

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
Dr. Jessica Higgins
The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy.
This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
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Dec 1, 2020 • 42min
ERP 244: How Being a Child of Divorced Parents Impacts Relationship Health in Adulthood - An Interview With Dr. Angela Cusimano
Angela shares her stance on what divorce does to a child's development, as well as looking at how a divorce is handled before, during and after can determine how much it impacts a child down the road. She discusses the indicators that childhood divorce has affected someone and how it can manifest. Angela also talks about ways to identify if divorce may be affecting your relationships in adulthood. Listen, as Angela describes what is a "healthy" relationship and how to determine what is real and what isn't when it comes to happiness in your relationships. Angela believes you can break free of past unhappy relationships and move forward with clarity to find what you are looking for. How you see yourself isn't always how others see you, so Angela shares some tips to help you bridge the gap. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio: Angela Cusimano is a psychologist and personal coach with decades of experience working with kids, families, and trauma survivors. As a way to connect with more people outside of the therapy room, she has started a coaching program for childhood divorce survivors who struggle with self-love, self-sabotage, and difficulties in their partnerships. She has published two books: one for families going through the divorce process and a book for parents who want to safely raise their teens in the digital age. In this episode, Dr. Angela Cusimano and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Angela's stance on what divorce does to children's development. Some indicators that childhood divorce has affected a person, like self-sabotage and relationship sabotage. Learning how to identify that divorce may have affected intimacy and relationships in adulthood. How divorce is handled can influence how much children are impacted down the road. What a "healthy" relationship can look like. Happiness in relationships: what is real and what isn't. Breaking free of a past of unhappy relationships and moving forward with possibility. Tweetables "We all grow up with this idea of normal." Angela Cusimano PhD "The first step is making the connection between the present and the past." Angela Cusimano PhD "The conflict between parents is more psychologically damaging than the divorce itself." Angela Cusimano PhD "Happy couples do fight." Angela Cusimano PhD "There are two sides to your story." Angela Cusimano PhD Mentioned: Crash Course for Divorce: How to Make a Difficult Road Easier to Navigate by Angela Cusimano PhD Raising Teens in the Digital Age: How to Connect, Understand, and Keep Them Safe, by Angela Cusimano PhD Shifting Criticism Into Connected Communication - a free gift for listeners. Connect with Angela Cusimano Visit Angela on the web Facebook: facebook.com/changethetidecoaching Instagram: instagram.com/changethetidecoaching Pinterest: pinterest.com/changethetidecoaching Email Angela Angela's upcoming programs For a free childhood divorce survivor journal Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic, you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Nov 24, 2020 • 47min
ERP 243: How To Skillfully Engage In A Conversation To Overcome Conflict In Relationship - An Interview With Kenneth Cloke
Kenneth Cloke talks about how the language we use, the stories we tell, and how we approach our conflicts often have the outcome of making them worse and destroying our relationships. He talks about how to avoid using certain verbiage, so that our partners aren't triggered to counter-attack. Listen in to our conversation where Ken talks about creating a pivot point in your conversation and having a better outcome and solution with the relational conversation that includes both members of a partnership. Kenneth Cloke has devoted much of his career to supporting people in the various negotiation conflict areas and resolving conflict. After a brutal divorce experience and reflection of how he could have handled his personal situation better, Ken was inspired to help others move through their conflict and teach how we can learn and use our own tools to avoid conflict before it starts. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio: Kenneth Cloke is a mediator, arbitrator, coach, consultant, and trainer, specializing in resolving complex multi-party disputes, including transnational, marital, divorce, family, grievance, workplace disputes, organizational, and public policy, and school conflicts, and designing preventative conflict resolution systems. He has worked in over 25 countries and is the founder and first President of Mediators Beyond Borders. He has published 15 books on conflict resolution, recently The Crossroads of Conflict and Politics, Dialogue, and the Evolution of Democracy. In this episode, Kenneth Cloke and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How to see conflicts differently, as well as how to recognize the source of most of our conflicts. The importance of looking at the language we use, the stories we tell and the approaches we use that either bring resolution or communication break-down. Identifying the specific words that lead to conflict and destructive cycles in relationship. Learn new language and new questions to ask that create understanding, clear communication and productive outcomes in relationship. What are the questions we are asking ourselves in every interaction to gauge how safe we are in the relationship. What makes someone an ally versus a threat in relationship. How vulnerable we are within our intimate relationships, what is at stake and and the risks involved. Learn ways to generate solutions, strengthen relationships and deepen intimacy in communication. Tweetables "I became interested in how to introduce conversations and design them that would help people actually talk through their problems with each other." Kenneth Cloke "Over the course of the past 40 years I've been immersed in working with people to get to places in which they see their conflicts completely differently." Kenneth Cloke "The language we use, the stories we tell and the way we approach our conflicts often has the outcome of making them worse and destroying our relationships." Kenneth Cloke "If you use the word 'you' in connection with something negative, the form of that pronoun is an accusation." Kenneth Cloke "Relationships are at stake in every conversation." Kenneth Cloke Mentioned: The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey into the Heart of Dispute Resolution by Kenneth Cloke The Dance of Opposites: Explorations in Mediation, Dialogue and Conflict Resolution Systems by Kenneth Cloke Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication – Free Guide Find a mediator online Connect with Kenneth Cloke Visit Kenneth on the web Pick up one of Kenneth's relationship books Find out more about Kenneth's trainings he offers Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Nov 17, 2020 • 38min
ERP 242: How To Stop Being Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable Partners - An Interview With Ryan Haddon
Suppose you're with an emotionally unavailable partner. In that case, you'll find that you can feel emotionally destabilized at times, that your partner is keeping you at arm's length. You might find that you can't talk deeply about the relationship itself and about what you need and what you want and especially where the two of you as a couple are headed in the future. In this episode, I talk with Ryan Haddon, a certified Life, and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher. She and I discuss how a person with narcissistic tendencies can emotionally keep you at bay and what you can do to shift your focus if you find yourself in one of these types of relationships. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio: Ryan Haddon is a certified Life and Spiritual Coach, Hypnotherapist, and certified Meditation teacher with over 16 years of experience with clients worldwide. A sought-after public speaker for corporate retreats and wellness events, Ryan does private workshops such as "Stepping Into Your Purpose," "The Work/Life Balance," and "Finding Your Center." Ryan was a keynote speaker for Visionary Women's 2020 virtual event and a featured speaker at CAA's 2020 global wellness event. She's also the in-house Life Coach at Kourtney Kardashian's website Poosh, where she writes mind/body/spirit articles. In this episode, Ryan Haddon and I discuss: Why you feel unsafe in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner. What does emotional unavailability look like in a partner? Reasons why people are emotionally unavailable. Why you feel lonely, unvalidated and rejected with a partner that's emotionally unavailable. The checklist of behaviors that emotionally unavailable people tend to display. Why it can feel like you are doing all the heavy lifting inside your relationship. How to figure out what you can do to break the pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people. Tweetables "If you're in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable, you're most likely feeling destabilized at all times." Ryan Haddon "When you enter into a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person you'll feel like you're not safe." Ryan Haddon "Knowing that they can't give you more than they are and if you manage to get past go, your relationship might be well underway and you might feel like you're dancing all the time, constantly taking their emotional temperature. Ryan Haddon "Emotional unavailability is a good term to describe when you're with someone who is always setting the terms, withdrawing physically and emotionally when you get too close, probably because they're afraid to be vulnerable." Ryan Haddon "It feels that one sidedness that you are always having to accept that they're not really needing you in that same playing field that you want to be in." Ryan Haddon Mentioned: Get your free guide Relationship Map to Happy Lasting Love Free Guide Listen to the podcast episode How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy - Part Two of the podcast series Connect with Ryan Haddon Visit Ryan on the web Chat with Ryan on Instagram Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Nov 10, 2020 • 36min
ERP 241: How to Prevent Your Smartphone from Hurting your Relationship w/ Dr. Lori Whatley
Have you sat down to dinner with your partner only to find them on their cell phone most of your time together? Does your significant other consistently bring their computer into the bedroom, and you have a feeling of being dismissed? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Lori about the damaging effects of digital devices on relationships. Whether you are interacting with family, friends, or a partner, spending an excessive amount of time and avoiding others instead of interacting with them one-on-one can cause mistrust, a feeling of neglect, and displace couple intimacy. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio: With over 25 years of experience, Dr. Lori has worked with thousands of clients, both domestic and internationally. Through her countless hours of research, Dr. Lori's commitment to helping businesses, families, and individuals overcome the problems created by device usage. Her book, The Effects of Texting on Marital Relationships, offers a poignant data-packed critique on texting within marriage, including its often negative impact. In addition to working one-on-one with clients, Dr. Lori advises businesses on the operational effects of over-connected employees, managing technology, distractions in the workplace, and driving employee productivity. In this episode, Dr. Lori Whatley and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How device usage can create challenges in relationships. How overuse of technology affects our levels of anxiety, quality of sleep and creates depression. Learn how human contact and in-person interactions affect our mood and brain chemistry. Why it takes up to 25 minutes for us to refocus after a digital distraction. How the amount of digital device usage can cut down on quality family and relationship time. How boundaries and rules can help couples resolve issues with overuse of digital time. How to deal with concerns of device addiction, jealousy and different ways of approaching social media in relationships. Listen in to find out why it's important that we learn to balance our digital devices as a society, the red flags of using too much daily technology, and how digital devices affect our focus. Learn why our attention span is shorter now than ever, how technology can be used as a tool for avoidance in a relationship, and how the overuse of a digital device can create distrust. "Everyday as I was working with couples, digital devices came up in our sessions." by Dr. Lori Whatley "The world needs to know how we are effected relationally and individually by our digital device issues." by Dr. Lori Whatley "The effect of technology is truly like another woman or another man in the relationship." by Dr. Lori Whatley "A "like" on social media is not the same as love in person." by Dr. Lori Whatley "Sometimes people fill their life and their hours up with their social media world and then they have no time left for in-person connection ." by Dr. Lori Whatley Mentioned: Connected and Engaged by Dr. Lori Whatley The Effects of Texting on Marital Relationships By Dr. Lori Whatley Family Assessment on Dr. Lori Whatley's website ERP 011: How Technological Impacts Our Relationship Connect with Dr. Lori Whatley Dr. Whatley on the web Get great information on her blog Check out her new book Connected & Engaged Read The Effects of Texting on the Marital Relationship Visit with Dr. Whatley on Instagram Chat with Dr. Whatley on Facebook Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Nov 3, 2020 • 48min
ERP 240: How To Prevent A Break-up In Your Relationship - An Interview with Chris Seiter
Bio: Chris Seiter, the founder of Ex Boyfriend Recovery and Ex Girlfriend Recovery has been helping thousands of broken hearted individuals win their exes back for over a decade. Implementing the very creative "no contact rule," which shuts down communication between exes for a certain period of time such in order to create space for each partner allows for healing, self recovery, and an opportunity for both of you to potentially come back together as a couple, which Chris believes is the key to long lasting success. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Chris Seiter and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How going through a break-up can be fertile ground for self-development and self-discovery. What happens when we do not have closure or time to process insights and understandings. How to use tactical empathy to address other's objections to move through resistance. What to focus on when communicating (and not through text). How to get in the right space emotionally. The importance of giving adequate time, space and distance to reflect. How to keep the end goal in mind and work towards creating a better relationship. "It is not about your ex, it is about you." by Chris Seiter Mentioned: Ex Boyfriend Recovery (website) Ex Girlfriend Recovery (website) Ex Boyfriend Recovery (podcast) Ex Girlfriend Recovery (podcast) Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication – Free Guide Connect with Chris Seiter Websites: www.exboyfriendrecovery.com www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com Facebook: facebook.com/OfficialExBoyfriendRecovery/ Youtube: Chris Seiter Podcasts: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/podcasts/ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Oct 28, 2020 • 42min
ERP 239: How To Break Out Of Sexual Routines And Ignite More Pleasure - An Interview With Sarrah Rose
Bio: Sarrah Rose is the founder of the tantric sex coaching platform Tantric Activation. She developed her coaching techniques by studying tantra, mixing in evolutionary biology, and adapting the method for practical use in the modern world. Sarrah was trained in the tantra method in India. She then earned her certification as a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach from the Tantra Institute of Integrated Sexuality. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Sarrah Rose and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How to use your sexual energy in a conscious way rather than being controlled by it. Becoming more aware of your patterns, shadow work, so that you can be more aligned in your mind, heart and sexuality. How your breath, sound, movement and focus helps you integrate the flow of energy throughout your body. How to deal with challenges, like performance anxiety, fear of rejection, and being shutdown or closed off to sex. How we train our body away from human physical touch when we use vibrators and porn. Why couples stop having sex and what is critical to know about the 3 stages of love. "For thousands of years, women have had to choose whether they were going to be accepted by society or express their sexuality." by Sarrah Rose Mentioned: Tantric Activation Sarrah Rose (website) Helen Fisher (website) Allison Armstrong (website) Relationship Map to Happy Lasting Love Free Guide Connect with Sarrah Rose Website: Tantric Activation Facebook: facebook.com/TantricActivation/ Instagram: instagram.com/tantricactivation/ Twitter: @IAmSarrahRose Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Oct 20, 2020 • 38min
ERP 238: How To Find Your Emotional Balance In Relationship
One of the most difficult tasks in relationships is to maintain our sense of self...to not loose our self in relationship. This can be even more challenging during times of conflict, stress and uncertainty. And especially true when our partner is pressuring us to be something different or when we fear their reaction and ultimately a loss of approval and love. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How important it is to work on becoming differentiated in relationship. The fallout of not maintaining a solid sense of self. What it looks like when couples get stuck in emotional fusion and gridlock. Dr. David Schnarch's Four Points Of Balance: Solid Flexible Self, Quiet Mind - Calm Heart, Grounded Responding, and Meaningful Endurance. How differentiation relates to our passion, sexual desire and sexual intimacy. "A solid sense of self develops from confronting yourself, challenging yourself to do what's right, and earning your own self-respect. It develops from inside you rather than from internalizing what's around you." by Dr. David Schnarch Mentioned: Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication – Free Guide Crucible Institute Dr. David Schnarch (website) Intimacy & Desire, by Dr. David Schnarch (book) Resurrecting Sex, by Dr. David Schnarch (book) Passionate Marriage, by Dr. David Schnarch (book) ERP 110: HOW TO MANAGE TWO MAJORLY CONFLICTING NEEDS IN RELATIONSHIP (podcast) ERP 234: How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy – Part two (podcast) ERP 233: How To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy – Part One (podcast) ERP 223: How To Deal With Difficult Emotions – Part One (podcast) ERP 224: How To Deal With Difficult Emotions – Part Two (podcast) Dr. Susan Johnson's website Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Oct 13, 2020 • 45min
ERP 237: How To Develop A Gratitude Mindset In Relationship - An Interview With Karl Staib
Bio: Karl Staib is the author of Bring Gratitude and the Creator of the 30-Day Bring Gratitude Challenge. He has helped thousands of people train their brains. He developed the Dig to Fly method and SOAR technique to help his clients become more resilient and happier. He also created the Legendary Leader Method to help leaders build better relationships with their employees so they are happier and more productive. He has been featured by Forbes, NPR and Zen Habits and worked with Philips Global, Southwest Research Institute and Pioneer Nation. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Karl Staib and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How using a gratitude journal can help us: think differently, gain more self-understanding, and be a better person. How building awareness of our patterns and tendencies will give us insight into our growth areas. Emotions can create connection or disconnection in relationship. Karl's Dig To Fly method and the 5 key questions to ask ourselves when we are having a hard time. How to shift from being a negative person into a positive person and not letting letting negative thoughts dictate our actions. "Each day is "what it is" for 99% of it, and it is up to us (our attitude) to adjust to the world around us versus the world adjusting to us." by Karl Staib In solid relationships, partners bond over positive things rather than negative things. Karl's SOAR technique for a daily practice of gratitude and a healthy mindset. "We don't need big wins in life to feel happy. Small daily wins keep our mindsets strong and make it easier to appreciate the big wins." by Karl Staib Mentioned: Bring Gratitude by Karl Staib (book) 30 Day Gratitude Challenge Karl Staib Relationship Map to Happy Lasting Love Free Guide Connect with Karl Staib Website: Bring Gratitude Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Oct 6, 2020 • 49min
ERP 236: How To Deal With Uncertainty And Ambiguous Grief An interview With Dr. Michael McNulty
Bio: Mike McNulty, PhD is a psychotherapist specializing in couples therapy, and the founder of The Chicago Relationship Center, and practices in Evanston and Highland Park, IL. Dr. McNulty is a senior certified Gottman relationship therapist and master trainer for The Gottman Institute, who leads workshops for couples and professionals in the United States, Ireland, and Sri Lanka. He has traveled to Sri Lanka 22 times since the 2004 tsunami to provide training to paraprofessional counselors. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Michael McNulty and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: What is ambiguous loss? How ambiguous loss affects the grieving process and how to address this type of loss. What to do when we have different perspectives and/or a different positions on an issue (i.e. like how to deal with Covid-19). How couples with different perspectives can work together and support each other. When problems become gridlocked and the stress and disconnect that results. What helps us be more flexible and creative, so that we can cope better and be more resilient together. How to build rituals for connection, meaning and significance. "Grief becomes frozen. People do not know what they are grieving, and how to begin to move forward with life." Mentioned: Coping with Uncertainty During COVID-19: An International Gottman Trainer Shares Their Perspective by Dr. Michael McNulty (Article) Ambiguous Loss Dr. Pauline Boss' website Chicago Relationship Center Website The Gottman Institute Website Dr. Susan Johnson Website The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties by William J. Doherty (book) Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl (book) Gottman Card Deck Connect with Dr. Michael McNulty Email: mikemcnultyphd@gmail.com Website: Chicago Relationship Center Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

Sep 29, 2020 • 39min
ERP 235: How To Emerge From Quarantine With Your Finances In Tack - An Interview With Ericka Young
Bio: Ericka Young founded Tailor-Made Budgets in 2005 after she and her husband Chris climbed out of nearly $100,000 in debt. She is a certified financial coach by Ramsey Solutions and combines her passion for helping people with creative debt reduction techniques so everyone can have a path to financial freedom. Ericka teaches her message of debt freedom through her e-newsletters, personal and group coaching, workshops, best-selling book and speaking engagements. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Ericka Young and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The different ways people are fairing financially during the pandemic. What each of the three camps are experiencing and what they would benefit from considering moving forward. Learning how to anticipate and evaluate the health of your career industry. Using caution and being prepared as we move through this next phase. How to be aligned with what matters most to you and your significant other. How to weather the storm if you are taking a big hit during this time. How to not loose track of your financial goals as a family, even during the pandemic. Learning to be creative and in control of your personal economy. Mentioned: ERP 207: How To Get Out Of Financial Debt When Working Together As A Couple – An Interview With Ericka Young (podcast) Tailor Made Budgets Website 7 Day Money Challenge Free Video Series (Opt-in) Connect with Ericka Young: Email: ericka@tailormadebudgets.com Website: Tailor Made Budgets Instagram: @tailormadebudgets Facebook: TailorMadeBudgets Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.


