Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

About Tobin Zivon: Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades. The author of The Art of Mindful Living, Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality. Tobin has been lovingly nicknamed the "couples whisperer" and has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to break through to a new, more fulfilling and connected love life. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Tobin Zivon and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How to unlock repetitive frustration patterns and power struggles in relationships. Why and how frustrating patterns start in the first place. The "divine design" present in 99% of relationships. Optimizing love and the two-step dance of embodying our true potential in the areas of love and intimacy. Being armed with the skillful means and tools to get at the root of ourselves and our relationships is the second step. The traumas and imprints within each of us and learning to live with and through them. Common frustrations of the masculine and feminine and how they play into each other. The surprising keys for dissolving power struggles (and what keeps them in place). "If you have the capacity to, first and foremost, meet that [heat] with loving awareness – a willingness to feel - we are starting to drive a wedge into it in that moment. Any moment, any millisecond, that we are feeling, as opposed to letting it run the show or stuffing it down and pretending it doesn't exist, then we are actually doing that alchemy; we are actually healing a part of our being that was imprinted from before this person who's in front of us." — Tobin Zivon Mentioned: Facebook: Tobin Zivon Website: TobinZivon.com & Relationship-Mastery-Secrets.com Instagram: @tobinzivon Book: The Art of Mindful Living Book Reference: A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose – Eckhart Tolle Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Amy E. Smith: Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. With acute focus on helping people "find their voice", she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Amy E. Smith and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Common blocks to our happiness and joy. Ways to identify our feelings of "not enoughness." Key approaches to experiencing self-love and inner worth. Emotions deliver valuable messages – they are not good or bad. Ways to develop and access new neuropathways to positive experiences. Changing how you see yourself takes massive repetition before it becomes the norm. It's what you do "in the field" that makes a difference. "It comes down to your beliefs about yourself, which then inform your self-talk. How you are speaking to yourself, that really does become your reality." — Amy E. Smith Mentioned: Twitter: @thejoyjunkie Facebook: The Joy Junkie After Hours Club with Amy E. Smith Website: TheJoyJunkie.com FREE eWorkbook: Stand up for Yourself without Being a Dick Instagram: @thejoyjunkie Show: The Joy Junkie Show Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Lindsay Bryan-Podvin: Lindsay is a financial therapist dedicated to bringing couples the knowledge they need about personal finances to deepen their relationships. I'm passionate about helping couples feel at peace with their money. It's my mission to open up a dialogue with my clients to talk about their money beyond the dollars and cents so they can feel darn good about how their money is working for them. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Lindsay Bryan-Podvin and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The importance of developing financial intimacy. How to negotiate differences around money. Budgeting does not equate to money talk. When to hit the therapy help button. Compassion and self-understanding are key to a healthy conversation around money. Financial anxiety can manifest into real, tangible financial problems if it's not addressed. Schedule frequent "money dates" to talk about your goals, needs and values. When each partner can lean into their natural strengths about money, both are empowered. "Money dates are some of the sexiest dates you can have!" - Lindsay Bryan-Podvin Mentioned: Website: www.mindmoneybalance.com Book: The Financial Anxiety Solution (to be released in 2020) YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/LindsayBryan-Podvin Pinterest: mindmoneybalance Instagram: mindmoneybalance Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Larry Bilotta: Married over 45 years in an age of divorce, Larry Bilotta is an authority on understanding people, marriage and relationships. Larry lived 27 years in a marriage made in Hell, but in the 28th year, fell in love…with his wife! As one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage, today, Larry holds the key to bringing a marriage back from the brink of divorce - even AFTER the papers have been filed. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Larry Bilotta and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The hidden danger of becoming your parents. The conflict couples experience with old programs and the stories we tell ourselves. The destructive nature of the ego, that little voice inside your head. The importance of learning from pain rather than running away from it. Four steps of working with "against energy." The importance of becoming the "Leader of Minds." "The sloppy start up period is not long if you are clear on your mission." — Larry Bilotta Mentioned: Twitter: @LarryBilotta Facebook: Larry Bilotta Website: YouCanSaveThisMarriage.com & ItOnlyTakesOneMan.com & ItOnlyTakesOneWoman.com YouTube: Larry Bilotta Chaos to Purpose Scale Marriage Tornado How to Experience More Love in your Relationship with Byron Katie Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Dr. Laura Louis: As a licensed psychologist, Dr. Laura Louis is a widely sought-after speaker specializing in helping couples press the reset button after infidelity. Her five-step training program, Marriage Matters, has helped couples reawaken their connection. Affectionately deemed the "Marriage Architect", Dr. Louis gives couples the tools to build their marriages. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Chaos takes us out of peace and into a place of conflict and stress. The importance of gaining insight into your issue before bringing it to your partner. How using a gentle start-up can set the conversation up well. Couple's therapy can bring an objective third party to guide a dialogue and bring tools to help solve something a couple can't solve themselves. Having trusted advisors in your life that can help bring awareness to your part of the conflict that you may not initially see on your own. "Acknowledgment and change silences criticism." Timing is key when talking about an issue with your significant other. Be mindful that your partner has a deep longing underneath their complaint. Get in touch with how much your partner's happiness matters to you. Learn strategies for creating healing conversations and being on the same page together. "Try to hear the longing beyond the control and defensiveness." — Dr. Laura Louis Mentioned: Facebook: Dr Laura Louis Website: AtlantaCoupleTherapy.com & Dr.LauraLouis.com Instagram: @dr.lauralouis YouTube: Dr. Laura Louis LinkedIn: Dr. Laura Louis, Ph.D. The After I Do Academy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of taking on psychiatry's toughest challenges all while ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Laura Dabney and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How difficult it can be to identify our emotions. How we make our emotions the enemy. The three top emotions that we have trouble with. How to change a destructive relationship pattern. A template for expressing our emotions. How to not accept any inappropriate behavior from your partner. How to encourage change in your partner. How to repair grief from past injury. "If you change the pattern, the pattern has changed. You don't need two people in the room to change the pattern." — Dr. Laura Dabney Mentioned: Instagram: @lauradabneycom Facebook: Laura F. Dabney, MD Website: DrLDabney.com & LauraDabney.com Phone: 757-695-3925 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About David Wood: After life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the one of the world's largest coaching businesses, becoming #1 on Google for "life coaching." David Wood believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. David coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams - even prison inmates - to amazing results AND connection. One conversation at a time. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, David Wood and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: What is considered a Tough Conversation. The benefits of having Tough Conversations and the dangers of sweeping them under the rug. Why David is so passionate about the practice of having Tough Conversations How people typically deal with having Tough Conversations. Examples of Tough Conversations that people tend to avoid in relationships. The Four Steps for having a Tough Conversation. "The real benefit [of having a tough conversation] is how good it feels, and how much I like myself more by speaking up and being expressed." — David Wood Mentioned: Website: PlayForReal.Life Show: Tough Conversations Podcast with David Wood YouTube: Tough Conversations with David Wood Four Step Blueprint for Tough Conversations Book Reference: Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships by Greg Baer Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Dr. Marcus Warner: A conference speaker and author who has spent over thirty years helping people and organizations navigate some of life's toughest challenges. As the president of Deeper Walk International he has helped develop dozens of resources that deal with recovery, leadership, and family life. About Chris M. Coursey: The president of THRIVEtoday, a non-profit focusing on training leaders and communities in the nineteen skills that make relationships work. Chris is an ordained minister, pastoral counselor, published author, curriculum designer and international speaker. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Marcus Warner, Chris Coursey, and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: We live in a low -joy culture, and a lot of people come from low-joy families. That effects so many things in life. Joy is accessible. Your brain is wired for joy. Joy is contagious – we don't dismiss the negative aspects, but we can amplify the positive and the joy in every day. Navigating the Joy Gap with PLAN – Play together, Listening for Emotion, Appreciating Daily, Nurture a Rhythm). Ways to build play in your relationship. The practice of appreciation is the fastest way to grow your joy center, and to bond with another. "If you can affect the home, and affect what's going on the marriage, then you're going to be able to have a greater impact overall." — Dr. Marcus Warner Mentioned: Facebook: Deeper Walk International & THRIVEtoday Website: HappyHappyMarriage.org & DeeperWalkInternational.org & ThriveToday.org Book: The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Rabbi Manis Friedman: World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called "It's Good to Know" which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Rabbi Manis Friedman and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Functional marriages versus intimate marriages. Love doesn't bond you, it separates you, because love is a personal experience. The difference between sex and intimacy. The harm of pornography and its pervasiveness in society. The essence of marriage is giving and receiving. Addressing tension points to build intimacy and trust. Only getting married if you believe in marriage and are in it forever. What home should feel like, regardless of moods. "The thing that is ruining marriages today is love – love has become toxic, and love cannot hold a relationship together, it wasn't meant to. Being in love does not mean you're in a good relationship, it means you found some pleasure in your life." — Rabbi Manis Friedman Mentioned: Twitter: @ManisFriedman Facebook: Rabbi Manis Friedman Website: ItsGoodToKnow.org Instagram: @rabbimanisfriedman Books: The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, & Marriage & Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Show: Ideas that Change the World… YouTube: Rabbi Manis Friedman LinkedIn: Manis Friedman Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

About Robert Kandell: Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communication expert, speaker, podcaster and the author of the bestselling book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Since 2002, Robert's mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insight to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. In this episode, Robert Kandell and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The journey of becoming "unhidden" and living with more purpose and authenticity. People are moved by inspiration or by desperation The markers of living a "hidden" life. How to engage and step into more of your potential. Why this is the best time to be a man How "being a man" has changed in recent decades, and how it has stayed the same A framework for creating change in your life "There's so much potential to be the best party in town, so if men will get off the couches, let go of Netflix, stop watching porn, it could be the best time to be a man." — Robert Kandell Mentioned: Twitter: @Robertkandell Facebook: Tuff Love with Robert Kandell & Robert Kandell Website: RobertKandell.com Book: unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them Show: Tuff Love YouTube: The unHidden Path with Robert Kandell LinkedIn: Robert Kandell Instagram: @robert.kandell Pinterest: Kandell Consulting Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.