Earn Your Happy

Today’s guest, Hila Plitmann, is like me, a regular at SoulCycle. It’s no surprise that I noticed her energy right away as she was always smiling, singing or dancing. But when I heard her angelic voice, it stopped me in my tracks and I knew I had to meet her.   Hila connected with music at a very young age, landed her first opera role at age 14 and attended Julliard School of Music. Now a singer and actor, Hila is just as passionate about music now as she was years ago. And once you hear her sing (and our conversation), you’ll see the intention and light behind her.   I always love hearing about all of the various creative processes out there and I hope you’ll also enjoy hearing how Hila taps into the feelings of her body with each new project or song.   --      Question Highlights: What was it for you when you were younger that made you know that you had to follow this dream of singing, and what were the consequences if you didn’t experience or follow it? What would you say to someone who maybe doesn’t know how that creative expression can come about? How do you nurture that? When you go into creation mode, what are you thinking when you want to put something out in the world? Did you recognize your dream and create it? What happened after? What do you do now when you have a lot of extra creative energy? What new things are going on for you right now?   In This Episode We Talk about: How Hila and I connected at SoulCycle Not taking pain too seriously, but rather embracing it and inviting it in Walking and writing to process feelings Releasing self-judgment and criticism Tapping into the feelings of your body to create Hila’s non-structured structured life And so much more…   Quotes:   “It’s a state of timelessness when music and stories are in my life.”   “Relish and let yourself be in this amazing experience of life.”   -- A Grammy Award-Winning Singer, Songwriter and Actress, Hila Plitmann is a glittering jewel on the international music scene, known worldwide for her astonishing musicianship, light and beautiful voice and the ability to perform challenging new work. She has worked with many leading conductors, performing with the likes of the Los Angeles Philharmonic, the New York Philharmonic and the London Symphony Orchestra. Resources: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbO2w3Bb09vJ5phl_YZeThg FB: facebook.com/hila.plitmann.1 IG: @hilaplitmann http://www.Hilaplitmann.com Faith: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjifzAioUfI  Good Night Moon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yy8Amut53qw --   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m just getting back from my Bliss Project event weekend and honestly still recharging and processing all the magical things that happened. One of the topics we discussed at length was what happens before and after breakthroughs or graduating to the next level. In my experience as well as other Bliss beauties, I’ve found that when we’re on the verge of the next level of our lives, things start to go wrong. We doubt if we even have what it takes, things feel like they’re falling apart etc., and we want to give up. But if we stick to it and keep pushing through with full-time faith we’re rewarded. “Full-time faith will always bring us to a higher elevation of life.”   Personally, before each new level I’ve discovered that either something from the past comes back to haunt me or my faith is tested by multiple things going the exact opposite way of what I’d planned.   We all have “rocket ship” or “coast” moments – we’re either full throttle and feeling a little unsure and sick or breaking through to enjoy the coast that comes after.   I would love to tell you that you could go on coast mode your whole life, and things will be easy all the time, but I can’t. Again this is where full-time faith comes in. We must believe that everything, even the bad stuff, is happening for us and helping us get to that next level as soon as possible.    -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   What it means to uplevel and what it feels like Why challenges tend to come up right before a breakthrough Why we don’t get to choose when we have faith   Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/     Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m so honored to have author and fellow podcaster, Melissa Ambrosini, back on Earn Your Happy! A lot has changed since we last chatted and I was so happy to catch up and dish about her new book, Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships, and Soulful Sex.   Melissa believes that all of us are meant to have deep and fulfilling relationships with deep love however, often we’re unable to achieve them because we lack unconditional self-love for ourselves. Tune in to hear how you too can unlock your heart, be vulnerable and authentic – all while staying in your truth and within the healthy boundaries you set.   --      Question Highlights: What have you been up to since our last podcast? Did this book (Open Wide) come from not having fulfilling relationships? What happens when one partner is completely open and the other isn’t aware, but you want to share it with your partner? What are some things you can tell people after they get a vulnerability hangover? Do you have anything in your life now that feels like it needs completion? Do you have any favorite relationship lessons – one good, one bad? How do you discuss boundaries with people? What is something you want to let go of? What is something you really want people to know about the book?   In This Episode We Talk about: Melissa’s new book, Wide Open Mastering your relationships Unlocking your heart, being vulnerable and authentic How looking at the relationships that trigger may help you grow How vulnerability connects us Speaking your truth The relationships that Melissa is working on Practicing crystal clear communication Why you should ditch the words perfect and perfection Creating and getting clear on healthy boundaries in all areas of life Why we must love and accept ourselves to rock our relationships And so much more…   Quotes:   “I’m not here for surface-level interactions.”   “When you meet your soulmate there is nowhere to hide.”   “Where there is discomfort, there is always growth on the other side.”   “Relationships require love, energy and attention.”   “Everything we tell ourselves is a story.” -- Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide, host of the number one podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, a speaker and self-love teacher. In her signature straight-talking style, Melissa teaches women how to unlock their full potential, master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self-doubt so that they can start living the life of their dreams. Named a 'self-help guru' by Elle Magazine her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centered life one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love. Resources: Previous Earn Your Happy Episode with Melissa Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships, and Soulful Sex http://melissaambrosini.com/openwide IG: @melissaambrosini FB: facebook.com/MelissaAmbrosiniTribe --  Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  This past weekend, I spoke in front of 10,000 people at Grant Cardone’s 10X Growth Conference. And while it was one of the most amazing speaking experiences of my life, it came with a ton of doubt, lack of clarity and more nerves than I’d ever experienced.   During the weeks leading up to this event and planning my talk, I struggled to find clarity. I panicked. With several big things happening this past month, I was stuck in my own head and nothing else could come through.   “Being busy can be the biggest curse when you’re trying to be creative.”    At this point, doubt crept in and I began to wonder how the hell I even received this opportunity. I knew I was meant to be there and share a message, but I questioned if they had the right Lori Harder. So, I did what I knew I needed to do.   I reached out to my Earth angels and asked for their support and confirmation that yes, I could do this, and yes, I was meant to do this. It helped so much. My talk fell into place and it was off to Las Vegas for the conference.   However, the day before the event I felt waves of sheer terror. Dizzy at times and feeling like I was going to pass out, I told my husband, “I’m going down.” He quickly helped me reframe with questions such as, “What are you excited about? What are you grateful for?” It helped a little, but I still felt shaken. That is until I stepped onto the stage and saw all of the people. I was instantly grounded and realized that,   “No vision is given to us if it’s not for us. We must have faith in that.”   When I pictured all of my tribe who supported me, my faith kicked in and I felt calm. I felt a part of me I’d never felt. It was one of the most incredible talks.   So, the moral of the story? Have faith. Take risks – even when it scares the crap out of you.   “Stop thinking that a mediocre life is going to make you happy.”   Everything you want is on the other side of fear. It doesn’t always feel good, but it’s not supposed to. Lean into that uncertainty and know that for all the lows we experience, we often experience an abundance of highs.     -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   How Lori overcame her anxiety around speaking in front of 10,000 people Why we need full-time faith Why we need to lean into uncertainty   Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at http://loriharder.com/amazon Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Now that my book is available for pre-order, I am over the moon excited to talk a bit more about it and the journey it’s taken me on so far. First of all, I’ve always felt there was a book inside me waiting to be shared with the world, I just didn’t know when and I certainly didn’t know how it would happen.   It may come as shock to some that I’ve been working on this book for nearly four years now, but after many rejections, the publishing company that I wished for accepted my proposal and offered me the exact amount I had envisioned. The rejections were hard, but I only needed one yes, and I had faith that it would come.   “When we continue to choose faith, it’s going to show up in a completely different way thank you expect.”   But once my book proposal was accepted and we talked timelines, I did the unthinkable. I scrapped everything I’d written and started over. I knew so much more than what I initially wrote about and knew that this book was going to be a launch pad for a bigger movement. The book title, A Tribe Called Bliss, hit me like a lightning bolt on a plane ride home from a getaway with my husband. I knew, without a doubt, the message my book was meant to tell.   So here it is: we are not meant to do this all alone. We need to surround ourselves with a tribe that up-levels our lives, but also supports us and holds us accountable to our goals. But after many years of unknowingly searching for this tribe, I know it’s not an easy task. And that’s where this book comes in. I walk you through how to build your own tribe, step by step, and provide you with scripts and talking points to help you and your tribe reach your highest potential. There will be bumps along the way, but I’ve also included tips to help you remedy them.   It is my hope that you all grab a copy of this book and invite others to join you. I can only imagine the energy that will be pulsing through the universe when women do this together. I know firsthand that I would be lost without the support and encouragement I have in mine.   “It takes a tribe to build a tribe.”    -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   About Lori’s book-writing journey and how A Tribe Called Bliss came to be How A Tribe Called Bliss helps you build a tribe that up-levels your life What the Seven Sacred Agreement are   Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at http://loriharder.com/amazon Be sure to screenshot your pre-order and tag me along with three other tribe members who you want to join you for the chance to win a copy of the book (galley copy that’s not fully edited). I will announce the winner on InstaStories. Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  In a recent Instagram post, I shared how life was a lot like buying something from IKEA. You ask for something and you receive it, but it’s nothing like you expected. It comes in pieces, there are no directions and oh, your dog ate the instructions. So now you have to figure out how to make something out of this mess. It’s time to get resourceful.   Life is much the same. Every day you’re thrown a new obstacle – whether it’s relationships, love or business – that you must navigate through. You build the skills as you go – and more than likely crash and burn a couple of times – but you learn what works and what doesn’t. These challenges aren’t obstacles, they’re lessons and it’s our job to figure out what they are.   I’m right in the middle of a huge “IKEA delivery.” So many pieces, with zero direction and I don’t know which end is up. Can you relate? I’ve once again had to allow myself to be a beginner and create a new process as I go. It’s rocky, but I’ve learned that I can let myself to kick, scream and cry so long as I’m putting in the time and work. There’s a TON of lessons being learned and I know I will use them moving forward.   “Obstacles are here to serve me, not break me down.”   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why we must choose adversity before it chooses us How life delivers you exactly what you’re asking for Why we need to find the lessons among the obstacles   Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder --> Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Last week, I had the privilege of traveling to Guatemala as part of Pencils of Promise, an organization that’s committed to building sustainable schools. And wow, what a life-shifting and world-changing trip. I thought I was already rooted in gratitude, but this trip really grounded me and made me even more grateful for everything.   Pure transparency, this trip didn’t come at an ideal time with my crazy schedule. But it actually turned out to be THE perfect time for me to get a major (and much-needed) perspective shift and reframe.   Upon returning, I found myself grateful for the sidewalk, clean water, my bed, but especially my cup of coffee – you name it! In the village where we stayed, they literally grow their own coffee beans, pick them, roast them and then brew their cup. This particular village has only had electricity for five years and most have homes with dirt floors. How often do we all tend to take these things for granted? Some of the things we worry about are so small when you look at other parts of the world. My advice:   “Choose what you’re going to hold tight near and dear to your heart. And choose what you’re going to let go of.”   There is so much that doesn’t matter. Choose to focus on the people you love and get more love out into the world. Focus on giving back, spreading your message and doing what you love so you can make YOUR impact on the world.   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why it’s so powerful to find beauty in the simple things Why we must share our message with love How perspective and gratitude change everything   Resources:   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ to catch the first look at my book cover and hear which cities I’m planning to visit during my book tour! Pencils of Promise https://pencilsofpromise.org/ Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

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As I’ve shared in recent episodes, my plate is currently full ­­– the fullest it’s ever been with the most beautiful, epic things. But here’s the flip side, I still get anxiety around it all and feel overwhelmed. With that in mind, it’s imperative that I find the peace in between the moments of chaos.   Thankfully my husband shared three life-shifting questions from Tim Ferriss with me to help shift my perspective when I feel chaos creeping in. I cannot believe what a game-changer they’ve been in the past week. These questions are to be asked whenever you’re presented with a task that you’re either dreading, nervous about or just plain unsure of how you feel about it. Are you ready? The three questions are:   What would this look like if it were fun? What would this look like if it were easy? What would this look like if it were graceful?   These are the questions asked by those who want to live an epic life. Just the other day, these questions helped me show up for a call as my authentic self. I didn’t pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I approached it with zero expectations and made an authentic connection and the call ended with a surprising (incredible!) outcome. When you incorporate these questions into your life, you’re also inviting in more ease, forgiveness and power to let go of the things that aren’t serving you.   Feel like giving it a whirl? Try asking these questions for a day and let me know how it works for you by sharing under my post. It’s so exciting to share the tools I’ve used and I love to hear how they’re helping you, too!   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   The three questions that can help you live an epic life Why it’s important to make and have authentic connections What it means to find sustainability   Resources:   Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  My guest, health nutritionist and author, Kelly LeVeque and I have been circling each other for quite a while, which makes me so ecstatic that we were finally able to connect. With an early interest in health (it was her favorite class in high school), she went to college and after worked eight years in the cancer and genetics field. During this time, however, Kelly still felt pulled to help others with their nutrition and did so as she was able. It wasn’t until a friend finally told her “enough already,” that she went back to college for nutritional coaching and has been seeing clients full time since 2015.   Kelly truly loves the science behind nutrition and uses the power of it to motivate her clients and elevate their nutrition choices. She admits that she doesn’t believe in eliminating food groups, but does stress the importance of finding the right balance for YOUR body (hint blood sugar plays a big role). We talk about several aspects of this philosophy and you can find even more of them in her new book, Body Love. I related with so much of this conversation and suspect that you will too, so be prepared for your brain to grow a little.     --      Question Highlights: Is there any exercise you do to help yourself get really clear on what you need? When a client has the same issue repeatedly is there something you always look at or are there multiple tests? For people who are stuck, where do you begin? How do you balance the points between sticking to it and sabotage? What are some of the main side effects that you see? Have you ever been addicted to caffeine? What is the biggest myth you’ve run into when looking at intake forms? Do you ever see where you can find joy in experiences versus food? What do you do when you’re seeking comfort? What have you learned about yourself because of eating cleaner?   In This Episode We Talk about: Bio-individuality and Kelly’s pillars of nutritional needs Learning to love yourself at your fit weight Intuitive eating How Kelly uses science to motivate clients The importance and effects of insulin and cortisol Side effects of different foods How science can set you free with your diet Avoiding the drastic “pendulum swings” and finding balance Setting attainable goals What Kelly does to decompress Making healthier replacement comfort foods Taking charge of your health and understanding it How a glucometer works And so much more…   Quotes:   “You have to be willing to change.”   “If you’re balanced and satisfied, you know what you can and can’t do.”   “Little changes become habits.”   “Make it a choice, not a cheat.”   “Blood sugar is an indicator of what’s to come.”   -- Kelly LeVeque is a celebrity nutritionist, wellness expert, and best selling author based in Los Angeles, California. Before starting her consulting business, Be Well By Kelly, she worked in the medical field for Fortune 500 companies like J&J, Stryker, and Hologic, eventually moving into personalized medicine, offering tumor gene mapping and molecular subtyping to oncologists. She received her bachelor’s degree from the University of Southern California and completed her postgraduate clinical education at UCLA and UC Berkeley. Kelly’s client list includes Jessica Alba, Chelsea Handler, Kate Walsh and Emmy Rossum. Guided by a practical and always optimistic approach, Kelly helps clients improve their health, achieve their goals and develop sustainable habits to live a healthy and balanced life.  She lives in Los Angeles with her husband. Resources: Body Love by Kelly LeVeque  http://bewellbykelly.com IG: @bewellbykelly FB: www.facebook.com/BeWellByKelly --   Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.