Earn Your Happy

My husband, Chris, and I were talking the other day and we thought it would be fun to share a short excerpt of A Tribe Called Bliss in the weeks leading up to the release date. So today I’m going to share a part from the beginning of the book, called “Tribal Fail,” which talks about what it looked like when I started to build my tribe.   You’ll discover that finding your tribe at first is awkward as hell, but it’s invaluable once you’re able to break through the surface with other women and form deeper connections. Because here’s the thing… we ALL need a tribe. Seriously, it’s proven (more details on that in the book) that the most successful, healthy and happy people have a group of people who always support them and have their back. And this is exactly why I wrote A Tribe Called Bliss and encourage you to build your tribe and work through the book together.   Again, it’s not always a straight road to find these people, and if you’re not quite ready to dive in with others, I encourage you to read the book through alone first. It will definitely get you into the right frame of mind to start your tribe when you’re ready.   This is just another reason why I’m so excited about my upcoming book tour. I cannot wait to connect people to their tribes! You never know who you’ll meet and form a lifelong relationship with.   Thank you so much again for helping me get this book and my message out into the world. Hope to see you at a book tour stop near you!   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   How she started to build her tribe Why everyone needs a tribe Lori’s new book, A Tribe Called Bliss   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour. First stop: May 15 • Los Angeles at Wanderlust Hollywood A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon  Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/  Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  I’ll be honest…With my book releasing in a matter of weeks, it’s been really easy to become overwhelmed with all the tactical stuff and let my thoughts be led by fear. As a result, I’ve been literally praying for a reset. And, today wouldn’t you know, my prayers were answered.   I’ve had back-to-back podcasts scheduled this week and I was resisting my interview with Sarah Centrella… not because I didn’t want to talk with her, but because I had so many others things going on. I pushed through this resistance though and wow, am I glad I did. It was smack-dab in the middle of our conversation when I realized that this was the exact message and conversation about manifestation that I needed to help me reset and connect back to my why. It is always a mixture of work + magic, miracles, fear, leaning in etc.   So now I’m back on my path and fully committed to blazing trails for all those right now who need the support of like-minded women with the help of my book, A Tribe Called Bliss. We need to remember to always circle back to make sure we’re connected to our why, and if we’re not we must use the tools that will get us there.   “Support your soul and that will support everything in your life.”   Remember, you are not in this alone and when you’re struggling don’t forget to use your tools or reach out to someone who you know will help you reset your energy back into strength and love.   -- In This Episode We Talk about:   Women supporting women How Lori’s recent podcast helped her tap back into her why Lori’s new book, A Tribe Called Bliss   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour. First stop: May 15 • Los Angeles at Wanderlust Hollywood   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m so happy to have the amazing Candice Kumai on the show today! A former model turned culinary chef and celebrity, she has now tapped back into who she truly feels called to be and that’s as a writer. Today, we’re talking about her new book, Kintsugi Wellness, and her journey and Japanese heritage that called her to write it.   Kintsugi is the beautiful Japanese practice of taking a broken item and sealing or mending the cracks with golden repair. Candice uses this as an analogy in everyone’s life as she feels that our struggles or challenges are what make us more beautiful. We are all imperfect and she whole-heartedly hopes we all can see the goodness in our flaws and celebrate them in ourselves – and in others.   There are so many fascinating components to both Candice and her new book – particularly the deep dive into her heritage’s practices and philosophies – and I can’t wait to read it in its entirety. Be sure to pick up your copy, too and let me know what you think! --     Question Highlights: Can you tell me what Kintsugi means, where it came from and where it came up throughout your journey? Do you think it was important for you to go through your rough times? What means the most in the world to you right now? What are some of the most exciting things you’ve learned in your research? What do you think were the core Japanese practices that shaped you? What’s something wise you’ve heard lately? What is resonating for people in your book? How do you incorporate mindfulness into the food you make? What are you most excited about right now?   In This Episode We Talk about: What Kintsugi means and how Candice came to write her new book, Kintsugi Wellness The importance of connection and sharing our stories and pasts What Candice’s Japanese heritage means to her Wabi Sabi and what it means Letting go of expectations Accepting your imperfections and seeing the beauty in them Being unapologetically who you are Resilience Learning to let go And much more…  -- Candice Kumai is known as “the golden girl of the wellness world” (Elle Magazine) and one of the “top 20 new role models” (Arianna Huffington). She is a classically trained chef, wellness writer, and author of five books. She contributes to lifestyle outlets such as Cosmopolitan, Yoga Journal, Elle, Shape, Bob Appétit, Byrdie, Girlboss, and Well + Good (where she also sits on their Wellness Council). Candice is a former judge on Iron Chef America and Beat Bobby Flay, she is a regular contributor on Dr. Oz. and E! News. Resources: FB: facebook.com/candicekumai IG: @candicekumai Twitter: @candicekumai   Kintsugi Wellness by Candice Kumai -- Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  Today I’m talking about being a living, breathing, walking paradox. As we all grow and evolve, there’s likely been at least a handful of times where you’ve felt this way. You’ve thought you were on the right path, but suddenly something just doesn’t feel right to you. It’s like your favorite jacket. You wear it all the time, but suddenly you just don’t like it anymore. You need a change so you try a new jacket on for size.   “If you’re growing and evolving, change is a part of you.”   When resistance like this rears up, you have a choice – either keep resisting and take zero action for it, or lean in to discover what part of your authentic truth comes out. It is so freeing!   During this episode, I read a short excerpt from A Tribe Called Bliss, about my own paradoxical truths that I’ve discovered and allowed to free me. We are all multi-faceted people. We don’t need to be ONE thing. One of my paradox examples is being humble yet powerful and confident.   It feels super awkward at first and trust me, it took (and still takes) a lot of work to let these contradictions show though. But you’re only stifling your true authentic self. Share your opinions and in turn share your value with others.   What’s a paradox in your life that you can step into, own and celebrate? Even the smallest things count as big ones.   “Contradict your way to clarity.”   You will feel the most you you’ve ever felt and invite more amazing people into your life who are doing the same.   -- In This Episode We Talk about:   Why you should lean into resistance Being a walking paradox Lori’s paradoxical truths that have personally freed her     Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour. First stop: May 15 • Los Angeles at Wanderlust Hollywood   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m so thankful that I stumbled across life coach, Chris Lee, on Lewis Howes’ podcast awhile back and that I since have had the honor of talking to him in person and now on Earn Your Happy! With over 27 years of experience in the arena of mindfulness and emotional intelligence, I had a feeling our conversation would be epic – and I know you won’t be disappointed.   With a childhood spent in Puerto Rico as a Jewish American, Chris’ life was not picture perfect. He was bullied and made fun of for his religion but his strong mother helped him to realize that he was able to look beyond the current situation and see how he could support his own life and make the situation better. He thought that if he could make the best out of this situation, that he could also help teach other people to do the same.   What I love about Chris’ work is that he only teaches the tools that he has experience with (you can find those 10 principles in his book noted in Resources). Furthermore, he is admittedly still a work in progress and still uses these tools to keep him living his best, most fulfilling and authentic life. I know you’re going to identify so much with Chris and the stories he’s shared. And it’s my hope that it will help you step into your own super-star authentic self as well.   --      Question Highlights: Would you share what you’re doing now and what was the turning point that got you started? What were some of the things that brought you to what you’re doing now? What was the first level for you of opening up? What was the first thing you needed to move through and how did you see how the tools expanded into other areas? How do you move through issues of self-worth? How did you find your authentic sentence/self and how does someone else find theirs? Where do you borrow faith from, where does it come from and how do you get enough faith and courage to take the first big step and leap? How do you stay connected to your why? What’s making you feel the most abundant right now? What does fun feel like to you? And why is fun productive in your life? How do you tap into compassion without getting completely sucked in or drained?   In This Episode We Talk about: Chris’ childhood as a Jewish American in Puerto Rico The duality of light and dark within all of us Shifting mindset, focus and energy to attract more good Shifting actions to shift results Developing authentic affirmations Determining your why and staying connected to it The importance of having a group of supportive, like-minded friends How Chris creates and uses his vision board How Chris starts every day with meditation/prayers of gratitude Interpreting things in a way that empowers How Chris plans to bring his wisdom to people’s homes And much more…   Quotes:   “I don’t need to make it happen, I can attract it to happen.”   “The power within has the power to really move things in a way you never thought possible.”   “When I honor my purpose, I’m happier.”   “Create a bulletproof belief about yourself based on who you authentically are.”   “The why is the fuel.”   “True freedom is the ability to interpret.”   --   Chris Lee is a transformational facilitator, coach, and TV personality. For 27 years, Lee has traveled the world teaching and empowering people, including world business leaders and Hollywood celebrities, to live an extraordinary life. Resources: FB: facebook.com/chrisleemotivador.lee IG: @chrismotivador   Transform Your Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity http://a.co/gBzcAAK   --   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.  

Yes, you read this episode’s title correctly – I’m talking about meltdowns today. I’m owning the fact that I’ve had a few more than normal lately and I want you to know that you’re entitled to have them, too.   “Meltdowns are healthy – don’t resist them.”   Right now, as you’ve heard, I’ve got a lot of amazing things happening, but all of these things are pushing me right to the edge. It’s a lot like feeling like a pressure cooker. The stress builds and builds and I feel like I’m going to burst! And… sometimes I do and that’s OK!   As a matter of fact, after my magical Bliss Project event both my husband and I had meltdowns at the end of our short two-day recharge. After we had them though, we felt better. And it’s because we allowed ourselves to move through our emotions!   Here’s where the upgrade comes in… You can have a downward spiral, but find the good in it! Don’t let it get out of control to the point where all you’re looking for is the bad. Have the meltdown, but find some good in it by making sure to have a solution-based conversation after – either with a friend, family member or co-worker.   I’m not going to lie. Different seasons of your life are going to require EVERYTHING you’ve got and it’s going to feel like it’s never-ending. You’ll likely want to throw the towel in and fly to a remote island. But it won’t always be this way. I promise if you keep going, you will make it to the other side.   So, what will make you feel better or more in control in the present moment? Whatever it is, do that. Just make sure that you’re getting super intentional by creating the time and space to recharge. And of course, having that full-out ugly cry will certainly help every now and then, too! -- In This Episode We Talk about:   Why you’re entitled to have meltdowns Why meltdowns are healthy Getting intentional with your time and space  Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for order at loriharder.com/amazon Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Yay!  I am so excited for today's episode because we have my husband back on the podcast! To learn more about our newest ALIGNED program, visit BecomeAligned.com Enrollment CLOSES Wednesday!

Today I talk about being authentic as it’s one of the most important things you can follow throughout your lives. But for a lot of us, we find ourselves struggling to attract and connect with the people who we want to connect with. Personally, I discovered later on that it was because I wasn’t showing up fully as myself.   I didn’t want others to see that I was anything but “fine” because I didn’t want to be a burden. Instead, to receive much-needed validation, I constantly put myself in the role of fixer and peacekeeper. So in order to start showing my true self, I had to get vulnerable and share more of myself to others (something I still have to make an effort to do).   “If we don’t risk vulnerability and rejection, we will never actually have authentic connection.”   It won’t always go well, but when you take the risk, you leave yourself open to attract a tribe of people who will act as a safety net for you when you do face your fears. In my book, A Tribe Called Bliss, Be Authentic is one of 7 sacred agreements to creating relationships (I read an excerpt from the book during this episode).   Becoming authentic is actually following your joy and what lights you up. When we’re not following that it often has to do with the relationships we’re in. And sometimes we have to weed out the inauthentic relationships that are keeping us tied to the version of ourselves that we think we should show up as.   “You can’t be seen if you’re not showing up fully you.”   It’s time to get vulnerable and take risks and peel back all the layers of the real you. By doing this you’re able to attract your own tribe and attract all the people you’re meant to attract. Put simply:   “Stop trying to fit in and start trying to be more YOU.”   Imagine the incredibly powerful shift and movement we can all make with we join forces for good that cannot be stopped. I’m so excited to get this shift started on May 8!   -- In This Episode We Talk about:   What it means to be authentic Discovering and weeding out inauthenticity in your life Attracting who you are meant to attract How Lori’s A Tribe Called Bliss book works  Resources:   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m so thrilled to have my friend and fellow master-minder, Lindsay Sukornyk, back on the show! Not only is she a great coach, yoga instructor and mom, but she’s also one of the best conversationalists I know. When we talk there is never a bad conversation.   In this episode, we talk about stepping into fear and reframing it as an opportunity for growth and aliveness. Lindsay and I also discuss the impact nature has when it comes to helping you get into more of a flow state (her Alive + Awake retreats are perfect for this). Regardless, it’s about listening to the “whispers” that nudge you in the direction you’re meant to go. And generally those are the things that resonate with you and make you feel good. Don’t know about you, but I am all for more of that in my life!   I guarantee you’ll feel a little lighter after listening to the words of my unicorn friend and eager to elevate your life to the next level (perhaps in Costa Rica?). --      Question Highlights: How did you decide to move to Costa Rica and start doing retreats and other things? What makes you this insane warrior going straight for the fear and straight for the opposite of what’s logical? How do you allow yourself to lean in, have faith and get into the flow state at any time? Why are we so resistant to be ourselves? What is most exciting for you right now?   In This Episode We Talk about: How Lindsay left her elite career because she was unsatisfied and wanted to tap into her highest potential Yoga, mindfulness and spirituality Working remotely and how to make it work How Lindsay changed her perspective on fear and reframed it as an opportunity for growth and aliveness Triggering flow states by stepping into fear The effect nature has on transformation in all forms How Lindsay’s Alive + Awake retreats help others step into their highest potential Lindsay’s book-writing journey so far And much more…   Quotes:   “Listen to the whispers.”   “This way to the good stuff.”   “This whole journey for us has been one of leaping into the unknown and making it up as we go and then ultimately listening to the whispers of our souls, but also taking the actions required.”   “When we play and have fun, everything can go way faster and far more smoothly – especially when it comes to transformation.”   “Surrender to the magic that’s available when we let go of our plans and expectations.”   --   Lindsay is a unicorn trainer, transformational leadership expert, master coach, writer, wanderluster, and mama of four amazing kids. She is living the dream with her family in Costa Rica, France and Canada, where she guides elite leaders from around the world through transformational activation experiences in the surf town where she lives. She is completing her first novel and screenplay, “Path of the Unicorn.” A regular Huffington Post blogger and often featured as a speaker and expert in the media, she is a certified professional co-active coach (CPCC) with CTI and a RYT 500 certified yoga teacher. Lindsay has a B. Comm from Queen’s University, where she majored in strategy and organizational behavior. She began her career at A.T. Kearney, a top-tier global management consulting firm. In the elite transformational leadership coaching space for over 15 years, Lindsay has spoken to and coached founders and influencers at global events such as Afest, the Bliss Project, and leading organizations, including Accenture, and A.T. Kearney, Starbucks, Deloitte, P&G, Blackberry and Revlon. She has been cited as an expert media such as The Globe and Mail, The National Post and Canadian Business Magazine. Resources: FB: facebook.com/lsukornyk IG: @lindsaysukornyk   AliveAndAwake.com Next Founders and Influencers Retreat is Nov. 10-17 in Costa Rica Previous Earn Your Happy episode with Lindsay     --   Check out my website at http://www.loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  With so many projects happening right now, I’ve had to tap into a different part of myself – a part that requires me to lean into my faith and imperfection. You see for a long time I had a story around the amount of time I needed to create. What I’m finding now is that it was just that – a story.   In the past few months, I’ve learned to create (talks, programs etc.) in a much shorter amount of time. And scheduling wise, because I didn’t have a choice, I practiced massive amounts of faith to get it all done!   “Everything can be done in the amount of time that you have.”   The truth is that we use the amount of time we have – no matter how long that time period is. For example, I took the full 30 days to write my TedTalk – and tweaked right up until the end. I wanted my message to be perfect. But what I’ve found is that my audience doesn’t want to see perfection all the time. And just because I have the time, doesn’t mean I should use it all.   “When you over-prepare, over-perfect and over-tweak, you’re not leaving space for faith or trust.”   Where in your life are you over-perfecting or over-prepping? Now, don’t get me wrong, you should prepare, but you must leave space for your divine message to come through. Try tapping into what your audience wants to hear. Chances are if you have the fears, they do too. How can you use your experiences to help them overcome them? When you authentically share like this you are inviting yourself and others to up-level and live out your purpose.   After all, it isn’t about you – it’s about your audience and the message that you were meant to share. There is so much power in your imperfections – so let them shine through and have faith that others will relate to them as well.   “Focus on less perfection and prepping in order for your message to come through.”   -- In This Episode We Talk about:   Upleveling and learning to create in a shorter amount of time Why procrastination can be a gift The power of imperfection and authenticity to change lives   Resources:   Aligned Course Loriharder.com/aligned   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available for pre-order at loriharder.com/amazon   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/    Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.