Earn Your Happy

With all of the recent events happening in the world between natural disasters, attacks and the loss of many lives, I’ve been asked how one should feel about these events. I’ve held back on responding because honestly, I didn’t know how I felt. I hadn’t even begun to process my feelings yet. But I do know that if we’re living in fear, it does nothing for the world. “When you are in fear, you are not in power.” So how do you take that power back? First, process your feelings – don’t pass them over. Heal yourself so you can spread love and light to others. Talk to someone, whether it’s a counselor, going to a trauma center or a dear friend who you know holds that space for you. Just be sure to give yourself the grace and space to process. Once you’ve healed, be sure to keep that love and light in your life by surrounding yourself with those who allow you to do the same. “Our environments reflect the results we get back in our minds.” We know that if we stay connected to these groups or tribes we can nip fear and powerlessness in the bud and step into our power. “When we put loving energy out it will be reflected to us in a bigger way in our lives.”   In This Episode You Will Learn: Why it’s important to process our feelings How to take back your power when you feel powerless Why we must join groups or tribes that are rooted in love and light  Resources:   The Bliss Project 2018 March 2-4, 2019 | Newport Beach, CA TheBlissProject.info Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Many don’t know this, but when I start selling my first eCourse, The Bliss Habit, I hadn’t even created it. Shocking, right? But it supports exactly what I want to talk with you all about today. You don’t have to know everything that you are doing before you actually get started! I know it sounds a little bass-ackwards, but I assure you that some of the most successful people in the world had no clue what they were doing when they first started – they just knew they had to take some sort of action. “You have to start doing to get clarity.” You can plan all day every day for months and still never have anything to put out there. This is where faith and commitment comes in. You must have faith that if you set a date or book a venue – take some sort of step forward, it will happen. Scary, right? “But in the panic there is complete magic.” And a little bit of science, too. Science has proven that when you’re committed and people are saying “yes,” and you have to deliver, your brain gets super laser-focused on doing just that. “The way to get started is to stop talking and begin doing.” – Walt Disney My advice. Set the date and move forward. There’s no magic formula – just go for it. Make the commitment and take action TODAY! What will you share with someone or commit to today? You'll Hear About: • Why you don’t have to know all the details before you get started • Why it’s so important to have faith • Why making a commitment can spur productivity Resources: The Bliss Habit 12-Week eCourse The Bliss Project 2018 Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. Or Visit my site: LoriHarder.com  

  As many of you know, my upcoming Bliss Project event is only months away and hundreds of you have already registered to join us. But I know that for some, you’re still on the fence for various reasons… Perhaps this would be your first self-development/empowerment retreat. For others, you’ve never left your family for a whole weekend. For others, there is a fear that you’re not “far enough” or knowledgeable enough to attend such an event.   Whatever the reason, I can assure you that if you’re being called to attend, it’s the perfect event for you to attend. But don’t take my word on it. Listen in to today’s conversation as I interview five women about their Bliss Project experiences. You will notice many overlapping answers and that’s because we are all way more alike than we are different.   Whether you come along or bring a friend, the weekend WILL change your life. I cannot wait for you to hear all about it (and hopefully experience it in the near future) and join our INCREDIBLE Bliss Project tribe. --   Questions Asked in This Episode: Where were you at before attending The Bliss Project and what made you go for the first time? What were you looking for by attending Bliss? Were there any surprises that showed up for you during The Bliss Project? What are you struggling with currently and what tools are you using that you learned from Bliss? What was your experience like coming to Bliss alone? What is the magic that helps you believe your dreams are possible? What kind of power do you receive when stepping into your authenticity?   In This Episode We Talk about: Starting before you’re ready and paying attention to those nudges that urge you to do something more Stepping into your power Creating strong friendships at The Bliss Project Why it’s so important to share your story The benefits of attending Bliss on your own (hint: you won’t be alone for long) The importance of tribe How Bliss has changed these five women’s lives What you’ll feel when you first walk into The Bliss Project Changing pre-existing stores and stereotypes How failing comes into play Accountability and deadlines Struggles before and after Bliss And so much more…   Quotes:   “My breakthrough happened because I showed up.” – Kelly Soto   “I knew I was meant for more, but didn’t believe it. But when I left Bliss, I believed it.” – Kelly Soto   “Leave what’s familiar and go into what’s not, because that’s where the gifts are – that’s where the beauty is.” – Marlo Ellis   “Bliss is like rolling out the red carpet for your soul.” – Marlo Ellis   “I can create my world.” – Jordan Candelaria   “Remember your happiness.” – Jordan Candelaria   “Every single person that you talked to was going through the same things.” – Mandy Demetsky   “Bliss is 2.5 days in the biggest, warmest, most welcoming hug.” – Mandy Demetsky   “What sets Bliss apart is that you have hundreds of epic soul sisters who are going to check in with you, have your back and help hold you accountable.” – Steph Gold   “It’s impossible to stay stuck with hundreds of women who support you.” – Steph Gold -- Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 March 2-4, 2018 • Newport Beach, CA TheBlissProject.info Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Up until very recently, I felt like I had a handle on facing my fears and getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, but I’ve come to realize that I haven’t even scratched the surface!   This weekend, I’m speaking at an event (THRIVE), and while I’m speaking to like-minded people, it’s not my usual audience. It’s got me stepping outside of my comfort zone and feeling all sorts of butterflies. It’s super beautiful and exciting but scary – all at the same time.   This quote I posted on Instagram sums up this fear, excitement and growth that I’m feeling and who I need to become to get through it:   “You’ll never grow into the woman you know you’re meant to be until she’s forced to come out. It’s your job to create a life she can’t hide from.”   So what does this mean? It’s our job to create a life based on not our current selves, but instead our future selves. You have to do the things, go to the places and let that woman out!   “You will rise to the occasion when your butt is on the line.”   Sounds scary, I know, but that’s the point. We all have “alter egos” that only come out when called upon, but you must have faith that it will appear. If you create these places when you have so much riding on your performance your higher self will come out. And if it doesn’t happen the way you think and you fall flat on your face…GOOD! You didn’t die, your learned from it and you know how to change it for next time.   “I’d rather be failing left and right and feeling alive and growing as a human being than walking around bored and half dead.”   There is no magic potion. We are ALL created the same, some just have more faith that things will work out and their higher self won’t let them down.   “Choose and create things that you have to show up for bigger than you ever have before.” Stop waiting and create those places and situations where your higher self can come alive! It will scare the crap out of you, but that’s when you know you’re living a life of purpose and fulfillment.    In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why you must get uncomfortable to grow Steps that will help you step into your higher self How we all have alter egos that come out when you need to level up   Resources: THRIVE Event   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  This past week, I’ve been feeling the importance of my tribe on a whole new level. If you listened to my podcast with Mastin Kipp last week, you’ll understand what I mean when I say, “With every new level there’s a new devil.” This could not be more true!   With my recent 14-Day Challenge wrapping up at the beginning of this week, I had a few instances come up that reminded me of the fact that the more challenges I do and the more people who join my tribe, the more diverse group of people I’m going to attract. And guess what? Even those these people are a part of my larger tribe, we all have different backgrounds and I’m not going to please everyone. It’s also a given that we’re not always going to understand one another.   It seems so simple when you write it out like that, but I didn’t get there as easily. As a verbal processor, I depended on the support of my own personal tribe to get me there. This is a group of people who I’ve collected over time and who I know hold space for me when I need it. And let’s just say I sent out the Bat Signal for them this week!   “Your tribe gives you feedback, but they’re also there just to hear you.”   Feedback is always welcome, however sometimes it doesn’t help. This is why all relationships must be two-sided. There must be agreements in place and space held for the other party to process as well.   “We have to create boundaries and we have to set clear ideas of what the relationship is.”     This is, of course, different for every relationship and that is why you must communicate or one person may turn resentful. For me personally, I have a variety of tribe members. There are those that allow me to process, hold me accountable, support me, strategize, execute and celebrate. These lines do blend every now and then, but at the end of the day, I know who I can go to when I need it.   So out of the above categories, which would help you the most right now? And which is the easiest to implement? If you’re having trouble choosing one, you must work on focusing your attention to that.   “If you haven’t found what you want yet, it’s simply because you haven’t applied focus consistently.”   I know this is hard to hear, but as a person who has (and still can) struggle with this, I know it will change your life and help you tackle each new challenge that comes your way.     In This Episode You Will Learn:   That challenges never go away, they just change Why finding a variety of people is so crucial in building your tribe How you can set and practice fierce boundaries with your tribe     Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 Theblissproject.info   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Today’s quickie is all about the word (and thing) justification. I once was a pro at justifying why I was the way I was (fearful, anxious etc.). I spent SO much time, energy and efforts on the excuses as to why I couldn’t do x-y-z when I could have been investing my time into my dreams! So let’s try a little exercise… Let’s replace the word justification with excuses. Let’s call out those excuses and see them for what they truly are – false glass ceilings – because that’s all they really are no matter what you might think.   “Human beings can do whatever we believe we can do.”   So look for the justifications/excuses in your life right now and write them down.   “If your thoughts are going toward your justifications and excuses, you’re actually living for them.”   So which is it for you? Are you living to keep your dreams alive or are you choosing to fan the flames that keep the fires of justification and excuses burning? Take a deep look and discover what you’re really living for. Hint: If your time is spent making excuses and justifying, you’re never going to give the power to your presence to be able to move forward into your dreams.   “Give the power to your presence.”   Your family, friends and the world need your gift right NOW. Of course there will always be a dose of fear that comes along with it, but embrace it knowing that it feels a whole lot better than never stepping into your full potential.   In This Episode You Will Learn: Why justifying and making excuses are holding you back from your dreams How to call out your excuses About the importance of breathing life into your dreams instead of your excuses   Resources: The Bliss Project 2018 Theblissproject.info   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

How many of you scroll through social media more often than you’d like to admit? Hand raised here! But check this out… My friend, Michael Zeller, just informed me the other day that when you’re distracted from a task, it takes 13 minutes for your mind to get back on track. So just think, if you’re sidetracked even four times a day, that’s a WHOLE hour of floundering trying to get back on track. This is why we must… “Get fierce with eliminating distractions.” These days our thoughts and social media are the winners when it comes to time-wasting. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think it’s always bad to spend time on social media, but it is when all you’re doing is comparing or numbing out. For instance, are you really just checking in on Jane, or do you immediately start comparing her life to yours when you look at her pictures? If the latter sounds familiar, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone, and you CAN stop comparing yourself to others, But first, you have to beat the addiction to comparison (and the other common addictions such as judgment, blame and numbing out). Below is a chart of the common saboteurs and alternative practices you can implement to help rid yourself of those addictions and keep your happiness and productivity high! “You are NOT stuck with who you think you are right now. Don’t believe everything you think – it’s probably not even your through.” Recognize your honest truth (as hard and uncomfortable as that may be) and CHOOSE to see things differently and choose better thoughts. “Your life will manifest around the things you think the most.” In This Episode You Will Learn: How comparison, judgment, blame and numbing out are keeping you from doing what you want to do Tips to replace the above practices Why happiness is your TOP priority Resources: The Bliss Project Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am so excited to have my husband, Chris, on again! We’ve been asked a lot of questions such as: how do we work together day in and day out? How do we live our lives and what makes us happy? These conversations are so much fun for us and we love sharing the highs and lows of our lives so far. As you’ll soon realize, while we have our “dream” lives now, it didn’t start out that way. Let’s just say I didn’t even want to give Chris the time of day when we first met! We obviously worked things out there, but be sure to listen in as we share some of our other ups, downs and lesson-learning moments in our lives. This episode is jam-packed with information about the fundamentals of our success and happiness (and so much in between) and we hope you’re able to leave with some helpful takeaways. Please feel free to let us know what other questions you have for us! We look forward to continuing our conversation on another future episode. Happy listening! -- In This Episode We Talk about: • Where Chris and Lori started from and what their daily routine is • Working through times of unfulfillment • If there’s a right time to call your partner out when you know they have a larger calling they’re not doing anything about • How small decisions are HUGE in the long run • Why it’s so important to be open and connect with more people • How to deal with people who are cutting you down or holding you back • The definition of positive propaganda and why you need it to support your goals • The benefits of having a healthy habits routine • How Chris and Lori incorporate meditation and visualization into their daily lives • How to effectively communicate with your spouse or partner • Why it’s so important to find self-development activities that you enjoy • What to do if your spouse/partner isn’t into self-development • And so much more… Quotes: “Be more open and less attached than you are to the things you’re so attached to.” “Find positive propaganda to support where you want to go and to reinforce your beliefs.” “Even if it doesn’t feel like it, the timing is perfect.” “You will always find what you’re looking for.” “We are constantly chipping away at the things that will make us happy and productive in the long run – even when we don’t feel like it.” “Our routine-driven life has absolutely 10x’d all areas of our lives.” “I’m happier, healthier, wealthier and more fit than I was yesterday.” “By taking inventory of all the good stuff in my life, I’m dictating the thoughts that will dictate my day instead of letting my day dictate my thoughts.” “If you’re not doing self-development in a modality that you like, then you absolutely won’t do it.” “You set the pace for your relationship.” “You are responsible for your own happiness.” “Find joy in the journey.” “Find your happiness in the pursuit every day.” -- “Find your happiness in the pursuit every day.” -- Resources: Previous episodes with Chris: Ep. 93 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/93-six-steps-we-take-to-achieve-our-goals-my-husband/id1087926635?i=1000379426412&mt=2 Ep. 100 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/100-relationship-business-q-my-husband-chris-harder/id1087926635?i=1000380293825&mt=2 Ep. 128 – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/128-broke-mindset-to-mulit-millionaire-mindset-chris/id1087926635?i=1000384953178&mt=2 For the Love of Money podcast with Chris Harder: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/for-love-money-podcast-business-philanthropy-entrepreneur/id1215523596?mt=2 FortheLoveofMoney.com IG: @chriswharder FB: facebook.com/chriswharder The Bliss Project Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Ecker Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

In light of the devastation that’s happening in Texas right now with Hurricane Harvey, I wanted to help in the best way I know how – and that’s through the reach of my amazing communities. As some of you may know, I’ve launched my FREE 14-Day Challenge (starts Sept. 5) and I’ve decided to link it to a donation to the Disaster Relief Fun for Houston. Here’s how I would love for you to help… For every five people that sign up for the challenge, we will donate $1 – up to $20,000. To put this in perspective, our dream number to equal that would be 100,000. The added bonus, you GET TO move your bodies for yourself – and for a cause. There’s nothing like getting a big dose of perspective when you realize that there are thousands and thousands of people right now who CAN’T go for a walk or play with their kids outside right now. We all have days where we don’t want to work out, but when you realize just how blessed we are to move our bodies, it definitely reframes it. And it’s not just fitness, it’s everything in life. “We make time for the things that mean the most to us.” Whether it’s working out, having coffee with a friend or doing extra work, take ownership of your thoughts and actions. Sometimes it’s a matter of getting really honest with yourself and switching the phrase, “I get to…” becomes “I have to…” Or instead of “I can’t…”, reframe it to “I won’t.” Pretty powerful, huh? “The beautiful and harsh truths free us.” Once you can acknowledge this, reframe and forgive yourself. “Don’t beat yourself up for the things you enjoyed.” Catch yourself, reframe, forgive and love yourself. Again, I would love if you would go right now to loriharder.com/challenge to join my FREE 14-Day Challenge. Not only will you be working out for YOU, but for thousands upon thousands of others who can’t right now. Thank you so much in advance for your help! In This Episode You Will Learn: How you can help the victims of Hurricane Harvey Why it’s important to reframe your thoughts How the truth frees us Resources: Free 14-Day Challenge Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Fear. Yes, it’s one of my favorite topics and I often feel like I should talk about it more because it’s seriously something that’s there every day. Heck, it’s with us is most moments, am I right? But it’s in these moments where some of our biggest breakthroughs are made. It’s that something that you know you need, but you’re scared as hell to do it.   “What you are afraid of is a clear indication of the things you need to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson   Personally, one of the biggest breakthroughs for me came with the fear I had after making a significant investment in a course with Jack Canfield. My soul was kicking and screaming, nudging, okay, shoving me, toward it. Every fear that could possibly come up did and I almost bailed on my flight…but I didn’t. I joined an amazing group of people, some who were far more successful than me and realized that they had some of the exact same fears as me. What?! It gave me the power to question,   “If I can do this, what else can I do?”   Fear is just there to remind us of where we need to go. It lets us know what we’re capable of. It shows us how strong we are. It’s always there in some way, shape or form.   “I have fear present in my life at all times – I just have a great relationship with it.”   Without fear, life just doesn’t feel quite as exciting. After all, how would we ever appreciate what it feels like to accomplish our dreams without it? Hint: pretty lame.   So today, do fear a favor and say, “Thank you, fear. I don’t know what my life would be like without you.”  In This Episode You Will Learn: Why we need fear in our lives How fear makes you aware of what you’re capable of and what direction to go About the importance of trying new things despite any resistance or fear around it  Resources: The Bliss Project For more information, visit TheBlissProject.info Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.