Earn Your Happy

Subscribe to Earn Your Happy on iTunes. Do you feel supported by family, friends, co-workers etc.? If not, we must realize that this support will not magically appear on its own. In order to receive this support, we must first support ourselves – unconditionally. There was a stretch of time when I felt that I didn’t have any true friends... I didn’t want to drink, party all night only to feel like crap the next day, but all my friends at the time did. I wanted to be healthy and fit, but my friends chose Thirsty Thursday over healthier options. Of course, thinking I had NO other options, I followed along and my dreams continued to take the backseat. But here’s the thing, it wasn’t their fault. It was me who wasn’t willing to put myself first. I wasn’t willing to let go of those short-term pleasures. I wasn’t ready to support myself and get out of my own way. It was time to step into my fear and CHOOSE to become the person I truly wanted to be. So I chose to start supporting myself. I had to find things, even if it meant on my own, that would help me reach my goals and practice saying no to the things that wouldn’t. For me, the most pressing need when I started this journey was my health. I gradually started making the choice to not go out and drink myself into oblivion. And it wasn’t until I did that, that I could start pursuing my fitness goals/career. What’s your most pressing need right now? What would make you feel BETTER? To get more rest, to eat better, exercise more or change your circle of friends? Full honesty… It isn’t easy. “But if you don’t start choosing to support yourself, you have to get comfortable with the idea that you’re never going to change.” You must ask yourself if you’re OK waking up in five years and being in the same place. If nothing changes, nothing changes. It’s scary, but you’re the only one who can do it. “You can either choose complete suppression or face your fear.” Face that fear TODAY! What are some ways you can support yourself RIGHT now? Is it time-blocking your calendar to fit in 20 minutes of exercise? Is it scheduling dance or music lessons? Is it reaching out to someone to be your mentor? It doesn’t matter how big or small your acts are as long as you’re ACTING. Failure is a given, but if we choose to focus on the blessing rather than each individual failure we’ll fail faster into better success. In This Episode You Will Hear About: Supporting yourself to feel better Facing your fears Spirit Junkie Masterclass Resources The Bliss Habit Spirit Junkie Masterclass + Free 2018 Bliss Ticket: http://www.loriharder.com/gabby (Expires Thursday June 28th at 6 PM EST) Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m always so excited to have today’s guest, Gabrielle Bernstein, on Earn Your Happy, but today is even more exciting because we’re talking about her Spirit Junkie Digital Master Class – the class that undeniably took my business (and life) to a whole new level. So often when people have a pull to do something “more”, they automatically respond with, “Who am I to do this?” But really the question that should be asked is, “Who am I NOT to do this?” To nip these thoughts in the bud, one of Gabrielle’s foundational components, trains you in confidence. It’s your time to rise up and the only way to build that confidence is to practice clearing the fear and blocks from your path. One fear that comes up often is unapologetically making money while remaining spiritual. “Earning for our great work is also a great opportunity to invest in our well-being so that we can continue to do the work we’re here to do.” In Gabrielle’s teachings, she’s crafted her program to be equal parts spiritual and business growth and business training. She hopes to bust the myth that you can’t make money AND be spiritual at the same time. “We have to do the spiritual work to clear the belief systems that hold us back from our earning capacity and hold us back from stepping into our light.” Honestly, I understand this 100% because I, like many of you, was in this same position not that long ago. And it wasn’t until I shifted my way of thinking (with the help of Gabrielle’s Spirit Junkie Master Class) that my business and life catapulted to places I’d only dreamed. I was ecstatic about all the things that seemed possible to me. New opportunities were appearing, left and right! “Change the way you perceive abundance, then abundance can flow.” I cannot tell you how TRUE this statement is. “When you’re in alignment with inspiration, joy, excitement and enthusiasm, you become a magnet for opportunities.” So maybe you have the ideas, but you’re afraid that it’s already been done before. You’re right, it probably has. But that doesn’t mean the world doesn’t need more inspiration from people like you! “There are far more people in need of that inspiration than there are people doing it.” Just make sure that the work you’re doing lights you up from the inside out. If you’re excited about creating your content, trust and know that other people will get excited about it too. The Spirit Junkie Master Class helps you connect with the spiritual side of this process while also allowing you to get laser-focused and successful with the business component. Make sure your energy is aligned with your inspiration. “Your most valuable currency is energy. If your energy isn’t clear, joyful and inspirational, then you won’t be a magnet for more of that.” If you’re feeling like you have a message and you want to be unapologetic about sharing that message with the world, I highly recommend joining the Spirit Junkie Digital Master Class tribe. See the resources below to sign up and to receive a very special bonus offer from me. I could not be more grateful for Gabrielle and this course as it pushed me to the edge. She gave me richness and deep roots that gave way to the freedom to take my business to new and different places. I cannot wait to hear about the shifts YOU make because of this course as well… In This Episode You Will Hear About: Spirit Junkie Digital Master Class Authenticity Confidence How to clear blocks and fears Spiritual and personal growth Business training Abundance Resources: IG: @gabbybernstein FB: facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Spirit Junkie Digital Master Class – loriharder.com/gabby Free Three-Part Video Training with Gabrielle Bernstein – loriharder.com/video Earn Your Happy Podcasts with Gabrielle Bernstein – Episode 38 Earn Your Happy Podcasts with Gabrielle Bernstein – Episode 66 Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

Do you feel like you’re living every day like it’s Groundhog’s Day? You know, same thoughts, same people, same problems… Sounds like it’s time to switch things up and add some excitement back into your life. But to do that we need to bust through fears and try new things. Of course, we can’t do that without first changing our thoughts. To set the tone for the day, I highly recommend waking up and instantly repeating a positive mantra – either out loud or in your head. I know, I know… sounds a little cheesy, but I assure you, it works. Every morning my husband and I say the following: “I am happier, healthier, wealthier and more fit than I was yesterday.” But that’s only the beginning of the day! Do small things throughout the day that keep the positivity and excitement going. Bear in mind that it doesn’t have to be anything HUGE. “Life and enjoyment of life is made up of the very simple pleasures.” Here are a few different things you could do: Change your thoughts. Feel a negative thought creeping in? Stop it in its tracks with a more positive one. Be sure to do this throughout the day – not just in the morning. Try different things. Go to a new coffee shop, try a different workout etc. Ask different questions. Ask people BETTER questions: what’s good, new or exciting? What was your favorite part of today? Read a book. Know a friend with a nose for good books? Ask them for their list. Try different foods. Yes, please! Go to a movie. This list could go on and on… Also, be sure you’re expanding your network – both virtually and in person. Ask a new friend out for coffee or to meet at a new workout class. And since social media has a tendency to highlight more negative things, be sure use that “block” button freely and start following more uplifting people/pages. Personally, I know that I don’t want any seeds of negativity growing in my mind, because that’s exactly what my mind will hold on to. It is SO important for YOU to weed out any potentially negative vibes. “You are the variable. You are the only one who can change your outcome.” Doing the same thing will only ever get you (you guessed it) the SAME thing. And who wants that? Certainly not me and likely not you. “If you want a different day, you’ve got to start with different thoughts in the morning.” Now, go let those thoughts lead you to THE BEST day! In This Episode You Will Hear About: The importance of experiencing new things Positivity Changing your thoughts Mantras Resources The Bliss Habit Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Subscribe to Earn Your Happy on iTunes. Quick…what are you thinking RIGHT now? Are they positive thoughts filled with love and gratitude? Or are they low-vibe, energy-sucking thoughts that make you want to eat a can of worms? If you’re the latter… don’t eat the worms! Kidding, but seriously, I do want to discuss the power of thoughts and how those thoughts affect your current situation. I don’t know about you, but I’m fascinated with research – especially when it’s connected to the power of thoughts and changing outcomes. Currently, I’m reading the book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and he discusses how by shifting our thoughts from being a victim of our circumstances we can instead cause an effect that creates a different outcome. Nerd alert – I get so excited reading about studies like this. Dispenza shares research that directly links changes in DNA to positive thoughts. Did you read that? Changes in a person’s DNA!! Isn’t that amazing?! He advises though, that it’s not just about positive thoughts. Within the testing groups of one of the mentioned studies, the changes were only seen when there were positive thoughts AND feelings that went with them. “It’s not just the thoughts, but rather the intentions behind them.” We have the power to change our outcomes – just thinking and feeling different things. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m realistic. We’re not all going to wake up singing happy songs and dancing, but that’s exactly why we practice rituals that help get us present and shift into gratitude. “When you feel grateful, you attract more to be grateful for.” If you wake up feeling crappy, I get it! Acknowledge that crap sandwich, but don’t eat it! Feel those feelings, but don’t stay there. Give yourself some time, vent to a person if you need to, but MOVE ON. “Get rid of the thoughts that aren’t serving you, because that’s the outcome you’ll be living in.” Quickie Tip: Don’t let the idea of changing ALL your thoughts at once bog you down. This is not an all-or-nothing approach. The next time one of those negative Nelly thoughts comes for a visit, recognize it for what it is and choose to make your next thought just a little better. It’s those baby steps that lead to the most impactful and sustained growth. In This Episode You Will Hear About: How thoughts affect outcome Positivity Cause and effect Gratitude Resources and Books The Bliss Habit Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.  

Today’s message is all about the journey and what it all means. The “journey” doesn’t always have to be this HUGE goal or accomplishment. The beauty of it is that it’s unique to you and it can be ANYTHING that you’re looking to do. While most focus on the highs, it is equally important to know that the lows (the pain, frustrations and the “hard” parts) are what make the journey, and the highs of it, so amazing. If you’re feeling that discomfort, you know growth is on its way. “You can’t enjoy the ride without first taking the journey to a place you’ve never been before.” So you’re on this journey, but what happens when you lose motivation… Monotony hits. You wonder why the heck you’re even on this path. But you must ask yourself, what does your life look like without it? For example, as I’m racing against another deadline for my book, the moment I sit down, all inspiration seems to be lost and doubt creeps in and the last thing I want to do is write. As easy as it is to sink into that mode of defeat, I know the only option I have is to give myself a sometimes-literal shake, dig deep and WRITE. “You have to keep saying YES and you have to keep MOVING.” Acknowledge the struggle and how it serves a purpose on your journey. Ask yourself, “How do I get through this?” Reach out to others who are going or have gone through something similar. Know that just because it’s YOUR journey, you’re not alone. And everything you’re going through is meant for the ultimate good. Just let go…and go with the flow and enjoy the ride. In This Episode You Will Hear About Enjoying the journey Inspiration Pain Growth Resources The Bliss Habit Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Earn Your Happy Quickie – ep. 135 – How to Figure Out What’s Next “There comes a time to stop looking back and trying to figure out why. At some point, we need to shift our attention to what’s next.” – Unknown Are your thoughts or fears paralyzing you before you’ve even reached a goal? Are you asking yourself questions, such as: Why am I unclear? Why don’t I know what I want to do? Why can’t I move forward? Yikes. I get anxious just thinking about it.  Today, I want to talk about removing those types of disempowering questions from your brain and replacing them instead with “what’s next?” Sure, I get it. Those questions come from a place of uncertainty and fear and they’re hard to stop. But know that most entrepreneurs (including myself) are willing to explore their curiosity even if that nagging voice in their heads tells them they’re crazy or that it doesn’t fit in with “where they’re at.” They don’t let themselves get STUCK. If they feel called to try something new, they do it regardless of the risk. “The people who are the happiest are the ones who are most willing to explore all the little soul hits.” Take the Earn Your Happy podcast as an example. It wasn’t something that I had on my to-do list. At the end of the day, “I wanted to have epic conversations with people and I wanted an excuse to do it,”  And well, you know the ending to that story because here we are. You don’t have to have a plan to move forward. You just have to, “Be willing to put yourself out there and fail.”  By avoiding any possibility of failure, you risk missing the message you were supposed to hear and possibly something you were called to do. So, what’s next? My advice… Ask more empowering questions (ditch those that don’t serve you anything more than a side of anxiety) and explore the resources around you. Run toward the failure and thank it for what it’s teaching you. And one more Earn Your Happy Tip for the road…the more you can fail the better.   In This Episode You Will Learn: Future Resistance Fear Failure Curiosity Entrepreneurs Podcast Resources:   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Confession time. Not that long ago, there was a lot of negativity in my life. For some of you this may be hard to believe, but it’s true. I had a ton of toxic friends/relationships in my life and looking back now, I can’t believe I put up with that negativity as long as I did. Some of it was because I failed to set boundaries. Another part was that I tended to take on other people’s “stuff” and carry it as my own. I soon learned, however, that “You can only control what you can control – and that is YOU.” I knew that for the sake of my own happiness, I needed to grab the reins and take charge. Here are the five things that help set me on the path to positivity: 1. Know what you can control. 2. Ask yourself, “What is the most beneficial reaction I can have for myself (while still being compassionate). 3. Be compassionate. 4. {Not for the weak.} Call the negative person out. 5. Understand that the person (or your situation) may not change. Does practicing all five of these things guarantee zero negativity in your life? Not by a long shot – there’s always going to be some amount of negativity in your life. It’s on the street, it’s on the Internet and sometimes, there are people in our lives that we can’t completely cut ties with. If it’s important to you and your happiness, you must start to focus your free time in a more positive place. “If you want to change, you will. If you don’t, you won’t.” Go to the places that will bring you joy. Spend time with the people who “get” you. And DO the things that help lift you up. Some days will be more difficult than others, but it’s up to you to keep your head and heart in a positive place. In This Episode You Will Learn About: Negativity Positivity Boundaries Control Change Community Tribe Resources The Bliss Habit Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

Sarah Pendrick is the Founder and Creator of the non-profit movement GirlTalk, and her mission is to empower women of all ages while serving as a resource for young women. Sarah is a self-love advocate, life coach, writer, empowerment speaker and philanthropist. With a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master's in family therapy, developed, GirlTalk, an empowerment program for young women. She travels all over the United States to speak to the women of our next generation and provide them with support, education and empowerment. Through GirlTalk, Sarah not only features and connects powerful women with a purpose, she also celebrates them through her events and programs by giving them a platform and a space to thrive and use their voice. Growing up, viewing herself solely based on what others thought of her, Sarah always knew she had the ability to be extraordinary, but the opinions of others quickly shot her down. “I lived this constricted life between doing what I knew I wanted to do inside, and also going to my parents and friends for their opinions.” Having experienced bullying throughout her middle school years, she felt things that she never wanted other young women to feel, which led her toward getting her master’s degree in psychology, putting in positive work as a volunteer and helping at non-profit organizations and events. “I always felt fulfilled when serving others and at the same time it also helped me with what I was going through. But the attachment I grew for my clients and their issues, would come home with me at the end of the day, which led me to believe I wasn't meant to be a psychologist.” Fast forwarding and continuing on to find her true authentic-self, Sarah ended up putting in the personal work to learn about her own self love and to then be proud enough to preach it to others as well. And this eventually became GirlTalk. Being fearless in the pursuit of asking, Sarah’s confidence skyrocketed allowing her to reach tons of amazing women to help and speak at her incredible events. It’s amazing what the universe will do for you – you just have to ASK. Do you have plans and dreams of your own to serve those around you? Jump right in! #womenempoweringwomen Self love Self worth Fear Perseverance Entrepreneur Business Marketing Fulfillment Happiness Alignment Networking Creativity Resources: The Bliss Habit GirlTalk Event girltalknetwork.org Instagram @girltalknetwork Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

“It’s all about stepping in, saying yes and all of the things that come along with saying yes.” Today I’m sharing with you where I’m at with both life and business ventures because chances are you’re going through (or have gone through) similar circumstances. This quickie is a short and direct way to help you bust through your fears, no matter how big or small yours may be at the moment. “Sometimes you have to up level yourself and become a completely different version of yourself to accomplish your goals.” Some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten (and given) is to have full-time faith in your higher power – whatever that looks like for you. “I never step into anything without saying a prayer. It’s about asking and knowing you are supported.” In This Episode You Will Hear About: Saying yes Fear Outcome Accomplishment Goals Knowing your worth Energy Serving others Expanding Your calling Community Tribe Resources: TED Talks Over It and On with It Podcast, by Christine Hassler Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com

As an entrepreneur, best-selling author, mother, and activist, Kate Northrup supports ambitious, motivated and successful women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Committed to empowering women entrepreneurs to create their most successful businesses while navigating motherhood, Kate is the founder and CEO of Origin Collective, a monthly membership site where women all over the world gather to achieve more while doing less. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, and The Huffington Post and she’s spoken to audiences of thousands with Hay House, Wanderlust, USANA Health Sciences, and more. Kate lives with her husband and business partner, Mike, and their daughter Penelope in Maine. Find out more and receive your free copy of Have More By Doing Less: 3 Simple Steps To Create Space For What Matters Most at katenorthrup.com Growing up on the coast of Maine, Kate always possessed the ways of a natural entrepreneur. “My very first business was at the age of 7 with my sister. We would sell jewelry and bouquets of fresh wildflowers.” Fast forward some years and at the age of 18, Kate was making more income than the average teenager. After graduating from Brown University in 2001, her income for such a young age was enough to prevent her from going into the “after-college-crisis” of looking for a full-time job. But that quickly changed after she moved to NYC and rapidly got herself into more than $20K worth of debt. “I had this idea that if I acted as if I already had the income that I wanted, that somehow I magically just would. I guess I missed the part that I actually had to do something about it.” After indulging in some self-help/self-love books (listed below), Kate came to the realization that changing her mindset around her financial situation could potentially and positively get her out of this pickle. “Perhaps if I approached my financial life with the perspective of taking care of myself in a loving way instead of a place of hard-core discipline, guilt and shame that maybe I could make some lasting changes.” From that moment forward, she added “taking care of finances” to the list of other things that equal “taking care of thyself.” “Keeping up with my bookkeeping was just as important as keeping up with my pedicures.” It’s hard to pinpoint the one thing that hit home the most when talking to someone as creative and incredible as Kate, but her advice about growing no matter what stage of life or business you’re in now is something we can all learn from. “Look at your life and your business as more of a cycle than a line. It’s like the moon that’s forever rotating or the seasons…There will always be spring after the winter.” Finding work that you are passionate about and love is huge! It’s important to continually and consciously surround yourself with the people who see the most and the best in you. Where you spend your time the most will eventually become part of your outcome. Kate’s life and business wisdom is like the perfect package that I get to gift you all today! “You become a clearer channel of what needs to come through you when you take care of your vessel.” In This Episode You Will Learn: Business Entrepreneur Networking Relationship building Abundance Mentality Finances Saving Spending Success Changing Growing Fear Happiness Transformation Resources: FREE Sustainable Success Workshop Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup Have More by Doing Less: 3 Simple Steps to Create Space for What Matters Most, by Kate Northrup Getting to I Do, by Patricia Allen Overcoming Underearning, by Barbara Stanny Make a life, not just a living at katenorthrup.com Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. You can also see more at my website: LoriHarder.com