Earn Your Happy

Growth doesn’t feel good all the time. I’ve mentioned this before, but over the past couple months it’s been proven even more as I’ve noticed that my career and life are at totally new and different levels. Don’t get me wrong, this all feels amazing…but it’s ALL new things and quite honestly, it’s a bit overwhelming and scary. There is so much that I don’t know about where I’m at and I’ve come to the realization that I need to be OK with that.   “Allow yourself to be where you’re at. Allow yourself to be a beginner.”   This mucky, but glorious spot means more growth is on the horizon. Nothing is ever as it seems and there is always a period of adjustment. Welcome it and enjoy the ride. All those moments that feel awkward and clunky as hell? Embrace them.   “Find the lesson in the resistance.”   Sure, we could stay at the same level year after year, but deep down your spirit doesn’t want that. It craves growth and your life has unlimited levels to achieve. I mean could you imagine staying at the exact same level for the rest of your life? Me neither.   Don’t forget, this isn’t a race. Even if it feels like you’re not moving, or you feel too busy or things are coming and going in your life – be grateful for all of it. Everything is happening for you and you will not miss what was meant for you. Every moment has a purpose, whether it’s to clear space, slow you down or take you to the next level.   Root yourself in the present moment, shift your perspective and find the lesson in it. Believe that everything that is for you will find its way to you – and it will. -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   That growth doesn’t feel good all the time Why it’s OK to feel like a beginner again Why we need resistance for growth   Resources:   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  This past weekend, I attended an event for the network marking company I’m affiliated with it and it was incredible! Every year around this time I always reflect and am so grateful for the relationships it has brought into my life. I honestly never thought I would be part of this type of company (it took a long time and ton of fear), but despite the nay-sayers and my own initial reservations, I haven’t regretted it for a second.   So if you’re feeling fear around something and/or a pull on your soul, go for it and ignore all the background noise within and outside – I’m living proof. Trust me, after creating a podcast, network marketing and writing a book, I’ve come to trust my soul to guide me in the right direction. But in order to do so, I have to consistently keep chipping away day by day at my goals.   “Consistency trumps everything.”   If you keep showing up and learning, you will go exactly where the message on your soul means for you to go. And this often times means ignoring the protective voices in your head and of others. Ditch the stories that swirl around in your head and choose the thoughts that align with your message. And yes, we ALL have a message (that means you!).   “If you have a pulse, you have a message.”   Your message is as unique as you are, so if you haven’t pinned down exactly what it is, don’t worry, you just need to listen more closely and give it a bit more time. Even if you think that pull is something far too simple… stop and listen. Does it bring you fulfillment or happiness? Ding, ding – you’ve got a winner, and now you must protect it.   Full honesty? It takes a ton of bravery to create boundaries and protect your goals and message. After all, your goals are linked to your happiness. But let’s not forget faith. It is imperative that you have faith throughout the winding process of life.   “Faith is trusting that you’re forgiven in the face of no closure.”   What do I mean by this? Lately, I’ve had to say no to a lot of people who I’ve wanted to say yes to. I’m a people pleaser (old habits die hard), but I work on it every day. Sometimes when I say no or have to leave a conversation abruptly, I feel such guilt and fear that someone will be upset with me. The reality though is that they likely didn’t even notice. And if they did, they either understand or will forget it in a matter of minutes.   “Create boundaries around the things that are leaking your energy.”   Stop leaking your energy by carrying guilt for something that doesn’t exist! Give yourself the gift of closure – forgive and move on. I’m not saying that you won’t have your challenges along the way, but preserve your energy to fulfill your goals/message.   “Big, bold steps take energy and bravery.”   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why we need to create boundaries to protect our goals and message The importance of whole-heartedly having faith and forgiveness How you can gain energy back by getting closure  Resources:   Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I don’t know about you, but I love the natural reset that occurs with a new year. It’s a way to reset our intentions and make sure our time and energy are in alignment with our goals. But often times, this extra time and energy never come around because we’ve already taken up the “extra” with anxiety and stressful thoughts that don’t serve us.   So today we’re talking about how we can get more time, energy and willpower. And the simplest (but not necessarily the easiest way) is to clear your mental space.   “Fuel the potential and focus on the possibility.”   This means no focusing on what could go wrong and only focusing on all the amazing things that could go right. Become aware of overwhelming thoughts. And when you feel those thoughts sneaking in redirect them to something positive. What would help you right in that moment? What do you need? A walk outside? A fresh cup of coffee? A talk with a friend? Making a to-do list? Whatever it is, do that. Seriously, find THE smallest thing that helps you feel better.   Next, close the loops! You know all those small, trivial things that happen day after day – let them go! For instance, you’re driving and someone cuts you off. You’re mad, and what could be a quick blip of annoyance turns into 20 minutes of fuming over a person who hasn’t thought twice about it. You just used up 20 minutes of your mental energy – and it didn’t help you (or that person) at all. Use your energy wisely. Use your thoughts to fuel your dreams, and get more drive and willpower. Don’t waste your mental space on a bad driver or something equally as simple.   Now I’m not saying that you can’t ever get mad – it happens! But we must remember to shift out of those low-level (draining) thoughts as quickly as possible. Think of low-level thoughts as energetic sandbags. For each low-level thought, add a sandbag and carry it around. Another low-level thought? Add another… Imagine if we never ditched these energetic sandbags, how weighed down we’d feel.   We need to close the open loops that are draining our mental batteries by forgiving and getting rid of any indecision in the process. Once you do, you’ll replace any pain, indecision, guilt or shame with more peace, ease, space and power in your mind. And I don’t know about you, but that’s my favorite space to be in.   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why the new year is such a great time for a reset How to create more time, energy and space in your brain What it means to close open loops And much more   Resources:   Check out my website at http://www.loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Don’t be shocked when you hear a male voice as the podcast begins – it’s just my husband Chris, who’s back for another dual podcast! Both of us have been lit over here since ringing in the New Year and we wanted to share some of our thoughts out loud regarding some of the things we’ve been working on going into 2018 (hint: new eCourse coming in the next couple months).   First and foremost, we’ve both done a lot of reassessing and have gotten really clear and laser-focused on what we want to see and do this year – individually and as a couple – both in business and in play. Find out what we’re working to get rid of and what we’re working to align ourselves with more – some things may surprise you! We’re putting it all about there in this super candid conversation – you don’t want to miss it!   --      Questions Asked in This Episode: What was something you loved that we did on New Year’s Eve? What is something you do to get clear on your goals/intentions? What are your mindset blocks? What is one of the rituals that you’re committed to? What are your favorite ways to find tribe? How do you find the energy to keep up with your habits/rituals and how do you stay in the energy to keep doing it? Why should people be unapologetic about their pursuit of wealth and success?   In This Episode We Talk about: Our rituals, how we set goals and how we figure out what the next step will be Getting clear Finding and following the things that light you up Releasing judgment Aligning beliefs with intentions Preventing negative thoughts from taking root and nurturing positive thoughts Chris and Lori’s rituals The importance of boundaries to avoid resentment Finding a tribe that helps you think bigger or reinforce positive thoughts Making tiny adjustments one at a time in order to tackle bigger challenges Why play is such a big deal And so much more…   Quotes:   “Clarity is power.”   “It’s simple, but it’s not easy.”   “Focus on the impact you’re going to make. Anything else robs you of your happiness and the world of your gifts.”   “We don’t find our voice in the easy times.”   “Create tribe for transition.”   “Elevate yourself through the things you enjoy most, which in turn then elevates other people.”   “If it brings you happiness and joy – follow it.”   “Choose possibilities and expansion over fear.”   “Make choices, not excuses.”   “Your version of happy is just that.” -- Resources: Website: http://www.fortheloveofmoney.com/mastermind IG: @chriswharder  http://www.Blissproject.info -- Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Can you believe it? This is my last official quickie of 2017! What a ride 2017 was. And before I get into things here, and no matter what happened, I want you to acknowledge everything that happened – good and bad – and how it’s helped you learn.   Try to reframe the word failure, because it’s not always about winning or failing, it’s about learning or… learning. Yes! Can you we agree to take the word failure out of our vocabulary? As Nelson Mandela once said, “I don’t lose. I either win or learn.”   We need the contrast to help guide us where to go next. Personally, there we several things that I hoped to accomplish or have a different outcome within 2017, but it just made me realize that those dips and darkness were needed to amplify all the good things.   “The failures just tell you what to do next.”   And it was often the opposite of what I thought. Whether you lost a business, a friendship or a relationship, you learned. We are always learning and all the things we learn only help us live in our purpose. But here’s the thing, in order to realize all this, we need to find the courage to go against the grain. We need to say no. We need to do things that challenge what others say is the right thing to do.   You don’t need new goals; you just need to have the courage to say no to things that aren’t elevating your life. And trust me, it’s not going to be easy, but when you really dig deep and think outside the box, you can say truthfully that you lived a life that fully made you expand into the human you were meant to be.   “Step into your courage and into your truth.”   Wishing you abundance and bravery in 2018 – I cannot wait to see you rock your life!   -- In This Episode You Will Learn:   Why failures are part of our success How deeper courage won’t show up until you call upon it Why you don’t necessarily need new goals to live in your highest purpose   Resources:   2018 For the Love of Money Mastermind http://fortheloveofmoney.com/mastermind   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Photographer, jewelry maker and my guest today, Liana Louzon and I go way back (more than a decade) to my fitness competition days. It’s safe to say that a lot has changed, but one thing that hasn’t changed is the positive, driven and encouraging vibe that she gives off just by speaking with her. Originally from Russia, Liana made her way to Canada at the age of 14 and shares her journey of assimilating and learning a new language. While there were times of struggle, Liana learned to tap into her intuition and has since used that very skill to forge ahead in her creative businesses – namely her jewelry company, Rocking Vibe. If you’re a creative or longing to get MORE creative, be sure to listen in to hear how Liana taps into both her intuition, gets in her “zone,” and as a result creates a springboard for creativity.   --      Questions Asked in This Episode: When you came to Canada and didn’t know the language, what was that like? When did your interest in fitness begin? Where does your immediate response to not only follow your passion but to think big with it come from? What does it feel like when you’re not creating and sharing? When you’re so busy between your business and being a mom, how do you turn the creative light switch on? How do you put your flare on your creativity? What are some things that you’re doing right now that contradict each other, but you love it? Could you share some ways that can help others step into their power? Do you have any anything in your life that you’re struggling with or working through? What are you creating right now with Rocking Vibe and what direction do you want it to go?   In This Episode We Talk about: Liana’s creative journey How non-verbal communication helped Liana What drove Liana to become a photographer How Liana’s desire and passion overrode the fear The importance of becoming intuitive with yourself Liana’s struggle with asking for help Liana’s formula that helps keep that creative switch turned on How Liana gets into the creative zone The challenge of balancing parenting and creativity The value of people watching How crystals can keep you grounded and connected to the material world And so much more…   Quotes:   “Fear means progress is on the rise.”   “Fear is exciting. Show up, trust and choose bravery.”   “Even when I didn’t believe, I knew what I wanted.”   “Knowing your weaknesses is just as important as knowing your strengths.”   “Be intuitive with who you are.”   “Allow yourself to evolve.” -- Born and raised in Moscow, Russia, Liana immigrated to Canada at the age of 14. While learning English as a second language, Liana found that artistry (including her passion for photography as well as jewelry making and beading) helped her feel grounded and became a way of expressing herself as she faced the challenges of life in a new country. As her life evolved, Liana became a mother which ignited her desire to use her passion to contribute to a better future. In the summer of 2014, the idea of Rocking Vibe glimmered in her heart, and it wasn’t long before that spark became a fierce fire and Rocking Vibe was created. Resources: http://Rockingvibe.com FB: facebook.com/rockingvibe IG: @rockingvibe -- Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  With the New Year a week away, goals and resolutions are at the forefront of everyone’s mind. And while this is a super exciting time of year, it can also be super overwhelming, too. Especially if you don’t feel you were successful with the previous year’s goals. So here’s what I suggest this year (and every year for that matter): Focus on RIGHT NOW, and you’ll figure out the HOW later. “It’s now about the how, it’s about knowing what you desire.” Get clear on one or two goals and make sure they’re in alignment with your desires. Nothing is set in stone so let your feelings guide you. If you’re having trouble getting clear, try sitting for five minutes or more in the morning (or whenever you have the time) and ask yourself, “What would bring me the most joy?” Additionally, “How can I serve others and still bring myself joy?” Sometimes it’s a matter of reframing and refocusing on things that already exist in your life. For me this past year, it was my online Body + Soul Program. I knew I wanted to attract more people into my tribe, but the more I focused on those that I didn’t have, the more lack I felt. So I reframed and focused on the people who I already had. “I manifested more of what I wanted because I was grateful for what I already had.” Focus on what you want. Focus on the those “pop” or “soul hit” moments that make you feel alive while also fulfilling your purpose. Pay attention and let those moments continue to pull you – even if your ego pushes back. There will be resistance, but you can always refocus, reframe and get back in alignment with your true desires. -- In This Episode You Will Learn: Why it’s important to gain clarity on 1 or 2 goals Why you don’t need to focus on the HOW when it comes to your goals Why we must pay attention to our “soul hits”  Resources: Check out my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  There are so many interesting things to know about today’s guest, Arielle Loren, I don’t even know where to begin! A former sex columnist and founder of an erotic magazine, this now marketing agency owner encourages all female entrepreneurs to empower themselves and do all the things that bring them pleasure.   Be sure to listen in as we talk about tapping into this power and how keeping honest and authentic lines of communication open with others and ourselves can help lead you to your ultimate happiness.     --      Questions Asked in This Episode: What are you doing now and how did you get there? Would you share with us what it means to you to be sexually empowered? Why are we so afraid of asking for the things that bring us pleasure? How do we set up and enforce boundaries and why do we need them so desperately? Where do you have to go in order to push yourself through the scary parts? What do you do to self-soothe yourself and give yourself permission to change? What do you do when someone’s business is not working and they think it’s someone else’s fault? Do you ever struggle with overachieving or perfectionism and what does that look like if you do? When you take on too much, what does that look like?   In This Episode We Talk about: Arielle’s intriguing career journey so far Infusing pleasure into your life with even the simple things How mastering your sensuality/sexuality allows you to show up bigger in the rest of your life Why we need to clearly communicate and set boundaries up front Why it’s so important for entrepreneurs to focus on their own personal development Giving yourself space and letting your feelings settle when problems arise How Arielle’s “Driven” events each have an organic and unique approach Finding balance and simplicity The benefits of taking “me time” and rest The importance of being authentic and honest And so much more…   Quotes:   “The more in touch I am with my body the more open I’m able to be.”   “There’s no way to lose something that was meant for you.”   “Give yourself permission to change.”   “The more honest you are, the happier you will be.” -- Arielle Loren is a top business strategist, trained at Harvard University, where she received both a master’s degree in Management and a graduate certificate in Strategic Management. She also holds a graduate certificate in International  Business Management from Georgetown University, and a bachelor’s degree in Social and Cultural Analysis and a certificate in Producing from New York University. As the CEO of the Arielle Loren Agency, she and her team manage dozens of companies on behalf of her clients and build out high ROI marketing campaigns. Our work has been featured in FastCompany, TechCrunch, Huffington Post, SXSW, and NPR. We specialize in digital marketing, business operations, business development, profit planning, and variety of strategies that bring more ease to founders and entrepreneurs.   Resources: http://www.arielleloren.com http://www.drivenworkshop.com Money Magic Retreat – February 2018, Maui http://www.MoneyMagicRetreat.com IG: @arielleloren  Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

The other day I was talking with a friend about my recent trip to Nosara, Costa Rica. And one of the things we were talking about was their relationship with Mother Earth. The people there are so conscious of what they are putting out and also regulate what others bring in and take out. For example, there are very few garbage cans and even throwing away a gum wrapper was a challenge.   While this did get frustrating, I love that it forced me to be more aware of my surroundings and what trash I was carrying around or just throwing away for someone else to deal with. And as my friend and I continued to talk, we also realized that this concept ran parallel with us as humans, too.   What trash are you carrying around? Are you disposing of it in a healthy way? Are you sick of carrying it around? When you hear gossip, are you throwing it on someone else? Or are you up-cycling it into something better?   We must be more conscious of what we’re putting out into the Earth – both literally and figuratively – because we live in a cause and effect world. Our actions affect other people and things.   “Our physical surroundings affect our spiritual state.”   What is one small thing you could decide not to pick up or dispose of in a healthy way? I challenge you to find one thing and approach it with intention and see how you feel. And please share with me what you discover.   --  In This Episode You Will Learn:   How aware Costa Ricans are of Mother Earth About the parallels between the physical and spiritual world when it comes to collecting trash Why we must be more conscious of what we’re carrying, what we’re putting out and what we’re throwing away.   Resources:   Checkout my website at http://loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  New Year’s is just around the corner and I know that several of you are already working on your resolutions. Or maybe you’re a goal-getter all year round – and I applaud that! However, are you just interested in your goals or are you committed? Let’s talk about the differences between the two…   Now when I say committed, I mean committed. When you’re just interested, it may feel like your committed, but in the back of your mind you’re always looking for a way out. You haven’t set a date, you’re not risking anything or putting anything on the line. You’ve still got the opportunity to get out at any time. When you’re committed – you’re all in.   “A commitment is a one million percent YES.”   Here’s how the language around it changes. When you’re interested, it’s “Someday I will…, or “I would do x-y-z, but…” You’re always seeking out excuses why you can’t without realizing it. However, when you’re committed, you use phrases like, “I will…,” I am…” When obstacles arise, you offer no excuses and instead seek out solutions because you know that these will help someone in some way down the road.   “Solutions are the blessings you teach.”   Committed people surround themselves with people who don’t tolerate excuses, whereas those who are interested tend to find themselves with those who support those excuses. Weekends are a numbing time-out away from your goals. Those who are committed look for what they need in order to stay committed. Again, there is no way out.   “When you’re just interested, you always leave the window cracked open – there’s always a way out. When you’re committed, there is no way out, just through.”   And before I go, I just want to share one more difference and it’s in regard to worrying about what others think. You can likely guess this, but when people are just interested, they DO care what others think. When you’re committed, the only thing you’re worried about is not fulfilling your potential. Your worries feel purposeful because it’s not just about you.   If you’re feeling more on the interested side and want to get more committed, I encourage you to   “Take action from your future self who is committed.”   Keep that momentum going and please share with me what committed actions you’re taking today – I would love to hear from you!   In This Episode You Will Learn:   What the differences are between interested and committed How our obstacles help us teach and help others How the time spent on weekends makes a difference   Resources:   Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.