children, and Yair’s advice for those who have cheated or are new to non-monogamy (he’s now taking coaching clients). We also delve into what dating a chef is really like, the valuable lessons he’s learned from his sex therapist wife, and how they manage finances in their polyamorous household. Additionally, we discuss his therapy journey and the importance of seeking professional help. This episode offers a deep dive into the complexities and joys of polyamorous life, parenting, personal growth, and the crucial role of therapy in navigating it all.   You can email him at yairlenchner@gmail.com for his coaching services! @chefyairlenchner on IG.