Earn Your Happy

Angelike Norrie, author of the Six Guiding Principles, discusses how these principles helped her overcome life challenges. Topics include alignment, the dangers of repetitive behaviors, prioritizing joy and playtime, the power of play and imagination, and building a supportive community and online business.

As many of you know, I’m in the final days of writing my book (due this week) and the act of even doing this quickie podcast was painful. It’s not that I didn’t want to record a message for all of you, it’s just that I kept thinking about all the other things I should be doing. On top of that, I wanted to make sure I was delivering an impactful message to all of you. I was so attached to how I was going to get there that I made it way more difficult than it needed to be. So, I took a deep breath, let go of that resistance and focused on what was at the forefront of my mind...and here I am! “When you stop living in the resistance and actually just do the thing, it’s amazing what gets done.” It was totally the same way before my workout today as well. Gah! Just do it already (and I did)! Anyone else? Resistance pops up everywhere, but it’s up to us to use it to our benefit. I’ve realized recently that I’ve had to let go of the idea that things should come to me in a certain form. When I have set expectations and thoughts that say it has to go one way, opportunities arrived to me in a very slow trickle. But once I surrendered and let go – BAM! Tedx Talk, my book, etc. And I know because I’ve fought to remain so open, much more is on the horizon. “Surrender to life and watch things happen.” I hope you join me for a short resistance-releasing exercise in this episode. Even 2-3 minutes of focus can turn things around for you. When you can create a space of surrender, you will make your decisions from a much more powerful, connected place. Are you ready? Trick question – do it anyway. What feelings do you want? What can you let go of to get you to that place? What can the resistance you’re feeling offer you? I understand that this may make you feel a touch out of control, but be open and know you’re not letting go of the good things.   “You’re not losing control; you’re gaining your power back." How much can you let go of today to gain that power back?  In This Episode You Will Learn: Why it’s important to surrender to life How to tap into the feelings you truly want to feel Ways to release resistance and let go   Resources: The Bliss Habit 12-Week eCourse For more information, visit theblisshabit.com.   Lori’s Tedx Talk: Turn Your Struggle into Strengths Loriharder.com/tedx   The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Are you looking to find more happiness in life – especially in the present moment? Well, you’re in luck because, in this episode, Rob Mack shares some serious knowledge on how you can add more happiness into not only your life, but your relationships and career, too. Not always the happiness coach and author he is now, tune in as he also shares how his journey of unhappiness and insecurity shifted into one of peace and happiness. There are so many happiness hacks and practices in this episode – and they’re all things you can do yourself – NOW. You don’t want to miss it! -- Questions Asked in This Episode • What’s the first step to get someone to elevate their happiness from where they are? • What are your daily happiness hacks? • What do you say to people who seem to repeat the same cycle over and over? • What do you find works for people in terms of happiness? • How do we transfer from hell (that gives us pleasure) to heaven (that gives us pain in the beginning)? • What is your practice around self-grace? • How do you practice being present more? In This Episode You Will Learn: • How every relationship can enhance your happiness • That you are already self-complete • Why achieving future moments can happen in an easier, more enjoyable, effortless way if you’re enjoying the present moments now. • Daily happiness hacks • Why happiness matters and is critical in life • The importance of listening to your own intuition and moving away from suffering toward peace and happiness • How relaxing will give you better results • Why letting your mind go quiet is so helpful • And so much more… Quotes: “Your happiness is your job – not someone else’s.” “Happiness is something that’s in your hands now.” “If you’re not controlling your present now, you’re not putting yourself in a position to control moments in your future.” “Happiness is the most important goal in your life.” “Happiness now makes your life better later.” “Happiness is the highest currency.” “Take it easy on yourself, but be consistent.” “Through ease and effortlessness, I can achieve my goals.” “Life isn’t about fighting the current. It’s not about making it hard on yourself. Everything you want to achieve in your life can be accomplished more quickly, more easily and more enjoyably if you just let go and relax a little.” “Being fully present is like a master key to creating anything you want.” -- Robert Mack is a happiness coach, speaker, and author. His first book, Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science of Fulfillment, has been translated into various languages, including Chinese. Robert is also the Celebrity Dating & Relationship Coach for the television show, Famously Single on E! He has been a featured guest expert on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Early Show, Self, Health, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Upscale Magazine and many others. His work has been endorsed by Oprah and Vanessa Williams, among many others. Robert received his Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology (M.A.P.P.), an ivy-league degree held by only a few dozen people in the world, from the University of Pennsylvania. He currently splits his time between Miami and Los Angeles. Resources: Coachrobmack.com IG: @robmackofficial Book: Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science Fulfillment Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Explore the impact of expectations on relationships and self, the importance of letting people show up as their authentic selves, and the effects of having unrealistic expectations. Also, learn about marketing struggles and a presentation given at Influencer Summit.

Getting 100% real with you today as I discovered that I was the recent object of someone’s gossip. Doesn’t the word alone just give you an icky feeling? Ugh, me too. And it made me want to gossip right back (which would have made me feel worse), but I didn’t. It’s our first reaction when someone says something bad about ourselves or someone else, but it never leads to anything productive. So instead, I talked it over with my husband. Because I knew I was in a safe zone to express my feelings and talk things through, I was able to determine that I didn’t need to worry about what this person chose to say about me. I was able to let it go. Now, this isn’t always the case, but because I’m not close with this person I knew there was nothing I could do that would change anything about the situation. And perhaps they didn’t even mean what they said in a bad way. If, however, this was a close relationship I would have more than likely confronted this person if I wanted the relationship to remain intact. “Gossip blocks your blessings.” Words carry so much energy – both positive and negative – so don’t spend those precious words tearing someone else apart when you likely don’t know the full story. “Words are either life-giving or death-giving.” If you’re around gossip, “be the person who gossip dies with.” And if you find yourself around those who tend to gossip, realize it’s only a matter of time before you’re the subject of his or her talks. It’s up to YOU to take the high road. “Be a gossip killer.” Be the person who expresses their feelings and talks things out instead of building a wall or speaking untruths about others. Be the person who others can talk to and know that your words are safe with them. In This Episode You Will Learn: Why gossip might be holding you back How to deal with someone who gossips about you The importance of talking something through and coming to a peaceful conclusion Why it’s important to find that “safe zone” when talking things through Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 >> LEARN MORE!  

Do you ever wake up and feel like you’ve just experienced spiritual amnesia? You know, when you take classes, listen to podcasts or do something else that lights your soul on fire only to wake up the next morning feeling…not so soulful, barely recognizing who you were the day before.   I’m here to tell you that this is normal. As one of my favorite quotes says:   “Every day is day one.”   It’s one of my favorites because it’s so true. You change on a daily basis and what happened yesterday has no bearing on today. So what made you happy yesterday, doesn’t necessarily make you happy today. And many days you won’t even know who you are…red flag!   “If you’ve forgotten who you are, you may want to reassess.”   Ask yourself, “what’s working for me. What’s not?” Are you continuing to do something because you think you should or because you think you’re going to get a certain result? Sometimes we’re so caught up in what we should do that we forget what we enjoy doing.   To ensure that I stay in this constant state of evaluation and questioning (and happiness), it’s imperative that I pray, meditate and get grateful (this is often only 5-6 minutes a day).   “Do the thing that makes you find peace.”   Get present, become aware and make time for what truly makes you happy – regardless of what’s happening that day (crazy work day, family visiting, running kids all over town). Play your favorite music that helps you get in flow. Drink that favorite cup of coffee even if you only have five minutes to have a few sips in a locked bathroom. ;-) You will find that every little bit helps to make this experience of life just a little more joyful.   What keeps you joyful and in the present?     In This Episode You Will Learn:   How to figure out what’s not working in your life How to get present Why having daily rituals are so important How to make life more enjoyable   Resources:   The Bliss Habit For more information, visit theblisshabit.com. Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Subscribe to Earn Your Happy on iTunes. Time to get comfortable, take your pants off (be sure to tune in to get this reference) and get ready to listen as I talk with two best friends (and podcasters), Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams, who you will soon feel like yours too. With Lindsey originally from the East Coast and Krista from the Midwest, life brought them both out to California by way of New York. They met a couple years ago when a mutual friend suggested that Krista reach out to Lindsey for advice on auditioning for SoulCycle. They immediately clicked and felt that there would be an even bigger connection later on. They were right! Even though Krista didn’t become a SoulCycle instructor, she and Lindsey did create the hilarious and tell-it-like-it-is podcast, Almost 30. During this podcast, they share the life transitions they’re going through in real-time, where they’ve been and what tools they’ve used to help them get there – all while keeping it authentic to who they are and with a lot of laughs. I hope you love listening to these ladies as much as I did and that it encourages you to find those people who get you and allow you to be unapologetically who you are. Questions Asked in this Episode What is SoulCycle? How did you two meet? How did you come up with the Almost 30 podcast? Where are you two now and what are your unapologetic dreams? What work are you doing around your money mindset? How do you allow yourself to show up and create a safe space for other people? When do you feel most free – most yourself? How do you set massive goals but detach from the outcome and remain present? What do you feel you’re resisting right now? In This Episode You Will Learn: About life transitions and why it’s so important to have a sisterhood/community to help you navigate it. About finding your true calling in life Why imperfect is better than perfect Starting a podcast Why self-love and forgiveness is crucial in the creative process About balancing personalities, responsibilities and tasks when in a business partnership How to shift your money mindset Quotes: “Small decisions and small actions lead to something great.” – Krista “We must try to be the best versions of ourselves for each transition that comes along.” – Lindsey “Just because it’s not perfect doesn’t mean I shouldn’t put it out there.” – Lindsey “There isn’t a better feeling than knowing people accept you for who you are.” – Krista “I’m most free when I’m not focused on the end result.” – Lindsey “If you’re wanting what someone else has, then you’re not being grateful for what you have.” – Krista “The process becomes who you are.” – Lori “Appreciate your potential and just do it.” – Lindsey -- The Almost 30 Podcast is a weekly podcast filled with interviews and conversation about navigating big changes and transitions in life. It’s more than being almost 30, it’s about equipping yourself with the tools, insights and inspiration to be your best self! We keep it light, we keep it funny, and we keep it real. Resources: Almost30Podcast.com HundredBlog.com IG: @almost30podcast FB: facebook.com/Almost30podcast Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Ecker Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Penny for your thoughts? What have you been thinking in the last week or so? List the top three feelings you’ve felt, keeping in mind it could be a combination and vary by the hour! ;) That’s how I’ve felt lately anyway. “How you feel is how you view the world around you.” Let’s say you’re happy. When you have a hectic day, you don’t get angry, you choose gratitude and feel blessed to be so busy. If you’re anxious or feeling angry, you can likely guess that ANYTHING will set you off (why are they chew SO LOUDLY?) and things don’t look as rosy. Emotions don’t just appear; they need our thoughts to fuel them. So if you’re pouring gasoline on a fire, you’re going to get bigger flames or an explosion. Same with your thoughts. If your thoughts are literally raging, your emotion (and actions for that matter) will follow suit. So how can control this whiplash of emotions on a day-to-day basis? First off, take a minute and reflect: What emotions am I feeling? Then, what are the thoughts that are fueling that emotion? Once you’ve figured that out, INSERT NEW THOUGHT(S). Recently, I’ve had to use this reframing practice along with a little help from a mastermind friend who steered me in the right direction. I wanted to hold onto that feeling of overwhelm – book, travel, programs etc. – and darn it, I wanted to be validated for it. My lovely friend, Lindsay, wasn’t going to give me an inch though. Instead, she encouraged me to “find presence in the busier schedule.” “Don’t rob other experiences because of one emotion.” So since then, I’ve been super mindful of these overwhelming thoughts. And I’ve used a special piece of jewelry to keep me aware and remind me to SLOW DOWN and get in the present when those feelings come creeping back. And I encourage you to do the same. “Make your world instead of destroying it with your thoughts.” Is it hard? Heck yes! It does NOT always feel awesome, but we must choose to get out of victim mode. Think the most peaceful, loving thoughts, forgive for the other thoughts and move on. In This Episode You Will Hear About: About the link between our thoughts and emotions How choosing new thoughts can help you About the importance of keeping your thoughts in the present Why being aware of your thoughts is so important Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 >> LEARN MORE! Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Are you happy right NOW in this moment? Or do you have certain contingencies that it hinges on? Are you waiting or relying on someone or something to make you happy? Whether it’s a spouse, best friend, job or goal are you depending on something other than yourself to FINALLY bring you happiness? Here’s where that gets a little tricky… “Happiness is a choice in each moment.” We must understand that the “thing” you’re waiting on is NOT going to make you any happier in the long term than you are right now in this moment. And that’s why happiness can be a little sticky at times. If you are relying on anyone other than yourself, your happiness level will average out to be where you are now until you decide to be happy all the time. OK, I’m realistic. I don’t expect you to be happy ALL the time. If something bad happens, feel those feelings, but don’t let them hang around too long. Often it’s as simple as waking up and CHOOSING the mood you’re going to be in. It’s all about adjusting your “default mood.” Sure, there may be some things in your life right now that plain suck. But you know what? That doesn’t mean YOUR LIFE sucks! “Start becoming really grateful and experiencing deep gratitude for all the little things.” If you’re looking for the good, you’ll find it. The same goes for the opposite. Instead of looking for what’s missing, look at what you do have. I still have times where I need to remind myself to get in the present and stop blaming others – unfortunately we blame those closest to us first (sorry, Chris!). And this is usually when my daily practices/rituals are off kilter (not meditating, not enough sleep etc.). Most importantly, if you find that you’re relying (blaming) on someone/something to be complete, don’t judge yourself too harshly. Recognize it and forgive quickly – you’re human! So what is it that YOU desire? What could you shift your thoughts to right now and get really grateful for? I promise that when you can step into gratitude and learn lessons along the way, the happiness will follow (and so many other great things). “Your happiness is what attracts amazing people and things.” In This Episode You Will Hear About: Why happiness is a choice The importance of daily rituals/practices The Law of attraction Tribe Resources: The Bliss Project Live Event Tickets Go On Sale July 19th! Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Just a couple days ago on the 4th of July, I was able to take a WHOLE day just for PLAY with friends – no writing, no meetings, no worries – celebrating America’s birthday. And while initially I felt as though it may stress me out more (I am on a book deadline), I couldn’t have been MORE wrong. Today I feel energized, more creative and honestly like I just drank about 10 straight shots of espresso (OK, let’s not get too crazy). I realized that the play is actually equally as (if not more) important as the writing, creating programs, podcasts etc. “The play IS the work.” It can be a bit confusing at first because while you’re “playing,” it doesn’t feel as though you’re being productive. But I assure you, you are! It’s especially beneficial when you feel as though you’ve hit a creativity rut. “The play is productive. The play is important. The play is creative. The play is freedom. The play is expansion. The play is real connection.” After you’ve taken the time, you’re able to come back with a fresh perspective – new eyes. Ideas abound and the world just seems…better. Am I right? “Personally, when I play and try new things, I have so much more to say.” Anyone else? You’re always up-to-date and relevant because you’re constantly thinking of new things and connecting. What would it look like for you to plan some sort of play into every week? Please share – I would love to hear all about it! In This Episode You Will Hear About: Adding more play into your week Ridding yourself of creativity blocks Finding fresh perspective Connection Resources: The Bliss Habit 12-Week eCourse: TheBlissHabit.com Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.